I am 14 and my boy is 19. He begs me to have sex with him and threatens to dump/hit me if i dont. I dont want him to leave me, should I say yes?
Don't do it. Anyone who threatens to hit you has the potential to be violent to you and you should leave him right away. Never have sex before you're ready. I didn't with my partner until I knew that even if we didn't last he was still incredibly special to me and I wanted him to be my first and it was the best decision I've ever made. I am (was at the time) 18, and 14 is too young, and at 19 I guy shouldn't be after a 14 year old. Find someone who treats you right. There is nothing wrong with age differences (my partner is twice my age), but at your age it's just not right!”
I'm 16 and lost my virginity 10 months ago with a boy i loved. I also thought I was ready, although my boyfriend didn't force me I still regret it very much as I was not ready. You're 14 yrs old and your boyfriend is 19 thats 5 yrs difference, your too young to be in a relationship like this. I REALLY regret losing my virginity and really wish I had waited longer, there are plenty of guys your age who will be happy to be with you and not force you into sex, not only is it wrong to force someone to have sex, it is also illegal to have sex with someone underage. Please don't do it and if this man touches you in any way please inform someone and end it fast before it goes any further, all the best, hope everything gose well.”
This guy is a jerk and if he does anything to you call the police. One of my friends is 15 and she has just had a baby girl because her boyfriend was 3 years older than her. yours is five. It is dangerous for you. Be careful.”
i hate to point this out but it sounds like this guy might be in the habit of targeting young girls for sex which is always bad news if he indeed has sex with you he will be committing an illigal act as the legal age of consent is 16 and i think this guy will know this for sure so there is no excuse for what he is doing threatening violence is also against the law, you have every right as a human being not to live in fear of someone like this, i know its hard but stand up to this cretin he sounds like a sexual predetor. as such if he ever attacks or threatens you or touches you innapropriately you should involve the police a 19 year old young adult will know he is acting illigaly if he does dont let him tell you that you have no choice or that you cant do anything you are not yet at the age of consent please remember this one fact he is bad bad news.”
Please please please do not do it, and most people will add unless you are ready but dont do it at all. You are still a child and he wants to hurt you because you are not ready to have sex, then you must ask yourself 1. Does he really love you, and 2. Why do you love him?
I was twelve when my boyfriend was 22. My mum smacked me so hard when I told her this story. He asked me to have sex and I was stupid enough to agree. He had enormous testicles and I was in an enormous anout of pain, and what I didn't understand was that you could get pregnat if you didnt take certaian measures. I had my baby aged 13. My little girl is 8 now and I am 21 next week, I dont regret my little girl, but I regret throwing my childhood away. Dont even take the chance you might get hurt or pregnant. Explain over the phone (this makes sure he cannot hurt you) that you are not ready and if he threatens you tell you parents and dump him as fast as you can. All the best.”
A 19yr old man threatening a 14 yr old girl with violence if she refuses him sex is very bad news. You are too young to be in such a potentially dangerous relationship. Please seek advice from a trusted person - a family member, a teacher or your GP.”
Hey say no if ur not ready, plus 19 is a little over for him not being able to control himself. If he threatens u get some help, there are tons of guys out there willing to love having u as a girlfriend.”
According to my own personal beliefs noone is ready for sex before they themselves and completely alone, without any kind of pressure (be it peer pressure or any other kind of pressure), decides that they are grown up and fully aware of ALL consequenses that sex leads to. And in my opinion you are a child. I had my first sexual experience when I was 21 (on top of that I'm a guy) and I'v never regretted it, because it happened when I was ready and felt that it was right. If your "boy" threatens to hit/dump you I'd kick him in the nuts and run. he's 19, you're 14, he's an adult (although not acting as one) you are a child. and the short version: don't say yes!! you'll almost certainly regret it since it was not your decision put his, and he forced this decision upon you.”
Don't do it. Anyone who threatens to hit you has the potential to be violent to you and you should leave him right away. Never have sex before you're ready. I didn't with my partner until I knew that even if we didn't last he was still incredibly special to me and I wanted him to be my first and it was the best decision I've ever made. I am (was at the time) 18, and 14 is too young, and at 19 I guy shouldn't be after a 14 year old. Find someone who treats you right. There is nothing wrong with age differences (my partner is twice my age), but at your age it's just not right!”
Posted by A on 9th Nov at 1:01AM (flag as inappropriate)
Get Rid Of Him.. He Is Using You..Please Don't Do It And Dump Him..Please. Dats All He Is Intrested In.”
Posted by Danielle on 28th Oct at 1:52AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 16 and lost my virginity 10 months ago with a boy i loved. I also thought I was ready, although my boyfriend didn't force me I still regret it very much as I was not ready. You're 14 yrs old and your boyfriend is 19 thats 5 yrs difference, your too young to be in a relationship like this. I REALLY regret losing my virginity and really wish I had waited longer, there are plenty of guys your age who will be happy to be with you and not force you into sex, not only is it wrong to force someone to have sex, it is also illegal to have sex with someone underage. Please don't do it and if this man touches you in any way please inform someone and end it fast before it goes any further, all the best, hope everything gose well.”
Posted by Sophia on 14th Oct at 9:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
This guy is a jerk and if he does anything to you call the police. One of my friends is 15 and she has just had a baby girl because her boyfriend was 3 years older than her. yours is five. It is dangerous for you. Be careful.”
Posted by Nora on 4th Oct at 2:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
i hate to point this out but it sounds like this guy might be in the habit of targeting young girls for sex which is always bad news if he indeed has sex with you he will be committing an illigal act as the legal age of consent is 16 and i think this guy will know this for sure so there is no excuse for what he is doing threatening violence is also against the law, you have every right as a human being not to live in fear of someone like this, i know its hard but stand up to this cretin he sounds like a sexual predetor. as such if he ever attacks or threatens you or touches you innapropriately you should involve the police a 19 year old young adult will know he is acting illigaly if he does dont let him tell you that you have no choice or that you cant do anything you are not yet at the age of consent please remember this one fact he is bad bad news.”
Posted by simon on 16th Sep at 5:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
Please please please do not do it, and most people will add unless you are ready but dont do it at all. You are still a child and he wants to hurt you because you are not ready to have sex, then you must ask yourself 1. Does he really love you, and 2. Why do you love him?
I was twelve when my boyfriend was 22. My mum smacked me so hard when I told her this story. He asked me to have sex and I was stupid enough to agree. He had enormous testicles and I was in an enormous anout of pain, and what I didn't understand was that you could get pregnat if you didnt take certaian measures. I had my baby aged 13. My little girl is 8 now and I am 21 next week, I dont regret my little girl, but I regret throwing my childhood away. Dont even take the chance you might get hurt or pregnant. Explain over the phone (this makes sure he cannot hurt you) that you are not ready and if he threatens you tell you parents and dump him as fast as you can. All the best.”
Posted by Jennifer on 12th Sep at 5:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
A 19yr old man threatening a 14 yr old girl with violence if she refuses him sex is very bad news. You are too young to be in such a potentially dangerous relationship. Please seek advice from a trusted person - a family member, a teacher or your GP.”
Posted by jonathan on 3rd Sep at 11:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hey say no if ur not ready, plus 19 is a little over for him not being able to control himself. If he threatens u get some help, there are tons of guys out there willing to love having u as a girlfriend.”
Posted by john on 3rd Sep at 5:26AM (flag as inappropriate)
According to my own personal beliefs noone is ready for sex before they themselves and completely alone, without any kind of pressure (be it peer pressure or any other kind of pressure), decides that they are grown up and fully aware of ALL consequenses that sex leads to. And in my opinion you are a child. I had my first sexual experience when I was 21 (on top of that I'm a guy) and I'v never regretted it, because it happened when I was ready and felt that it was right. If your "boy" threatens to hit/dump you I'd kick him in the nuts and run. he's 19, you're 14, he's an adult (although not acting as one) you are a child. and the short version: don't say yes!! you'll almost certainly regret it since it was not your decision put his, and he forced this decision upon you.”
Posted by Kasper on 2nd Sep at 8:01PM (flag as inappropriate)