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Mike, Lusipher, KJ, Rose, Shirley, Nicky, Jo, Alex, Michelle H, Adam, Eileen, Chris, Lela, Jason, Karen, Rob O, Lisa, Matthew, Annikka, Rob K, Jackie, Peter, Marsie, Ann, Graham, Marie, Danny, Michelle T, Amy, Tara, Raj, Niv, and Ricki mention intimacy
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“I like trying to find out where the best parts or where the most nerve endings are to really trace around the body.”
“If you’ve made someone else come it’s like that is definitely you’ve had sex.”
What does 'intimacy' mean to you?
“Some people just see it as privacy but I think it goes on a much deeper level... ”
“I don’t think foreplay is that big a deal. I don’t really enjoy it.”
“To some people they almost seem to be the be all and end all of sex, like they have sex to have an orgasm, whereas I have sex because I like having sex.”
“I’ve got an incredibly short attention span, I find that if I’m doing the same thing over and over again with the same person…”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“I’m quite weak when it comes to sex anyway, so as long as I know what’s coming I’m semi there...”
What was sex like during pregnancy?
“We found out from my doctor that you can still have sex when you’re pregnant and I’m pretty sure I’ve heard before that sex is actually good for the baby.”
How did sex change after the birth of your first child?
“She was so scared around that area of things... I don’t even think she would have attempted to have sex again. ”
Have you ever slept with more than one person at the same time?
“The situation hasn’t been in front of me, but even if it was…”
What’s the most sexually adventurous thing you’ve ever done?
“In the last few years I have actually done things that I would have dreamed of doing before. ”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“I like to be bitten on my neck.”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“I like to touch his penis and his balls, and like to massage him on his back…”
What do you worry about most when it comes to sex?
“The older you get there’s this, er, about sex, people think that maybe you shouldn’t because you’re a certain age…”
How would you describe an orgasm?
“If you can actually have like orgasms, or come together, then it’s fantastic.”
What was the worst sex you ever had?
“I hate it. I can’t stand it. It was the worst experience ever.”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“I’m actually very much a touchy feely person, I like to be kissed, I like to be caressed, I like to be stroked.”
Have you ever had a problem having an orgasm?
“I actually got quite good at faking it, so I didn’t realise what they were until…”
What was sex like during pregnancy?
“It didn’t put us off any sort of sexual activity, it was just as often as it was, which with my husband was very, very regular.”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“I just have to look at him sometimes, a seductive look, a quick touch…”
How important is masturbation to you?
“Your sex life is for each other, you give yourself to the other person,and masturbation is very kind of, self indulgent, you kind of do that for your own pleasure.”
What does 'intimacy' mean to you?
“I think people who use the word intimacy in the context of sex tend to link it with the notion of sex in the romantic context... That’s something that’s totally alien to me.”
“I think you’re asking such questions because you’re making assumption that I have some notions of seduction and romance, when I don’t.”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“If you were to open my diary, you see I actually mark dates for sex. ”
What do you worry about most when it comes to sex?
“It’s a little bit like going to a restaurant and ordering, say, meatball soup and then you find you only get one meatball.”
How important is masturbation to you?
“Masturbation is a solo activity. It’s not sex. ”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“I’m a very sensual person. I really do like touch.”
How important is masturbation to you?
“I’ve discovered lots of things about myself through obviously trying things out…”
What was the worst sex you ever had?
“Some girl tried sticking her finger up my bum cause that’s where the male’s g spot is.”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“I’m alright for the first couple of seconds and then I’m just like that, boring. And it’s just the same repetitive thing. ”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“To get them in the mood it depends where you are and if I’m out and about I will always make a girl laugh, always. ”
What does 'intimacy' mean to you?
“It’s a shock to the system when it happens as well and all of your emotions get very tangled up and you start shaking and tears start flowing…”
What’s your most embarrassing sexual experience?
“So we did a bit of a sniff test to find out whether or not it was urine, we were like “it doesn’t really smell like pee” ”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“A bit of a tease in the shower and then throughout the day I like to send sexy text messages.”
What does 'intimacy' mean to you?
“Obviously I’ve never felt that way about someone in my life... ”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“Usually somebody who’s made a bit of an effort to obviously have washed, obvious as that may sound.”
How important is masturbation to you?
“I think you need to know your own body and you need to know what it is that makes you tick.”
How would you describe an orgasm?
“It’s kind of like the end product of what might be five minutes’ work, it might be whole day’s work. ”
How do you talk to your partner about sex?
“Men’s attention span is not great, don’t say lots of words at them because they get lost and they lose interest.”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“If it got to the stage where I needed to masturbate in secret, I would think that there was something I needed to say about the relationship…”
“If you don’t, then it obviously means that there’s something wrong with your relationship.”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“The old ears. Nibbling of those. Heavy breathing in your ear…”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“You might be doing the odd email. You know post has just arrived and you just think you know what I’ll send one of those saucy dirty text messages. And then before you know it…”
What do you worry about most when it comes to sex?
“My friends tell me that I need to get over that hurdle and that problem but I personally I can’t. ”
Have you ever had a problem having an orgasm?
“I mean I don’t find it a problem, it’s just something that’s never happened for me…”
Have you ever experienced awkwardness after sex?
“The day my divorce came through is when we did it, um… and then after that it, it just seemed weird because I’d never done it before…”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“There’s one part at the back of my neck where, if you touch it, anyone touches, even myself touches it, I’m instantly horny.”
“For me there’s nothing better than a man who, basically, has no limits, and just loves a woman’s body.”
Have you ever had a problem having an orgasm?
“I used to think that there was something wrong with me…”
What does 'intimacy' mean to you?
“Intimacy means, er…”
“I think foreplay has to be um something that’s negotiated or explored between two people for it to be as comfortable and as enjoyable for both of them.”
How important is masturbation to you?
“It can provide a benchmark for what the other partner likes doing, how they like to be touched, what they enjoy doing.”
How do you talk to your partner about sex?
“I’ve never been one that in bed would say do that, move round, do that…”
“That’s actually reinvented some things for us. I think cos we’re in a relaxed atmosphere…”
Have you ever experienced awkwardness after sex?
“I mean a coupla bottles of wine, and we’ve had some great sex where inhibitions have gone, fell off the end of the bed, done all sorts of things we don’t normally do, and then the morning after…”
Has sex ever meant something different to you and your sexual partner?
“We always say that we move in different ways. I go up and down, this is what me husband says, up and down, depending on, where you are or what’s going on.”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“Before I lost the weight, I didn’t like being touched because I was too big, and now I don’t like being touched because I could build another person off the excess skin.”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“My partner has found the best way to get myself in the mood is in actual fact to go for a out of the blue full on frontal chest assault.”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“For about 4 years it was vampires that I was obsessed by. I’d have to sort of watch a vampire DVD to build up to get in the mood for sex.”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“Stockings, suspenders … dress up sexily with some stiletto heels… you know, sort of surprise him when he came home from work… on the doorstep in a long coat.”
What’s the most sexually adventurous thing you’ve ever done?
“It was not what I expected, it wasn’t as awful as I expected and I didn’t really feel bad at all afterwards.”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“Basically I just can’t control myself, and it gets me going all the time.”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“Something I’ve practised for many years, and believe me it's always worked, it drives my fiancée absolutely... ”
How did sex change after the birth of your first child?
“I would say probably an absence of sex for about, say, six to, to eight weeks would be normal because it’s a big thing, having a baby.”
How do you talk to your partner about sex?
“My partner the other night presented me with a plate of bangers and mash of which he had arranged into let’s say a rather, er, erotic sort of display.”
“You can’t obviously work, study, raise children, do everything you do and still be what was it Jerry Hall described as "a whore in the bedroom"?”
What gets you in the mood for sex?
“My partner can get me in the mood pretty much with very little effort, with the touching, the flirting... ”
How important is masturbation to you?
“I do actually find it a big turn on when I wake up sometimes in the middle of the night and I know that he’s sort of caressing himself…”
“If you didn’t have orgasms you’d be questioning what was wrong.”
How do you talk to your partner about sex?
“I’m actually in the middle of writing a story and I’ve kind of based it on my fantasies... ”
Did sex hurt the first time you did it?
“… it was a new sensation for me I wasn't use to at all so but the more I got relaxed the better it felt ”
“I don't feel the need to cuddle, I certainly don't smoke I don't feel the need to immediately jump in the shower but just to have some form of connection with the person you’re with.”
How did you lose your virginity?
“It was nervous time for me ‘cos I knew it was the first time for my wife as well. ”
How did you feel when you found out your partner was pregnant?
“… it was a time when I was allowed to talk to the back of the head of my partner which is something she wouldn’t normally like too much”
“I find my partner enjoys the fact that I’m still paying attention after sex, whether it’s just caressing her body or if its kissing her gently...”
How important is masturbation to you?
“Masturbation is great but sex with someone else is even better. ”
How often do you look at pornographic images?
“I would rather read a good book than watch porn. ”
Have you ever slept with more than one person at the same time?
“I found myself focusing on one person and then another and the other.”
“...it takes all the sexual tension and all the intimacy out of it when you are holding something that’s shaped like a cactus…”
“Even though it’s an intimate moment between two people its very dirty so I'm straight in the bathroom.”