Sexperience

I've always worried about the size of my labia since I became sexually active thanks to a thoughtless offhand comment from my first boyfriend. I doubt he even remembers, but I always think of it when I start a new relationship. It's just part of the general nervousness you feel about getting naked with anyone and you WILL get over it (or just not have sex forever which is not realistic!). Despite having inner lips which are quite dark and hang low, I've had a great sex life with various long-term partners over for over 15 years now. Yes, you will be anxious about how you look, but I guarantee that when you are carried away in the moment, the last thing either of you will be thinking about is how your labia look! I now realise it was my first boyfriend's lack of experience that made him mention it at all :-)”

I was with this guy for nearly 3 years and the sex was so bad. It never lasted longer than 2 minutes. It got me thinking are all men were this quick and it really put me off wanting to have sex with another guy as i had no pleasure from it. I kept thinking to myself this is going to get better but it never did. In the end we had a no sex relationship it was that bad i didn't see the point in doing it. I'm with a new guy now and the sex is great. most definitely longer than 2 minutes. Sex is not the same with every guy. I guess my first was just one of those guys.”

I'm 42 and have only had 3 sexual partners, two of whom have been my husbands, one I'm still with and plan to be with forever. The other was a holiday romance when i was 18. I respect myself and the guys i have been with have respected me for it.”

I have 'tried' to have sex about 6 times with my boyfriend of two years. The first couple of times i was completely ready, i still am and we really want to share losing our virginity with each other. However it hurt so much my eyes were watering and i had to stop. The pain was unbearable. Every time since this it has hurt just as much. We have tried everything possible. I really love him and just don't know what to do anymore.”

I'm 22 and have had 2 sexual partners, one as part of a 10 month long relationship and one as part of my current 2 year long relationship. Sometimes I think I'd kind of like to experience a few more... but I love my boyfriend to bits.”

I have tried all sorts of masturbation, but have found that the only way I can orgasm is by wrapping my legs around each other and tightening and loosing my muscles rapidly. I was recently fingered for the first time, and it was very embarrassing as nothing really happened. I have never heard of anyone orgasming like this, and wondered if I could do anything to be more normal?”

I had my first orgasm when i was 18, its a very weird feeling it was through the clitoris. At first i was wondering what the hell was going on, but then i relaxed and let my body take over. For about a minute it felt like it had stopped all together, then the feeling soon came back and i had my orgasm. Anyone who has not had an orgasm by rubbing the clitoris try it, just relax and keep rubbing you will get there and you will know when you have done :)”

I have tried everything to have an orgasm or even any kind of enjoyable feeling through having sex with my boyfriend, but i get nothing from it. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and love him so much, I have had 1 other previous sexual partner who also failed to give me an orgasm. I really try and get my mindset and get into the mood, but end up wanting it over quickly from boredom. I'm worried that this is really upsetting my boyfriend. I've tried exploring my own body but i cant get into it at all. I do feel a sensation during foreplay but not sure if that is actually hurting or is just uncomfortable so I end up thinking too much during and getting very sore and swollen. When i think about it too much i start feeling grossed out by it all and just want it over quickly. Please help me as its really getting me down.”

Sex was amazing for me during my first and second pregnancies but during my third I totally hated being touched in any way! I suppose its different for every pregnancy!”

Don't be worried or scared about your first time most people get like that I know I did, when I had sex for the first time I told my boyfriend all about it and he made me relaxed and told me not to be scared, nobody expects you to be great at something you have never done before, just make sure its with someone who loves you and care about you and the main thing trust! Nothing is ever as bad as it seems.”