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OF COURSE IT'S CHEATING!”

yeea it totally is like!!”

IDK. Honestly yes. But then we all like tpo indulge but if yuu cant fight the urge then your not right for each other”

OF Course this is Cheating its Phone sex!”

if my boyfriend did this it would be over. It is defo not fair and would be devistating for your girlfriend. If your not happy end it”

Why even ask? it's obviously cheating.”

If you think about it, if your partner looked at your texts they would think you are cheating, so yes i think it is”

thats as bad as vheating if not worse, seriously it hurts 2 find out ur partner is cheating i no from experiance if it was you hpow would you feel? if u feel this way leave your partner befor they get real hurt!”

yes

thats disgusting
i know i wouldnt want to be in a relationship with somebody who would do such a thing and think it to be ok”

I had sex with a guy who has a girlfriend, we where just going to forget about it and put it in the past but now i keep getting dirty messages from him and hes asking me to meet up with him. Hes even told some of my mates that he fancies me. What do i do? I've told him i won't do anything with him whilst hes got a gf but he knows i'll crumble and give into temptaition. What do i do?”

Yess!!! course it is!! x”

Yes its a breach of trust and although no sex is happening it is a clear signal that someone's desire is elsewhere.”

my best friends boyfriend and i are very close friends, we started texting each about sex what we want to do to eachother, i don't know how to stop it though? he obviously doesn't think its cheating, and i don't want it to ruin our relationship. and my 'best friend' well she isn't, i never see her, at all! somebody please help?”

this is cheating!!!!! x”

Of course this is cheating. If you are thinking about becoming sexually active with another person that isn't your partner, then it is cheating. Imagine how you would feel if your partner did this to you!”

I know how txt sex feels and trust me it is awful. My hubby was txtin a good friend of mine for months, and we are talking explicit msgs about what he would like to do to her,i caught them out by lending her phone one morning as i didn't have mine on me, and hubby txt why i had it, need i say more, it ripped my heart in two. He seems to think i shouldn't go on about it anymore, even though it has only been 12 months. The worst thing of all was i was going through post natal depression, and he said he were just txtin her cos she had been through it to get some advice. Thats a good one eh guys.”

yes this is definantly cheating”

Yes, because its not only about the sex, its also about the emotional side of it, I would hate it if my boyfriend did it. So yes!”

how do u actually hav sex via txts, phone etc this puzzles me”

Yes i think so. My other half always talks to a girl online and by text. I think its out of order big time. Dont understand why anyone would want to have sex threw text and online while with someone? Yes i think its cheating! x”

yes because u are basically chatting someone up or dating someone through text and phone because u are stll speaking to them and making a relationship!!!”

yes i think so because if your aving a relationship with somebody and having sex through texting then i would still class that as cheating”

Well it's not for me to say really whether I would class it as cheating but ask yourself one question, would you like it if your partner was having phone and text sex with somebody else while they were seeing you coz I certainly wouldn't, in fact if I caught my hubby doing this, he would be out on his backside!! Why would you want to do this if you are in a loving relationship? if you are not maybe it's time you got out because it's not fair at all on the other person!!!! It seems to me you are having your cake and eating it!!!”

It is down to personal opinion i guess. if you really are in love, don't do anything that could be mistaken as flirtatious or cheating and then you won't get caught or in trouble. and most of all, you won't endanger the relationship. personally i think it is because he/she is taking their interest off their partner and that is wrong within a loving relationship.”

Yes it definately is cheating, womens biggest sexual organ is their brain, our thoughts drive our desires as much as anything. How would you feel if you overheard your partner having phone sex with someone else, would you just tell yourself they are friends? I dont think so.”

Why would you want to have phone and text sex with some other person when your in a relationship? I wouldnt say its cheating but i wouldnt say its right either.”

yes, i would never even think of doing that and i would be mortified and probably physically sick if my partner did that to me.”

well atm ma bf is txting anova girl and hes says it dont mean nuthink it still reli hurting me any form is cheating coz if u love sum1 u wouldnt want to do that with anova person so dats ma answer !!!! yes it is”

Yes, i totally agree. I think it is defo cheating! I could never think of doing that to my boyfriend cos it would destroy me if he did it to me, just think how you would feel if the tables were turned.”

i would be mortified if my husband was texting another woman, i believe that if its happening in the mind then its not long before its happening, i would never text another man in that way, if i did then i would be worried that there must be something wrong in my relationship that then needs looking into. if you truly love each other then you dont need the excitement of a text relationship, use these energies, to repair the damage that obviously exists in your existing relationship,or end it and move on, its cheating whether in the mind or in reality. it doesnt exactly come under fantasies as they are usualy about people that you would never meet.”

It depends on how you see cheeting really, if u think that txtin n stuff is cheating then it is,i personally believe it int really cheating unless theres physical contact, but if you really care about sum1 u shunt really b txtin other ppl saexual stuff, cos lets face it they find out u got hell to pay”

put it this way my ex bf cheated on me and that started off by him and my best mate just texting each other and then it was them meeting and then it started a relationship. if u really love ur partner i wouldnt xx”

to put it simply yes. my ex was txting another girl whilst we were goin out and he did not seem to think that it was a problem, but if he really loved me he would not have done it. you need to consider how important your bf/gf is to you and consider if you should even be continuing the relationship.”

no, i do not belive that this is cheating. although this is very imoral. it's not quite the same as physicaly cheating but its some how not quite right. if you know what i mean.”

Yes. While there is no physical interaction going on, there is a mental and emotional connection, even if it's only brief, and that is most definitely cheating.”

YESSS!!! Just think if it was the other way around, would you be bothered? I would leave my boyfriend. However other people are different. Im completely in love with my boyfriend and feel he is enough for me, I wouldn't need to text or phone anyone else. Personally I believe if you cannot tell him about it you know it is wrong.”

My partner is constantly emailing, blogging & looking at images. When I noticed this was going on, he showed me the sites thinking I would feel better about it. The trouble is I don't! Talking just didn't get through to him how I felt, so I started a smutty email session with an old male friend and deliberately got him involved. To my surprise he seemed ok with it. Now when I see him on these sites he reminds me about that one time & tells me he's far tamer than I. : With that in mind phone sex is most definitely cheating & if whomever can't see that I don't think they'll change!! (Also if you can't beat them, join them DOES NOT WORK)”

YES! I went on my now ex boyfriends phone one night as he was in the shower. And was flicking through his pictures and he had saved pictures of girls in bras (And these were no models i tell ya) I then found this curious and went through his messages to find loads off his ex's containing some explicit explanations of what they "were doing to themselves". I confronted my boyfriend about this and he completely freaked on me. Yet when i had normal "How are ya" texts off my boy mates he accused me of cheating. It was weeks after we split and he blamed on it me!!! Any people that do this you seriously are sad! If you can't text your partners that..why text someone else?”

Yes! I class it as a kind of cheating. Being in a comitted relationship is about caring for someone and sharing an emotional attachment. Sharing your body with a long term partner is about having trust. Finding out your partner has been having text or cyber sex is extremely hurtful.”

absoloutely! diverting your attentions and affections from your partner to a horny random on the other side is cheating and furthermore is hurtful to your partner. just coz the personyou are cheating with isn't right in front of you doesn't mean it doesn't count.”

Yes! You are being intimate and sexual with another person. It's not even a question really.”

NO DONT BE SILLY! PHYSICAL CONTACT WOULD BE CHEATING”

Phone sex is definitely cheating but i don't really think text sex is, if your just texting not sending photos or videos then i don't think it is but once you have sent photos i think it becomes more serious, like something is going to happen and develop.”

Yeah, it definately counts as cheating. My experience is what i found on my partners computer. I found a VERY graphic MSN conversation between him and another girl... To say the least i was heartbroken, i felt ashamed, betrayed and that everything i'd worked at in the relationship had fallen apart. If your with someone, then they should love you, and only you. Having sexual texts or conversations in general (including implied) is basically saying that the sender would prefer being with that person instead, both physically and emotionally.”

PHONE SEX, TEXT SEX, WEBCAM, WEB CHAT ANYTHING IN A SEXUAL WAY IS CHEATING”

any kind of sexual manner is cheating!!

Do not do it - if you feel you need something not on offer - move onto a new partner!!!!”

From reading the other posts im glad other people seem to share the same views as me. My fiance couldn't understand why i was hurt whe i found out he had been sending msg's, photo's and videos to another woman! He told me they were just friends??!! If you want to do things like that when you are in a relationship either be open and honest about it or stay single, then you can do it with as many peolpe as you want!”

Finding sexual texts is really hurtful, personally anything that relates to flirting is not on when your in a relationship. If you feel like that during the day why not ring or text your own girlfirend/boyfrien d?? ”

YES!!!!! This reminds me of when Bill Clinton thought that oral sex wasn't cheating!!!”

I personally think that thinking of anyone else that way other than your partner is not good, and to actually do something about it is even worse. I think even with porn, if it is something shared between you and your partner then its ok but if its solitary or hidden i feel that it is more of a concern and if i found them on my husbands phone i no doubt would be unhappy and upset.”

phn sex is a form of cheating! If ur thinking about having sex with someone else other than ur partner & u'r partner doesnt knw then yes it is cheating!I've found sex tex on my ex's phn so i knw how it feels guys!”

Yes, This Could Be The Start Of A Really Hurtful Breakup. If You Feel Really Turned On Why Dont You Text Or Phone Ur Girlfriend Or Boyfriend?.”

yes of course. you shouldnt even want to imagine being intimate with someone else other than your partener. when you talk about sex intimatley with someone else you are breaking the barrier of cheeting. or more unfaithful.”

It all depends on the circumstances if they are really commited to the relationship and their texting dirty messages to other people their obviously not a 100% commited to their partner. If they are emotionally and physically stimualted by the texts messages and calls then i agree that you are mentally having sex with them it counts as cheating if your intrested in that person but you felt you were not fullying all your sexual desires with your partner you should try something new to spice your sex life up!”

Yes it is.. ive personlly found sexual texts on my boyfriends phone... its a horrible feeling.. i dont reccomend you do it”

Of course you're cheating. ask yourself.. do i hide that from my partner? do i feel naughty when i do it? would you classify it as cheating if your partner would do it? there you go! :))
its fun isn't it? ;)”

Yes it is - even if you aren't being physically unfaithful, you are still being emotionally unfaithful, which is just as damaging.”

Yes Phone and Text sex does count as cheating. There is a name for it (cant remember what) but basically it means that your cheating in your mind and in other means.”

it is classes as cheating, if u think it is then it is.”

Ask yourself how you would feel if you found out your gf was having phone sex with someone else. If you don't like it when someone does it to you, don't do it to them.”