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Lusipher, Rose, Jenny, Shirley, Nicky, Alex, Adam, Eileen, Chris, Lela, Rob O, Lisa, Matthew, Jackie, Peter, Nohl, Danny, Michelle T, Claire, Raj, and Shantelle mention growing up
What was the worst sex you ever had?
“She did absolutely nothing. I mean, she just lied there, she wouldn’t move, she didn’t want to get involved in any foreplay…”
When were you sure of your sexual identity?
“Even at school when we played, you know, Mr and Mrs I’d never really want to play it with the girls.”
What impact did abortion have on you longer term?
“You wonder what might have been. You wonder if you made the right decision.”
How did your parents tell you about sex?
“When I did actually start my period, and she said oh, don’t worry about that, it’s a period, and it’s just something you have every month, and that was it.”
How did your parents tell you about sex?
“We don’t have to sit there blatantly talking about sex all the time, but they know they can come to me, they can ask me anything.”
How did you lose your virginity?
“I was with with a boyfriend that I’d been with for about 6 months at the time, but I had pretty much the usual, the old cliché which I think a lot of us girls tend to fall for…”
“I come from a strict Chinese Christian family. Sex is absolutely taboo in the house, you can’t mention the word sex without making my parents angry.”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“I have quite a traditional Chinese Christian family and my mum thinks that, you know, things like that, it’s a one way ticket to hell. ”
How important is masturbation to you?
“You know I used to do it at school. I used to have competitions with my friends in the toilets.”
“You know, when you’re 6, you don’t really know what’s happening and why it’s happening. I mean, I thought the guy was peeing on her.”
How did your parents tell you about sex?
“The only sex chat I’ve ever had with my mum occurred when I was about 17 and I’d just come back from a guy I was seeing…”
When were you sure of your sexual identity?
“I discovered my sexuality very early on, I was a very precocious child so my earliest memory of sexual activity is when I was in kindergarten.”
“We wasn’t given bananas or cucumbers to practise on, we was just told how to put it on our fingers.”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“I felt like… well, you know, she’d caught me doing something that was my secret.”
What impact did abortion have on you longer term?
“It has changed my view on it. Before I would have tried to force the girl as much as possible to have had an abortion.”
“She said that a man gets his willy and he sticks it into your fanny. Quite blunt like that but I suppose when you’re 7 and 8 and she was 14…”
When were you sure of your sexual identity?
“Boys didn’t, didn’t interest me, but girls didn’t interest me either I was just like a bit of a tomboy.”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“I didn’t know how to handle the situation really, um… so I… think I made a little lie up and said I was making the bed!”
“I can remember reading a book called The Secret Garden that were about two lesbians, my mother nearly had apoplexy...”
How did your parents tell you about sex?
“I certainly don’t remember us having the archetypal birds and the bees talk. Erm... I don’t think anything was really mentioned.”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“By the time I sort of like opened my eyes and refocused I realised that, erm... ”
When were you sure of your sexual identity?
“By the age of 9 I was aware that I had definite interests in, as some would say, the male section of the catalogue rather than the female.”
“They were never really that good, although I do remember that that was the first time that I was told that oral sex was something you didn’t have down the phone.”
How did your parents tell you about sex?
“When it came to the time for my parents to tell me about sex, erm, it was too late by then.”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“The worst thing was, we never said anything to each other afterwards.”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“He was shouting and my brothers friend was laughing and I was trying to pull my trousers up…”
Have you ever talked to your parents about sex?
“I think they just see it as quite a private topic to sort of talk about because obviously they're not, sort of open about it. Whereas myself I'm a very open person and I don't mind what I talk about. ”
How often do you look at pornographic images?
“… when you get to my age you've been there, seen it, done it and, to be fair, I don't think there's anything that a pornographic video could show me now …”
“At the same time we also had the childbirth video, which has left me as a vegetarian for the rest of my life …”
When was the first time you looked at pornography and what was your reaction?
“The first time I saw anything that was pornographic was I was walking to school with a friend of mine and he dropped a magazine from underneath his jacket to the embarrassment of every other school child walking across the road and er, and after being que”
What’s the most useful advice about sex you’ve ever been given?
“It’s supposed to be something of pleasure erm, it’s not something that you can force ”