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  1. My sex drive is higher than my boyfriends but we compromise and i feel we have quite a healthy sex life.”

    Posted by Monique on 9th Oct at 2:16PM (flag as inappropriate)

  2. My partner and i differ quite a lot (me being the one with the 'low' sex drive), and we have just started psychosexual therapy as i feel a failure and abnormal. I'm also worried my partner may look elsewhere even though we have a 4yr old and 18mth old and have been together 6+yrs. I can't explain my 'low' sex drive? It obviously bothers my partner.”

    Posted by Lou on 8th Oct at 4:38PM (flag as inappropriate)

  3. My husband has a high sexdrive, and I use to when I was first with him. But now we have a 2 year old and a 4mth old and having sex now is much tougher with them around. We have to do it when they are napping and it doesnt always happen that they do at the same time....It doesnt train our relationship whatsoever as my husband understands.”

    Posted by [No first name supplied] on 3rd Oct at 8:11AM (flag as inappropriate)

I once met a beautiful girl, and she was very, very nice, but she wasn’t as sexually active as myself…”

Graham, 42

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