“It should definitely be a yes because at the end of the day not all orgasms can be achieved through intercourse…”
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If you don’t, then it obviously means that there’s something wrong with your relationship.”
“It should definitely be a yes because at the end of the day not all orgasms can be achieved through intercourse…”
“If you didn’t have orgasms you’d be questioning what was wrong.”
“You can do that by playing with yourself, you don’t really need a guy to do that for you.”
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13 posted so far
I have to disagree with you. In the beginning of my current relationship I didn't get orgasm because I was nervous. Quite Frankly it would have been weird if I hadn't been nervous, I was dating my high school crush two years after high school ended. Who wouldn't be nervous?
On the flipside I have dated a narcist and did get an orgasm everytime we had sex. Except the time he raped me and then said I had seduced him. ”
Posted by Emily on 8th Sep at 5:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
that is in my opinion the silliest thing i have read onhere so far.. I absolutely adore sex, even though i have never had an orgasm.”
Posted by KT on 1st Apr at 11:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm afraid that I totally disagree with your comment Rob. I'm female and I've been with my partner for 3 years now, and yes we do have sex, but it's not everything. We have sex for several reasons. The main reason is because we see it as a way of being closer to each other, as well as it feeling good (which is a bonus). I can honestly say that I don't orgasm everytime that I have sex with him, but that doesn't mean that I haven't enjoyed myself. I don't always get to the orgasmic stage, however I have felt VERY good. Also, my boyfriend doesn't always "go" but again, he says that that doesn't mean that he hasn't had a good time; I mean it is pretty obvious that he was aroused..
So yes Rob, there's nothing wrong with our relationship, simply because we don't orgasm during sex EVERY time.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 10:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
it wasnt until i turned 18 that i started getting orgasms during sex and its nothing to do with your relationship or how you feel about the person its all about the right spots i used to have a friend who i would have sex with when i was single and he could always give me about 4 if not more orgasms during forplay and sex i think this was just down to experience where as i have only ever had orgasms from two blokes in a relationship with me and one of them i wasnt really attracted to and it wasnt working out but we still had orgasms where as my current boyfriend cant make me get an orgasm it just seems to happen now and then out of the blue.”
Posted by fran on 15th Oct at 2:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
i dont think its important to have an orgasm but it does improve the relationship if you havent been feeling too great just before. like if i have a small argument with my boyfriend and we then have sex im more likely to hold a tiny childish grudge after if i dont orgasm just because its part of the fun in a relationship but if i was to have an argasm i would just cuddle up with him after and act like nothing bad has happened its like the addrenaline rush of the argasm makes you forgetful in the heat of the moment!”
Posted by fran on 15th Oct at 1:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
if you do you do and it wonderful ... if you don't its fine. doesnt mean that your relationship is going downhill (: ”
Posted by Anna on 14th Oct at 9:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
I dont think its important to have an orgasm some poeple have sex just for the feeling. I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and sometime when we have sex i dont orgasm but i dont think anything is wrong i may just no be in the right mood.”
Posted by Nichola on 14th Oct at 7:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had my first orgasm when i was 19 with my boyfriend, he also had his first orgasm at the same time as me. We haven't had sex yet so we orgasm through stimulation. We know what works for eachother so orgasm's are very important to us.
I can also have nipple orgasm's =]”
Posted by Kim on 9th Oct at 12:33AM (flag as inappropriate)
your opinion angers me. If you don't orgasm it does not mean there is 'obviously' somethng wrong with your reationship. A relationship should mean more than being able to orgasm during sex. Everyone is different and what works for some might not work for others. Having spontanious sex is a massive turn on and foreplay is important for me to reach an orgasm, its an awesome feeling but i am not disheartened if i don't get one every time. I am a female and sometimes i am quite satisfied with the fact that my partner climaxed, tho is is great when we orgasm together.”
Posted by CLARE on 5th Oct at 10:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
Rob will learn as he gets older that there are other eliments to sex, than just an orgasm. like fine wine, sex gets better with age”
Posted by Yvonne on 3rd Oct at 11:52AM (flag as inappropriate)
my girlfriend doesn't really orgasm through penetration but orgasms from clitoral stimulation. Is there ways of improving this?”
Posted by Dave on 28th Sep at 9:15AM (flag as inappropriate)
I only orgasm through intercourse with my current partner and that took almost a year. It meant so much as it was on our first holiday and since then it has become a regular thing. It made me feel that I was totally relaxed around him. That doesn't mean they're a must I have had other relationships without it and they were great.”
Posted by Jen on 27th Sep at 10:26AM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been with my partner for 8 months, we regularly have brilliant sex but I just had my first orgasm with him last night. I didn't feel there was anything wrong in our relationship, it was more about me and how I felt. I was finally ready to let go, and it was my first orgasm ever! Bring on more :)”
Posted by Holly on 23rd Sep at 9:25PM (flag as inappropriate)