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i didnt have sex with my partner for three years and that was because he was cheating on me he told me after we had our child that he just wasnt ready what a load of bull. consider all options .”

I know how you feel! Only mine is the other way around. I am the woman, who does want sex. My partner being the man, strangely doesn't. We had a very active sex life for the first year which died down to a normal amount for the second year then we had a baby and he hasn't slept with me since. But swears that he still loves me and thinks I'm gorgeous so if you do happen to figure out the answer to this one let me know! x”

Rob
I assume that in the 3 years that you and your partner have not had sex that you have both been together in the relationship for that time.
I would also assume that after 3 years you can talk to each other about things. However, it sounds like the two of you have had a breakdown in communication.
I'm sure that she knows how long it's been, too, and is probably just as concerned.
She is obviously disinterested but there might be a problem. She might experience pain during sex, she might be depressed or anxious, she might be experiencing low self-esteem, she might associate sex with something bad or wrong, or something might have upset her one of the last times you had sex.
Whatever it is, it's not going to go away by not talking about it or 'hinting' at it.
You know her best, so why don't you approach the situation in a different way? Organise a romantic night in (meal, chocolates, no interruptions, etc) and tell her that you haven't done this for sex, but rather to show her how much you love her and what you feel about her. If she makes you laugh, then tell her that. Tell her all the wonderful things about her and tell her how you feel about the situation. You might feel sad that you've disconnected or you might feel scared that the lack of intimacy suggests bigger problems.
Try to avoid talking about desperation because she might feel pressured by that, or that she's just an object for you to get relief from.
This might sound all 'touchy-feely' to you but it sure sounds like the two of you need a new approach that involves communication.
It might take a while to get to the bottom of it, but stay calm and be patient and hopefully things will work out.
If you make progress but need more help then I suggest buying one of Dr Laura Berman's books. I've recommended her to another poster today, but I don't any affiliations with her. I just know her work and trust her. She writes for women and men, but predominantly women who have lost sexual desire.
Hope this helps.”