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  1. umm, lots to think about here. I can't imagine having to make a decision like this. thanks for all your thoughts and insight”

    Posted by Phil on 30th Jun at 11:43AM (flag as inappropriate)

  2. Personally, I think any man, or person for that matter, who tries to force a woman into an abortion she really does not want is being completely unfair (to put it nicely)

    I had an abortion recently, I always said I would never have one, but got pregnant unplanned. My husband and I did't have the conditions to bring a child into the world. He never once tried to force it on me, although we both agreed it was for the best. It was extremely difficult and I will not be doing it again. The whole experience was just horrendous.”

    Posted by Kelly on 2nd Apr at 9:46PM (flag as inappropriate)

  3. I think making that decision for me was on of the hardest decisions i ever had to make but i think it happened all too quickly. I found out i was pregnant and i panicked, i wanted an abortion, but i didnt take enough time to think about it. Between the time of finding out i was pregnant and having the termanation there was only 10 days between it. Unfortunalty, i did change my mind but it was too late by then. Afterwards i was just so numb, trying to not think about what i did but eventually it all caught up with me and i experienced depression. My partner who i am still 7 years later, said about a year after it had happened that he wished i hadnt gone through with that and i think that was the hardest thing to hear, especially as we discussed it at the time and left the decision to me. I think longer term it really has affected me emotionally, as i think about it even to this day and on the day it happened i still become very sad. I dont think its something i will ever get over. However, it isnt the same for everyone, everyone just reacts differently. I think i would have done things differently if i could turn back the clock. I would advise that people really do take the time to think about it, i just wish i had taken more time i guess.

    I think its difficult as it actually now makes me cautious of having children as i know that that experience for me will be mared in someway by guilt.”

    Posted by Debbie on 9th Oct at 2:02AM (flag as inappropriate)

  4. i believe it was the right thing for me to do at that time, yet my relationship deteiorated over the years boiling down to how my partner had been excluded and hurt over my decision.”

    Posted by s on 29th Sep at 7:04PM (flag as inappropriate)

It has changed my view on it. Before I would have tried to force the girl as much as possible to have had an abortion.”

Rob O, 19

Sex facts

  • In England, Wales and Scotland abortion is legal until the 24th week of pregnancy.
  • To get an abortion on the NHS, a woman needs to be referred by a doctor.
  • In 2006 (the last full year for which statistics are available) there were 193,700 abortions in England and Wales.

Other people answering What impact did abortion have on you longer term?

  • Video by Marsie

    “I think at the time I was quite upset because you know you do sort of wonder about what what the child would have looked like.”

    Marsie, 35

  • Video by Jenny

    “You wonder what might have been. You wonder if you made the right decision.”

    Jenny, 39

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