“I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”
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I lost my virginity um when my husband and I had our first night of marriage together. ”
“I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”
“After I done it I felt happy and pleased that I had done it and good but I didn't feel like I needed to do it again anytime soon…”
“It was nervous time for me ‘cos I knew it was the first time for my wife as well. ”
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er, i lost mine when i was 13. it was fairly recent. im only 14 now, i had been off and on relationship with a guy at my school for about 6 months,we had already done other stuff, blow jobs and stuff but to be honest he was a jerk, one day we were hanging out in his friends house while their parents were out, and all our mates were having a laugh and locked us in the parents room, one thing led to another. i deeply regret it. we broke up within a matter of weeks and havent spoken since.”
Posted by Flo on 28th Sep at 2:25AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm now 17 and I have been with my boyfriend over a year. I told him from the beginning that I wanted to take the whole relationship slow, due to problems at home and problems at college. He really understood me, and I fell completely in love with him. We did a lot of things together, I had to go to the hospital for check ups and he would come with me. He was very supportive in all I did. We were not only a couple, but we were also best friends. After a few months we decided to have sex with each other for the first time (at the time I was sixteen). Things in the relationship remained fine. We then had sex up to 3/4 times a week but a few months later we started to argue day in and day out over small things. He then started lying about where he was going and what he was doing.. then we just ended up arguing, so we sat down and spoke about how things had changed and he seemed to get worse after the talk. We stayed together a further 2 weeks, then I decided it wasn't worth it no more. I still love him but I'm moving on now.”
Posted by Hayley on 19th Sep at 8:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17 almost 18 and I lost my virginity to my ex boyfriend. We were together for over 1 year, I loved him and decided I was ready so we had sex after one month of being together. We drifted apart but I'm glad I lost it to someone who I really did love. I have not had sex since then as I'm waiting for someone else who will treat me right.”
Posted by Doris on 14th Sep at 7:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity to my boyfriend after only 2 weeks of being with him. He didnt take his time kissing me or making passionate love to me, he was only interested in getting his dick in. He was with me a month after he'd taken my virginity and I regret it so much because a year on I still haven't been able to get over it. I was so stupid.”
Posted by kaylee on 31st Aug at 5:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
It's interesting: nowadays, half of the people says "come, have sex with me" and half of them says "wait, wait, wait". I prefer the second option. I'm 18 years old, and still virgin, and I'm not sad about it at all. Of course, I want to...how could I say?...I want to be experienced, I want to loose my V, but not now. I don't feel myself ready enough to it. With my ex, we decided not to do it. It was very good with him, although we didn't have sex. We were very respectful, and didn't want to pressure each other into it. I say, wait for the one, you know and love enough, and then you can do it...I think, it's the best...so I wait for my Love. :)”
Posted by Gaby on 18th Jul at 6:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 30 and still a virgin and proud of it. I'm waiting for my wedding night. I think these days being a virgin is something to be proud of. Why rush into something you may come to regret in time.”
Posted by P on 18th Jul at 6:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost it when I was 22 to a handsome 28 year old marine officer. He was one of the representatives of his country in mine. I met him in a soiree which we both were invited to. I was drunk like shit from the freeflowing whiskey that night. He took me home in a cab. Little did I know that he ring his own celly using mine to get my number. The next day he called and asked me out for a lunch. We went to a park and had a great long lunch there which turned into a heavy makeout as soon as we finished the meal. I got carried away. He was damn good and experienced. He then suggested us getting a room, I agreed and there it happened. He popped my cherry in a cheap smoking hotel room. We were in a relationship afterwards, he was the most amazing boyfriend I have ever had in my life. 3 months after it happened, he proposed to me.. we were engaged for 2 weeks before his superior made him see no future with me. We have some fundamental differences that would always get in our way, we were ready to combat everything but he suddenly backed out leaving me all alone. I dont know.. I dont regret it but I dont feel like ever having sex again.. I only want him. Life's hard.”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied} on 22nd Jun at 6:27AM (flag as inappropriate)
I've lost my virginity when i was 23 (now I'm 25). I think it's a good age because I was mature and ready to be sexually active. I lost it with a guy that I never loved. It was just a sexual attraction that lasted 5 months then we split. I don't regret it since I've learnt a lot from him (he was 6 years older than me), he always respected me so never felt dirty. Last year, I've met the love of my life. Now it's fabulous sex and love so it's fireworks. I'm really glad that my bf is totally crazy about me and confessed he never did such wonderful sex in the past. So if one feels ready explore sex. What if you wait until marriage and find out that you're sexually not compatible?? I don't feel that for my age it's a bad thing that I slept with 2 guys only. And with this current one I am going to get marry. Making love and having sex with him made us closer for sure!”
Posted by Roby on 18th May at 12:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity when i was 14, on an abandoned bus with a boy I had known for 2 days. At the time I was under a lot of influence from my friend as I was going through a stage where I didn't really know who I was, and she lost her virginity when she was 12. To be honest I didn't enjoy the experience at all, i found it really uncomfortable and sore, so I pushed him away. He was really mean afterwards, even though I was in quite a bit of pain. Since then I haven't really enjoyed sex, like one bad experience has ruined the rest, type of thing. I think that young people should definitely wait until they are ready, don't follow the crowd.”
Posted by Lauren on 17th May at 11:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 16(now 17) when i lost my virginity to my bestfriends big brother. i got a ticket for a slipknot gig but had no one 2 got with so ma mate was like ma big bro is goin he'll look after ya.
so after the gig he was like i really like u n like a week later we were goin out. i really liked him at the time and didn't care wot my mate said about him. so she was falling out with me and then i ended up losing ma virginity then a week later he then dumped me. i wish i took it slow as it would have been better as i could trust the person n if they loved u they would wait. now 6 months down the line i still rush in to sex i blame it on the 1st expiernce as i have now slept with 5 guy n i have now settled down with a new boyfriend who i love very much xxx
i also still see my 1st but i don't care he's the 1 that feels weird round me n me n ma mate grew closer after her bro dumped me xxx ”
Posted by Rebekah on 12th May at 11:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
my first time was, altough enjoyable, at first painful and in his mums bed. But i dont regeret it”
Posted by becca on 10th May at 12:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity when i was 14, i kinda regret it since i was young and my ex treated me like garbage. i told him i wanted to wait for marriage and he didnt respect it and pressured me and i stupidly gave in. my current boyfriend and i have been together 4 months and havent had sex. we both wish we waited for each other.”
Posted by Liz on 10th May at 12:22AM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time was a quickie with my ex in his dingy little bedroom while him mum was out. I regret that I lost it to him,but I don't regret doing it.”
Posted by Caitlin on 7th May at 3:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity when I was 13 in a shed at the bottom of my friends garden. I wish I had waited as, by the next day the whole village knew about it and I got myself a bad name. After that I could never get a decent boyfriend they only wanted one thing!”
Posted by Louise on 7th May at 10:30AM (flag as inappropriate)
I will never regret losing my virginity. I loved him at the time, and I was so ready. We were happy and in such a position that we were more than comfortable with each other and each others bodies, that it wasn't awkward, rushed, painful, embarressing. It was enlightening, amazing and fulfilling.”
Posted by Janet on 5th May at 10:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
I remember when I first moved into student housing and there was one night where all of us girls were in my housemate's room and everyone was comparing how long ago since they had sex. I kept quiet for a while then voiced up saying "I beat you all... I've NEVER had it!". There was a moment of silence then they all started clapping and congratualting me! Alot of them regretted loosing their V. This made me feel comfortable and pleased with myself... I was pretty much the only person I knew who still kept their V. It wasn't until a couple of months ago where I got with my current partner and while he's more experienced, I felt lucky to loose it with him. I trust him and we took it slow. My advice to people is to take it slow, not rush into it and make sure you trust your partner 100%.”
Posted by Emma on 5th May at 4:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
...I waited until my wedding night too, and it was amazing. Unfortunately, my husband had been with other women before he met me, and although I'm really happy that he respected me enough to wait with me until our wedding night, I'd much rather that had been his first time too... He's had a fresh start with me. I just want to say to all of those who have said that they regret their first time and wish they would have waited, you can have a fresh start too... We all make mistakes, but it's up to us to make sure we don't keep making the same mistake over and over - nobody else can make that choice for us! Good luck to all of you who are waiting.”
Posted by Stacey on 30th Apr at 3:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
... I lost my virginity at 18 at my 1 year anniversary with my boyfriend. 4 years later we are still together and getting married in august. I love him more than ever.. but I still have that guilt towards my parents that I didn't wait til my wedding night...”
Posted by tiffany on 27th Apr at 5:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity the way you're not supposed to... after a few vodkas with a guy I'd only known a few hours when I was 18 and into my second term at university.
All the people I had met at uni had had lots of experience and there was little me, the odd one out! I had gone out on the pull loads of times before but was always quite choosy and on this night the guy was so so handsome and I had seen him out before so I thought - I want to have sex with HIM!
So I did and believe it or not 4 years later we are still together having amazing sex. I was VERY lucky. That doesn't happen to people normally. And he knew I was a virgin without me telling him because when he broke my hymen I bled all over his bed so its best to be honest.
He told me later he wishes I had told him so he could have given me a more sensitive first time (and not an hour after snogging in a bar) but I have no regrets and he's the only man I ever want to have sex with.”
Posted by Rose on 21st Apr at 7:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
My husband and I waited until our wedding night and I am so glad we did, it was perfect.
However I hate that people assume it is a religious thing. I am not religious, I just respect myself.
A close friend of mine the other day asked how my hubby and I vary our sex life as we were both virgins before each other and thus dont know anything other than what we learned together. My shock was that I would HATE for my husband to suddenly try something new because a girl before me used to like it or he used to like it with her, yuck!! When I was at Uni there was a poster for STIs and it had a picture of a tampon saying "would you use it if someone else had before you?" Definately not!! 4 years of marriage on and we are still enjoying learning together!”
Posted by hannah on 2nd Apr at 6:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
i really think that's just amazing n beautiful! :-) i find it so hard in this day and age to find someone who has actually waited until marriage or wants to, before losing their virginity. our society today puts so much pressure on having sex at a young age that the whole concept of no sex before marriage seems weird to a lot of people! personally i think abstinence should be celebrated n thought about in a positive light. im 19 and am more than proud to say i wanna wait until marriage x”
Posted by Rehana on 2nd Apr at 12:55AM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 17 and eventhough I waited til I was legal to loose my virginity it was still a big regret. I said I would wait for the right person and then messed it all up. The best piece ov advice I could give to ppl is wait and til your ready dont ever let a guy pressure u into it or just do it cos ur mate does cos youll feel worse after but if you do make this mistake just try and learn by it xx”
Posted by bex on 2nd Apr at 12:28AM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity when I was 17 (this was quite an average age to loose the big V when i was growing up) I know that I wasn't ready to do so but felt like i had too, pressure from friends and such building up, i just felt like i should get it over and done with. So i was at a friends house party, got nicely drunk on a few vodkas to calm the nerves, i had invited an older male friend (he was 20) to this party and i knew he was interested so i pretty much knew that it was going to happen. So i was very drunk at this point and we ended up in my friends bedroom, undressed each other and got to it, i was happy that he bought protection because it didnt even cross my mind. Now i dont actually remember having sex, i don't remeber what it felt like or how i felt but i know that we did it. The morning after i felt hungover of course but also felt relieved that it was over with. Now, a few years on i do wish that i could go back and do things over and would possibly wait a bit longer to loose my virginity and definatly not have done it when i was drunk.”
Posted by Kirsty on 1st Apr at 11:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
I waited until after I was 16 and in a steady relationship. It was amazing, it hurt for a small few seconds but when i relaxed I was fine. I still remember the date =) 2nd December 2007 - it was so speical i will remember it forever... We have since recently gotten engaged.”
Posted by Rosie on 1st Apr at 11:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
I first had sex on my 17th birthday. I had been with my partner for about three months, although she was already experienced, I didn't have a clue. I felt comfortable and enjoyed it, because I new my partner well enough not to be worried about anything. It was weirdly quite funny. We are still together now...”
Posted by Francis on 1st Apr at 10:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost mine on a beach in a tent aftr my boyfriend decided he was ready to take it. i never enjoyed it”
Posted by kimberley on 1st Apr at 9:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity at the age of 14. I was on holiday in spain and had sneaked out to a night club with my friend. As the night went on different guys were buying me drinks and this one guy baught me a drink and asked me to go awalk with him. I was that drunk i said yess. We went to the beach and ended up haveing sex he was 24 and Italien. I didnt even know his name. I have slept with 10 guys,but recently split up with my boyfriend who i had been going out with for over a year. I wish i had waited to have sex with him because i am only just 16 and have slept with 9 guys before him.”
Posted by Frances on 1st Apr at 9:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 19 and had no idea what to do. Sex education was technical and I'd not experienced porn or had parents explain it. I still class the second time as a first time as technically I was so rubbish.”
Posted by Matt on 1st Apr at 11:51AM (flag as inappropriate)
I think it's fantastic and really romantic that you waited till your marrage I am 16 years old and lost my virginity just after my 16th birthday. He was a year and half older an I felt guilty for making him wait for me and I even appologised for it. At the time we were goin through some difficulties and i thought if I slept with him it would make evrything go away and I wouldn't loose him and he would still love me. Unfortunately it didn't work and the next time I saw him he ended it with me. It made me feel used and dirty and unwanted. I really regret my first time and wishd I had waited.
I look back on it and feel stupid for the saying sorry to him and all I can say to peole is to never sleep with your partner to please them or to tyr and keep them and never apologise for not being ready. If he really loves you he WILL wait and respect you untilll YOU are ready to take the next step.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 10:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity when i was sixteen. I wanted to wait til i was seventeen just to feel a bit more grown up, but my sex drive kicked in and a gots a bit tipsay at a party!
My boy was there, just chilling on a chair, so i went to him and asked if he wanted to do anything.
I honestly felt so relaxed in the situation that we did it really comfortably..
im not saying it didnt hurt.. OMG it was painful.. but tbh, once you get over that initial pain, its all sailin, init!
make sure youre in de mood before you do it... otherwise you wont relaxh!!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 10:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
virginity is a special thing and it shouldnt be taken advantage of! unfortunatley i was taken advantage of at a party and i think some1 put something in my drink, i knew what was happening but had to strength to stop it. This wasnt the best experience, but since then i met a lovley boyfriend and we had a really good sex life and it was loving just like sex was suppose to be, so ill always say i lost my virginty to him, but i do wish that night never happened, watch ur drinks!”
Posted by danielle. on 31st Mar at 10:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
You all waited and I really admire u all I lost my chance of eva having something that special. I am 13 and last month I had sex with my boyfriend (loosing my virginaty) to anyone that reads this I don't recomend it even if u r in love with the guy or girl (I'm a girl by the way) wait till ur both legal! All the kids in my school found out and il tell u it was so not worth it, the ridicule is terrible! I realized I didn't love this guy and broke up with him last week, now I may sound like a slag but I'm not, I got a new boyfriend a few days later and even if he begged me I wud not have sex with him untill I'm legal and I love him far more than my last boyfriend, cuz it is just not worth it! Oh by the way I'm not just some slag from a state school I actually go to a goody goody tooshoes private school so wat I did was even more of a skandel.
As I said I really admire all the women that saved sex for their marrage and I wish I was more like them! Good luck to them all with their marrages it sounds like u all truly love ur husbands and wives and they love u 2 I hope I have a marrage like that. ”
Posted by Kate on 31st Mar at 9:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 14 and i think it's great that you waited till you got married and i'm going to wait as well but i have a boyfriend and he doesn't pressure me at all but i'm finding myself fighting temptation and it's becoming increasingly harder i just hope i can hold on!”
Posted by Becci on 31st Mar at 9:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was with my boyfriend for about 2 weeks before we had sex. I was with him for another 6 months, but after the sex things went downhill. I regret losing my virginity so early in the relationship, and that I was only 15. But sex doesn't seem like such a huge deal to me anymore. I know it is to some people, but since my first (and only) time wasn't special, it's sort-of lost its significance to me. I'm not proud of this, and I regret losing my virginity when and how I did. I think it's great for those who wait until marriage, really shows self-control and you know it'll be so special when you finally do it. I admire you.”
Posted by Sarah on 31st Mar at 7:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
With my boyfriend when I was 17 and he was 19. It was great because we waited until we were both totally ready, I was on the pill, and able to relax with no parents around. 2 n a half years later we're still together!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 4:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I definitelt think that the sort of lessons the Sex Education Show give,need to be taught throughout public schools all over the UK.
Im 17,living in exmouth,and my sisters 13,a year9 student. the other day she came home and told me that 3 girls in her year are pregnant,and all have said they want to keep the babies because babies are cute. So these girls have also said, i dont want to tell my mum cause she'll go mental,so if i tell noone,and keep the baby,i get a cute mini me! HOW RIDICULOUS IS THAT!
my sister also said she wasnt even shock people were having sex at her age,because loads of the boys ask girls to try it with them. I also think drugs are a big problem and need more teaching,my sister dumped her last boyfriend cos he was selling Weed for his brother in school,and admitted to her that he had snorted Coke.
I know thats not sex related,but it shows that younger and younger,things are being experimented and tried that really dont need to! ”
Posted by Carly on 31st Mar at 1:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 17 when I lost my virginity, I was in Basic Training in the Army and it was with a bi-sexual girl - it lasted all of 5 minutes as we had to stop through fear of being caught. So it wasn't that great to me. However when I got married at 20 my 19 year old wife at the time was a virgin, and I had already slept with 4 girls, I felt really guilty. I am now 22 and she is 21 and we could not be happier. I just wish I would have waited as long as she did.”
Posted by Matt on 31st Mar at 10:30AM (flag as inappropriate)
Yeah, I want to wait until im married, not becasue of religion just want to be loved and repsected ! Thanks Jo, it's really lovely to know people out there feel the same, sometimes it can feel like everyone is having sex and your abnormal because you want to wait.”
Posted by Amy on 31st Mar at 9:34AM (flag as inappropriate)
It was on the night of my 18th birthday and I was highly intoxicated.. I recall very little but he was my boyfriend at the time! I think I slept with him for the wrong reasons, just because I thought it was what he expected. Moved on now and sex with my fiance is totally different!”
Posted by Victoria on 31st Mar at 12:31AM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity at a party. So, i was going out with a girl that i met about a year ago but we lost contact after that and got chatting a few months back. I was at a house party with her and we both got rather drunk. I fell asleep on a bed and she fell asleep next to me a little later. When i woke up we started kissing and messing around. We ended up having rather drunk sex and it wasnt the best. I eventually gave up and went on MySpace. I had new messages. We broke up afew weeks later because we never saw each other. After her i have only slept with one other girl and that was good no strings attached sex.”
Posted by Connor on 31st Mar at 12:10AM (flag as inappropriate)
I think this is lovely, although I do think people put too much importance on first sex. What's important to me is the last person I have sex with! The person I've shared my life with, and the person I learn to really make love to. Sex is not the greatest gift you can give someone--giving them your life is. ”
Posted by julia on 30th Mar at 10:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have not had sex yet! i am 18years old and i feel like i am ready but i am very nervous about it. Help ?”
Posted by sophie on 30th Mar at 10:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
Lost mine to my boyfriend(who was also a virgin) 1 month into dating each other when I was 16 1/2. When I look back I think that it was really quick but after the first time we waited for another couple of months to do it again. We now have a healthy sex life and are 1 year 4 months into our relationship going strong.”
Posted by Samantha on 30th Mar at 9:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
i think it is lovely you waited until you got married, i lost my virginity at teh yound age of 14 and at the time i thought my boyfriend loved me, as you can probably guess we split up, now im 16 and i have been with my current boyfriend for nine months and now i wish i would of waited A)until i was the legal age and B)until i found my current partner
i believe theres someone for everyone, i've found mine you will find yours, if i could leave you with one message it would be wait until your comfortable you have your contraception sorted and most important until you've dound someone who loves and respects you!”
Posted by Sophie on 28th Mar at 6:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have had sex with two people, both of whom were boyfriends whom i thought loved me and, at the time, knew it was right. both boys messed me about and as soon as they'd had sex with me a few times i discovered both times they'd been cheating on me.
it is safe to say that i won't be sleeping with anyone until i know they respect me, this time.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 24th Mar at 10:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I got married 9 months ago and also lost my virginity on my wedding night as did my husband I was 24, he was 27. I'm so glad we both waited! we were together 3 and half years before we got married and although it was a tough time waiting we are both really glad we did! Its a wonderful gift to give someone and knowing that you're in a secure relationship makes it really special! Also we have the added bonus of never worrying about STIs cos we've only been with each other!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 13th Mar at 2:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
This is so nice to find! Well done Jo, I really admire the fact you and your husband waited until marriage. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we are also waiting until we marry before we lose our virginity to each other. We know it's the right decision, and although our friends don't understand and think we should go for it - we feel no pressure! Temptation does get to us a little, but we soon remember what we are doing and it's no longer a problem. Roll on the wedding night!!”
Posted by Rachel on 8th Jan at 9:10AM (flag as inappropriate)
Hey Jo, i'm a 14 year old girl (and I'm still a virgin!) I think this is so sweet how you were a virgin until you got married I'd love that to be what happens to me but there's so much pressure at my school :( I hope your having a happy marriage and life, it sounds wonderful :D”
Posted by Heather on 15th Oct at 6:31PM (flag as inappropriate)
I also lost my virginity on my wedding night two months ago. it was difficult waiting but well worth it! we both were virgins and it was and still is nice getting to know each others bodies in our own time and without judgement. i don't feel like i've missed out on having 'fun' as now I am but within a loving and secure relationship which i feel is so important to people's emotional wellbeing.”
Posted by Katherine on 15th Oct at 4:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 15 when i lost my virginity, i thought about it carefully and knew i was ready and with the right person. We waited until valentines day and it was really romantic, it is one of my best memories. Its almost 5 years later and im proud to say i have no regrets at all.”
Posted by Amy on 11th Oct at 5:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 and still a virgin, and have always wanted to be a virgin till I marry. I'm not that religous, its more down to my upbringing, but I'm the only one out of 4 which has adopted this attiude. So far it hasnt been that hard, but once I'm in a proper relationship I just hope I can resist temtation lol. But with a little self control I'm sure I can last, and I'm sure it will be well worth the wait.”
Posted by Eleanor on 10th Oct at 10:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I think that's a great way to lose your virginity. Definitely the most romantic. I'm hoping to go down the same route. x”
Posted by Lizzie on 5th Oct at 5:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 22 and engaged and I am proud to say the only person have slept with is my husband to be. I had morals and loosing my virginity was a big thing for me. We both wanted the time to be right. So when I get married, I will know that he is the only person who I have given the whole of myself too and I love that.”
Posted by Kerrie on 3rd Oct at 1:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
Me and my bf both lost our virginity to each other. I was 18 and he was 19. I have had bf's in the past but i never felt comfortable enough to have sex with them. Me and my current bf waited for about 2 months before we had any sexual contact (other than kissing). We've been together for 3 years now and still going strong. It makes me so happy to think we both waited till we were with the right person :)”
Posted by anna on 1st Oct at 11:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 16 and have sexual experiances but not yet had full sex i am just waiting for that right person and i want it to be perfect, i want to do it with someone i love and not just a one off. ”
Posted by mel on 1st Oct at 3:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
Good for you for waiting, the only person i have slept with is my husband BUT it was before we got married, we just couldn't resist eachother! More people should wait, it seems that nowadays people have had tens to hundreds of sexual partners before getting married which is not good.”
Posted by Lisa on 30th Sep at 9:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
im a christian too, but im 14. all my friends are going on about what they have done with a lad etc and i dont feel pressured but after reading all the comments and jo's response, i feel as if i will wait till im married, i mean its a good lifestyle anyway isnt it? i know your'e probably thinking "what would she know, shes only 14" but the fact that there are loads of men on this site saying they wished they waited till they were married, just really encouraging......Th ank you x.x.x”
Posted by Hannah on 30th Sep at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
im a 22 male and have recently been with my girlfriend for a few months, im the only one out of my friends that hasnt had sex because i want to wait and share that time with someone special, couldnt care less what other ppl think of my decision to wait.
in last few months been out of work with [back pain] which has been agony and ive been unable to leave my house but my girlfriend has waited by my side and looked after me and been so patient so i no ive now got someone special to share my first time with.”
Posted by rob on 29th Sep at 1:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
Jo that sounds lovely :)
Although it was hard work, I waited till I was married, and I am so glad I did!! I felt loved and respected :)”
Posted by Eve on 25th Sep at 7:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
Yes I totally agree with your decision. I am married three years and completely happy, my husband and I both lost our virginity on our wedding night. We had been together for six years, and boy was it hard waiting! However, it was worth the wait, we both had the most precious gift to give-our bodies. As christians, we believe that sex is for within marriage, and it is sad that it is abused and seen as something to get rid of in today's society.”
Posted by Catherine on 24th Sep at 5:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
Lucky for you. I had to pay for my first time. Not everyone has a choice.”
Posted by Ian on 21st Sep at 1:05AM (flag as inappropriate)
This is really lovely Jo!
It's so nice to see someone with morals I thought I'd have waiting for 'the one'.
Although I now have a connection with friends who all had and can understand friends who already though I had, and had 'the fun' of loosing it as a teen; it makes me feel abit sad I lost mine at 17 to someone older than me that I hardly knew (who definately didn't know it was my first time along with most of my friends!) with no passion at all then this would probably be the last time I seen them again!
I think at a nice age, with someone you trust is a must! x”
Posted by Louise on 18th Sep at 10:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was quite happy to wait but then 1 day it just happened to happen and it was truely amazing, the setting, everything i loved it and it just felt so right, it was a beautiful thing”
Posted by jacky on 18th Sep at 6:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
What lovely comments! I'm 19 and fed up of people telling me I'm stupid for waiting for the right person. Even mature adults, the nurse that came into school to give a sex education lesson, have said perhaps I will regret not having had the 'fun' everyone else has had. People seem to think I feel guilty about sex because I've made the choice to wait but I think the opposite is true. I just think sex should be an amazing experience with someone you love. Thats what Anna said on the show 'Great sex is all about confidence and intimancy with another person'. Young people today are losing their self confidence by having multiple sexual partners before they are mature enough to develop that kind of fulfilling intimacy. The baggage of never quite knowing if they're good enough in bed or whether sex gets any better than what they've experienced leads to a loss of self confidence which affects their ability to form intimate relationships with people in the future. Love and romance have lost all connection with sex for many which is sad.”
Posted by Rachael on 17th Sep at 9:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
I think its a very nice way to lose your virginity, trust me I'd rather lose it that way than in some manky park while you've missed your lesson at 13 with someone you met the other day! I have kind of developed strong values about sex, I totally agree with waiting for at least a year with a partner before even thinking about doing it. Although I don't think there are many men out there who could wait that long!!! :(”
Posted by D on 17th Sep at 6:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am so pleased this is on here. my husband and also waited for our wedding night i agree with what the lady said we also felt those thisg and i am glad i waited and we celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary soon”
Posted by Emma on 17th Sep at 3:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
This is encouraging. Am 28 and still a virgin, not for luck of someone to shag but out of choice. My friends think am more sexually active that they are as they dont know but id like to know only one man that intimately”
Posted by Sharon on 16th Sep at 8:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
Good for you.”
Posted by Miriam on 16th Sep at 8:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
that is lovely im just wondering how long did you wait till you had sex”
Posted by emma on 16th Sep at 8:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
thats really lovely, i never hear about this side of sex... we're waiting too and we get married in 665 days!i'm so glad this is featured. wow!”
Posted by lucy on 16th Sep at 7:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity with my current boyfriend we have been together for 10 months and was together for 8 months at the time . im glad id waited it showed me that he was with me because he loves me not because he wanted sex and know we have done it we are happier and closer than ever! im so happy i lost it to him :)”
Posted by emily on 10th Sep at 7:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
Aww thats lovely x”
Posted by Liz on 10th Sep at 8:19AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm really glad that this is part of the "first time" collection on the website. I think it sends a positive message that the first time can be wonderful and that it's okay to wait for the right time and for the right person. The decision to wait doesn't necessarily have to relate to religion, culture, etc. - it is more about the love you have for that person, mutual trust and respect and the relationship you share together. Your story is really beautiful Jo and I hope it will inspire others to want the same experience in feeling so special, safe and loved.”
Posted by Sarah on 10th Sep at 6:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
Aw, that's really sweet! I wouldn't wait that long myself, but i'm really happy for you! xx”
Posted by Lou on 5th Sep at 3:40PM (flag as inappropriate)