Sexperience

I was 15 when I had sex with a guy who was 5 years older. Im afraid I did feel pressurized to do it and did feel terrible for a while after. Now it has just become part of my past and I have learnt from it. The important thing to remember is that you should never be ashamed or feel dirty because of this and if you feel unhappy, you should talk to someone. Your parents were in the same situation at one time or another so just talk. I regret not speaking out and now I feel if I had talked to someone about the way it felt and the way I felt, I would have been happier. Talk!”

I'm 23 and have slept with 23 girls. I lost my virginity when I was 16 to my first girlfriend who I was falling for at the time. When I turned 19 I had still only slept with one girl. I moved away for uni and I have had a mixture of serious girlfriends and sex buddies but never a one night stand. I've never wanted one because people say they leave you feeling really empty and used.
My number is probably a little on the high side to some people but a lot of my friends who are younger than me have slept with more.
I'm always safe but sometimes things go wrong and when they do I always get tested. You can't be too careful. ”

I'm 17 and have been with 12 men. I'm not at all proud of it but the majority of them were when I went through a bad patch when I found out my mum had cancer. I'm now with a long-term relationship and couldn't be happier, although I was reluctant to tell him of my experience when we first started seeing each other, I eventually told him when it came up in conversation and although at first it was a shock he thought I was silly for not saying anything.”

I just want to tell my experience of losing my virginity. I lost it at 19 to my boyfriend of 3 months and I really think it was the best way to do it. I'm not a naive romantic who was waiting to be 'in love', I had many opportunities to lose it to a random guy, who probably only wanted sex. But having sex with someone that really cares about you, made it such a pleasant experience. Make sure you trust them and then you won't have horrible regrets. We're still together now and have an amazing sex life. I think that good sex is all about being open and learning each others bodies - without that then you're probably not ready to have sex. It can be embarrassing and really is an intimate experience. So my advice is just to wait until you trust and feel comfortable with someone xx”

I'm 19 and I have very large, and quite saggy inner lips, and I have refrained from ever having sex because I absolutely hate the way they look. I know what I normal vagina looks like, and no it's not from watching porn, I live in a family full of girls and mine is the only one that looks like this. I don't particularily want to get surgery because that's way too expensive, but is there any way I can make them smaller? I know everyone keeps saying don't worry about it and stuff but I really can't help it. My mind is set. I want a change. Help?”

I'm almost 20, still a virgin in the traditional way, and quite jealous to all my friends who have already had an intercourse. Yet, I don't really feel ready for it, and don't regret not having jumped at the first chance. It's a funny combination of emotions. I guess some part of me wants to wait for "the right one", while another part of me is quite convinced I'm asexual because I don't really feel it's necessary for me to be happy. Either way, the time will come, and I don't feel pressured to do it, which is good.”

I'm 42/M and I've been with 32 women. That may sound on the high side, but take into account that I didn't marry until I was 41. I presume that this skews the result somewhat, as most my age would've married sooner and taken themselves off the market (reducing the total they might've been with if they had remained single). All things considered, this averages out at just over one per year since I became sexually active, so it's not outrageous...

What MAY be outrageous is that I slept with 10 of them in a single year, after a failed relationship. I was feeling bad for myself and just went a little crazy for a while, and while fun it didn't make me feel a whole lot better.

As for STD's I wasn't always careful but managed to stay clean right up until the last woman I was with before I met my wife. Now the HPV has latched onto us both and I definitely regret THAT... At least it's something relatively benign and not one of the biggies like gonorrhea, syphilis or worse.”

As an older man this problem developed for me later in life. It had a big effect on my sex life as it was very painful and I even blamed my partner for the discomfort!. I looked up the symptoms on the internet, realised it was common and quite normal and went straight to my doctor. Two years on from a circumcision (no big deal)things have never been better and I regret not seeing the doctor earlier. In my case circumcision was the only option but there are simpler solutions for less severe cases.”

I'm 18 and two. I think that's bad!

I was with my first boyfriend for 15 months, I left him for the boy I'm with now.

I've loved both the people I've slept with, and it's completely unrealistic these days to expect to be with your first forever. I learnt things from my last relationship.

Ju st some people are very surprised when they find out my boyfriend wasn't my first, and those still in their first sexual relationship like to trumpet about it. ”

Im 18 and have slept with 6 people, one of whom I was in a relationship with. I don't think that you can judge people or say that there is an 'average number', as some people will only ever sleep with one person, whereas you could sleep with a different person every week..
It depends on who you are, your background etc and what is right for you. As long as your safe and sensible and having fun nothing else matters.”