i get hard before sex but as soon as i insert my penis in the girl i go floppy.... whats up?
this is pure nerves and as hard as it sounds, the more that u think and worry about it the harder (sorry no pun intended) it will be for you to have sex. just enjoy the moment the rush of feelings (and also check that you are wearing the right size condom as if it is too small it can cut off the blood supply to your penis) Hope this helps, just enjoy and remember to be safe”
I agree with jonathan i think that you should concetrate on giving pleasure and dont think about it.
What about trying sex without the injection of the penis into the vagina and do other thing which wont make you nervous. This happened to me and after time you get over it.
You may feel like it because its your first time or something and your nervous or that youce never seen a naked girl whos ready for you?
good luck in solving this and hope my comment is usefu.”
If you are able to achieve a fully hard erection before penetration it would seem that you probably have anxiety issues. Perhaps you are anxious that you will be unable to satisfy your partner or come to ejaculation yourself. Take the heat off by indulging in lots of foreplay to pleasure her and yourself without actually inserting your penis. Concentrate on giving pleasure rather than thinking of your own problem. You should find in time, that full sexual intercourse will be achieved as a completely natural progression. Don't forget to talk things over with your partner and share your worrries. Good luck!”
This used to happen to my boyfriend regularly, due to the fact that he suffered from anxiety and depression and he was very nervous the first few times we tried.
If you're not comfortable with the girl, you may be going floppy due to nerves. This is all in your head and if you overcome the nervousness you'll be able to stay hard. You may also not be confident, which is called performance anxiety, so if that's what's the problem then your girlfriend should be very supportive and encouraging and show you that she loves you and make you feel good about yourself and sex.
These are the only two explanations I can think of right now. There isn't a physical problem if you can get hard before sex and by yourself, it is just a mental problem. Just breathe, be calm, make sure your girlfriend is supportive and helpful and in time you'll overcome this problem.”
this is pure nerves and as hard as it sounds, the more that u think and worry about it the harder (sorry no pun intended) it will be for you to have sex. just enjoy the moment the rush of feelings (and also check that you are wearing the right size condom as if it is too small it can cut off the blood supply to your penis) Hope this helps, just enjoy and remember to be safe”
Posted by Molly on 28th Oct at 5:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
I agree with jonathan i think that you should concetrate on giving pleasure and dont think about it.
What about trying sex without the injection of the penis into the vagina and do other thing which wont make you nervous. This happened to me and after time you get over it.
You may feel like it because its your first time or something and your nervous or that youce never seen a naked girl whos ready for you?
good luck in solving this and hope my comment is usefu.”
Posted by david on 24th Oct at 1:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
If you are able to achieve a fully hard erection before penetration it would seem that you probably have anxiety issues. Perhaps you are anxious that you will be unable to satisfy your partner or come to ejaculation yourself. Take the heat off by indulging in lots of foreplay to pleasure her and yourself without actually inserting your penis. Concentrate on giving pleasure rather than thinking of your own problem. You should find in time, that full sexual intercourse will be achieved as a completely natural progression. Don't forget to talk things over with your partner and share your worrries. Good luck!”
Posted by jonathan on 13th Oct at 12:02AM (flag as inappropriate)
This used to happen to my boyfriend regularly, due to the fact that he suffered from anxiety and depression and he was very nervous the first few times we tried.
If you're not comfortable with the girl, you may be going floppy due to nerves. This is all in your head and if you overcome the nervousness you'll be able to stay hard. You may also not be confident, which is called performance anxiety, so if that's what's the problem then your girlfriend should be very supportive and encouraging and show you that she loves you and make you feel good about yourself and sex.
These are the only two explanations I can think of right now. There isn't a physical problem if you can get hard before sex and by yourself, it is just a mental problem. Just breathe, be calm, make sure your girlfriend is supportive and helpful and in time you'll overcome this problem.”
Posted by Rachel on 11th Oct at 12:56AM (flag as inappropriate)