Sexperience

Seriously it didn't hurt me but it was with someone I really love and I did it at the right time. People told me it hurt so much but then I did it and it was really enjoyable. Only do it if your ready and don't let anyone force you into something that you don't want to do because if you do then it will hurt because you wont be relaxed. xx”

I'm 21, I don't really see guys as that attractive, but when I'm quite aroused, ill happily experiment online with other guys, but its something that has been bothering me. Do I actually go for it in person and give it a try? Or do I keep doing what I'm doing and ignoring it? Anyone had similar thoughts and how did they deal with it?”

I am a 25 year old virgin. I would definitely tell someone if I met them because a relationship is all about trust so be honest from the start. If she doesn't mind and still wants you its better than lying to her and her finding out.”

I have the same problem. I used to think that it was so embarrassing. When I got close to a boy I used to give the excuse that i was on my period. I've been with 4 lads now and none of them ever mentioned it and one of them said that it was sexy. If they are going to bully you then that must mean that they have something wrong with them. Dont worry about it honest, hope you are okay j xx”

I am a virgin - proud - by the way and I am waiting until I'm married, but all the guys on this website say they already lost it, not much hope I guess. I don't mind inexperienced guys, in fact I think its sexy and attractive when guys don't have sex drunk or too young. I just want a lovely marriage with a virgin (preferably, lol) where we can openly discuss things like sex and our bodies. I don't mind a few arguments, they are healthy, but I just hope and pray for a lovely guy who will respect and love me for who I am :D

Fingers crossed :-)
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Me and my partner been together for 6 years now and while in our teens we were able to please each other without having sex. We thought we knew about each other a lot and when it will come to having sex, it would be pretty easy for us.
When after 3 years we started making love, we realised this was not the case. While the start was exiting and nice, it would lead to nowhere for me and I would ask him to stop in middle or just wait until he gets orgasm and stop it.
I used to have problems getting aroused for penetrative sex because it was not pleasing and I would have sex only during my fertile days, when arousal is natural at a high risk or pregnancy, but as we are only 22 now and do not want kids yet this was not a good option.
I think the most important is such situations is to be honest with your partner and try to find solution together. I read that someone is faking orgasm to please the partner - faking will not solve the problem! DO NOT fake it - you will only get depressed by having same problem and your partner will have no idea why you are having mood swings and that will be bad for your relationship.

It is funny - everyone says you have to relax to feel pleasure and orgasm through penetration, but in my case - i have to gather all my strength and 'workout' and keep myself pressed against my partner while having sex to make it pleasurable (if you can't imagine it, try doing it while standing). Too bad I am not fit enough to last it long enough for me to orgasm, so we usually do it in a pose so I can stimulate myself while he is inside me and that usually(!) works.

So, if relaxing doesn't help you - try to do some workout! ”

I'd liked and been seeing this guy for about 3 months, we got together and we did it about a month after we started dating. We had talked about it the week before we did it, and we'd decided to wait a little while, but the next weekend we got tipsy and it just kind of happened. Ive been with him for a year now and im still really happy. I wish i hadn't been tipsy but at least i was with somebody i could trust. He was 20 and had plenty of experience, so he was gentle and sweet with me. I was 16 at the time and i'm still happy with him...he makes me feel happy, safe and loved :) I'm 17 and he is 21 now. We always use contraception”

I'm 17 but I knew I was bisexual from a very young age. I had lots of crushes on guys but was always more comfortable with girls and it wasn't until i was about 12 that I started to be curious about my sexuality.
At the time I didn't know who to talk to or what to do, I kept anything I was feeling to myself and I got really depressed. But to be honest I did have a really good friend who I ended up confiding it who ironically was going through the same thing. However I had grown up in a Hhmophobic background and didn't want to be bisexual.
After a while my curiosity wasn't going away and I found myself increasingly attracted to girls. Soon afterwards, I had formed a new group of friend, one of which was bisexual and I knew they would accept me, however even then I didn't come out.
I knew that i had to be comfortable within myself and my sexuality before I could come out. When I found my first girlfriend at 15 I told my friends and soon my whole school knew, I was lucky with my school as everyone was really supportive and didn't see me any differently.
Recen tly my mum has found out when she caught me and my new girlfriend in my room (most mortifying experience), but it wasn't as bad as I expected she is really supportive and so was my cousin and aunt, however not all my family know and i know some will not accept me.
I am happy within myself and I didn't choice to be bisexual its just what I am, that's not all I am defined as.”

My wife is German and has never shaved any of her body except for her legs in summer. I have got use to her full hair and now find it sexy. It shows her in her natural state and I love her for being her. I now find pictures of fully shaven women unattractive.

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I only lost my virginity a few weeks ago and I had some friends telling me it barely hurt and then others saying it hurt quite a lot. In my own experience it didn't really "hurt" it was just really uncomfortable, my body obviously wasn't used to it at all. It only lasts for maybe a minute or even less, and then it's fine :)”