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Your questions about sex

my boyfriend loses his erection evytime we try & have sex neither of us av had sex before & it only goes when he puts the condom on what can we do?

  1. Don`t forget guys need foreplay too. Massage the shaft of his penis gently while he is opening the packet etc. It will pay dividends!”

    Posted by Jen on 16th Jul at 2:19PM (flag as inappropriate)

  2. It's likely to be anxiety that's causing the problem - fear of failure and letting you down. Forget about the need for penetration for a while; indulge in lots of sexual foreplay, massage and mutual masturbation. Take the heat off him by showing him that lots of fun can be had without penetration and when he is more relaxed, I feel sure that all will happen as it should. One success for him should lead to many more. Also make sure that the condom he is using is the right size; too small and they are difficult to get on quickly. The very best of luck to you both.”

    Posted by jonathan on 8th Jul at 11:04AM (flag as inappropriate)

  3. its all down to nerves once he get past that you will be fine it happens to alot of us its nothing to be embarrass about all you have to do is just keep him occupied so his erection will stay and after the you have had sex once it shoud just stay erect the second time any meny times after that good luck.”

    Posted by jordan on 7th Jul at 12:35PM (flag as inappropriate)

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