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im 14 too, and i really think it just looks so horrible. i dont see how any boy could find it attractive to have your labia hanging out? i really want surgery, id do anything to have it gone. it just makes me feel so uncomfortable”

i have the same problem and i hate it, it's uncomfortable and looks ugly and i do think about it alot, but all of your comments have helped so much i didn't realise how common it was”

I have the same problem. I used to think that it was so embarrassing. When I got close to a boy I used to give the excuse that i was on my period. I've been with 4 lads now and none of them ever mentioned it and one of them said that it was sexy. If they are going to bully you then that must mean that they have something wrong with them. Dont worry about it honest, hope you are okay j xx”

I've been very worried about my outer labia. Basically my partner can't do anything without parting them and its very difficult to have intercourse without lube. Kind of takes away from it. My partner has never said anything about it but I still very self-conscious about it. I'd consider surgery, Im 22”

ooo don't worry yourself at all! i hav the sme but its not a problem to me! its not unnatural and well guys through experience they dont mind all! you should be happy with wat you have :) thyve called thm lovelips so the bigger they are the more love! i hope u feel better about urself i did afterwards! x”

Im exactly the same as you. i wasnt born like that or anything, it just kinda grew... untill it turned out like it is now! it looks really disgusting but after reading these other comments i dont feel so bad about it now. although i feel slightly uncomfortable in swimwear or underwear because you can see the bumpyness! Im only 14 and i dont want to be worrying about it untill the first time i have sex but no matter how much better it makes me feel reading these other comments, i still think that it looks horrible and ugly! :(”

I'm no expert, but if everyone is self concious about it then it must just all be in our heads 99% of the time! No need for surgery, im not totaly comforable with mine but i honestly dont think anyone completely is, everyone IS different xx”

I also thought i had this problem, but to be fair i have been with two boys one of which i am still with and he loves them, at first i was really shy and didnt want to have oral sex but now i love it. if you find the right guy then he wont even notice i dont think you need surgery cos one day you will meet your perfect match who will love you as much as they love your you know what”

If people are teasing you over something like that then they seriously need to re-evaluate their own self conscious issues, cause that's pathetic.

I was worried about the same thing for ages. I felt I was ugly & generally a freak. But since coming here, it seems as though everyone is thinking the same thing.

Noone is going to have the perfect pornstar vagina, we're all different & it would be dull if we were all the same!

Don't even consider surgery, it's painful, stressful & a quick fix for something that isn't an issue.”

Jane it is ridiculous you are considering this at 14! Lucym please do not worry about it. They guy is not worth your time, all vaginas look different and this is so so so common. Good luck in the future with a guy who does care xx”

i have the same problem i am 15 and am worried about having sex because it might be a turn off”

If it's really bothering you that much then there are operations that can reduce them but it is really hard to get this done on the NHS.

I personally find big labia a trun on and it makes oral sex alot more fun.”

Hey! I'm exactly the same! I'm getting labiaplasty in 2 days but I'm not scared.

I think about 1 in 4 women are like this, it's very common. I'm very scared of what other people think of it though. My last boyfriend was very harsh about it but my new boyfriend is much more understanding. He doesn't want me to go through with my surgery but because of my previous harsh boyfriend, I feel like I have to.

I understand that it sound silly and I've tried to talk myself out of it.”

Same, I agree with JJ however, don't have surgery. I've been with 4 boys, 3 of them said I had a sexy you know what. =)”

I have this 'problem' aswell, the numbers seem to be going up with the ammount of females having this, is that not saying something? that it is perfectly normal for any girl to have any different shape,style,size of down below! yes i thinkso. i wouldnt call having large labia a problem, just natural. im in my teenage years, i have experienced intercourse with guys and none of them have had a problem with it. not that i know of anyway and to be honest i dont understand why they should. i was comfortable enough to get physical with them, so i should be comfortable enough for them to see my body thats the way i was born. the only thing you could do to get rid of this problem would be surgery. i couldn't say i have such a big problem with my labia that i would feel the need to get it surgically removed! its your choice, but make sure that you have respect for yourself and are only willing to go ahead with it for the reason you are not comfortable with your own body and not so you can feel comfortable with guys experiencing any type of foreplay, sex etc because the chances are they have came across different shapes of down below before. before i came on this site i didnt really realise just how many people have the same 'type' as myself, and its reassuring although i didn't have a problem with it in the first place but everyones different and everyone has different opinions and feelings on things, especially about their own body. the only advice i would give is everyone is different, and naturally you are born with what you have. enhancing or taking that way is something you could regret or just feel is not worth it.”

i was also wondering at what age you can have this type of surgery and so if anyone has any information of this it would be very helpful :) thanks everyone for trying to help me with my problem, it has really helped me realise other peoples opinions and you have opened my eys xxx”

I have the same problem and feel uncomfortable when having sex with my boyfriend its ugly and i hate it. He has never commented on it but i worry that he finds its a turn off, What can i do?”

I have the same prolem aswell...i am definately getting surgery and i have looked it up...i have only slept with one boy because i am scared to show others although he didnt see it as a problem i did,i find it hard to feel comfortable in swimwear, underwear and even normal clothes, just incase the shape is shown i am only 14 and dont know if the surgery is available to me.”

Lucy, please don't even think about surgery. I've said that many times and I will say it again: female genitalia come in all shapes and sizes and - as long as they're taken care of (personal hygiene is a must, some hair trimming is very good too) - they're all beautiful and worthy of being adored! They give so much pleasure to both women and men and they should be loved! Yes, yours too. My 1st gf had large inner labia that hung out - neither of us saw it as a problem, I actually loved it. And if you're really bullied because the shape of your labia you should really avoid the guy who caused it. He's not woth your or anyone's attention. Don't give up, love yourself, love your delightful vulva, and you'll find a man who'll love you and your intimate parts as he should!

Good luck!”

Really, many guys like them that way. I personally don't like it when the inner lips don't hang ot at all.”

It shouldn't bother them if they like you enough, try finding someone who you really like and make sure that they really like you back, and it won't be an issue!
I wouldn't go to extremes and look into surgery unless it's like the only thing you think about, if so ask your Dr.
I have the same problem as you and I was nervous about sex for ages because of it, but I've never been with a guy that has been bothered by it, there are alot more important things with sex, right?
It's not like you're the only one with this 'problem' everyone looks different, but they're all used for the same things at the end of the day so why should it matter??
Seriously , stop worrying; If a guy makes fun of you because of it then he's really not worth the bother, find someone that really likes you and I'm pretty sure that he won't even notice.
Hope that I've helped, good luck! =) xx”

thank you everyone for your help, but i have been fingered since i posted the question, and now i am being bullied at college because of it :( does anyone know if there is an operation that i could have done to help me? xx”

I wouldn't call it a problem at all. Women are all shaped differently, just like men. There are about 3 billion women in the world and 3 billion ways for female genitals to be shaped.

My inner lips are a LOT longer then my outer lips and it doesn't really bother me. I've only been with one guy, but he didn't have a problem with it at all. Neither have the women I've been with.

The only issue I've ever had is some slight discomfort during sex. If you're not aroused and/or properly lubed then your inner lips can sort of 'stick' to his penis during penetration and make it a little awkward. nothing traumatic, just something to keep in mind.”

i have the exact same problem and i also feel really uncomfortable about it. i dont no what to do as im to scared to do anything with boys because of it.”

I have the exact same problem, but it's completely common. :)”

I feel exacle the same and i cant imagen not feeling the same but i think when you are a teenager boyz over react it but when you get older i dont think they even think about it x also alot of girls think the same and have nothing to worry about x”

Don't worry about it. Some of us men absolutely love that. It's super sexy.”

i used to feel exactly the same way, i was so uncomfortable with the way i looked down there, that it put me off sex for a long time. i then asked my boyfriend of 3 years whether it bothered him at all, he told me he loved every inch of me, and that he didn't even give it a second though. to be honest after hearing that i felt a bit silly about being so worried. you just need to be confident with yourself and your partner pick up on that and it wont even cross his mind. Hope this helps.”