“I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”
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All I can remember was one minute I was OK, next minute I woke up in a B&B and, er, this girl was standing in front of me.”
“I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”
“After I done it I felt happy and pleased that I had done it and good but I didn't feel like I needed to do it again anytime soon…”
“It was nervous time for me ‘cos I knew it was the first time for my wife as well. ”
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Well my first time was horrible I am only 14 years old and on halloween I had sex with my boyfriend it hurted so bad buh I didn't want him to stop but I personally regret it and wish I hadn't done it I can honestly say that you really should wait I cried when I got home cause I lost somthing I could never get back and as much as I want it back there's nothing I could do so pleaase iadvise thatt youu wait”
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Posted by luzetsltiy on 23rd Oct at 4:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 14 i had a boyfriend...i was out at a teenagedisco without him and i didnt mana ge 2 hook up with ani1 i just kept saying no but the next day i boy i had snogged 1nce he was 18 wanted 2 meet up with me so i did and ended up having sex with him in mi bestmate at the time mums bed it was horrible as i had never been fingered or have give oral it made it worse he more or less just stuckit right in and it hurt really badly but i ended up having to dump my boifriend and fell ou with all of my friends he txt me for a few days after and then never replied after that now 1 i have slept with 14 other boys mostly around mi age 4 in one night with 7other people in the same place now have a boyfriend who do love and i wish that I have waited 4 him. so dont lose it 2 early and just 4 the sake of it i have just started tech this year and have found that he is in the same place..”
Posted by Lucy ann on 14th Sep at 6:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity when I was 17 to a boy who was 16. It hurt but after a few goes it was ok. I was devastated and embarrassed to discover he didn't love me and he had used me for sex. I loved him and it was a very hurtful experience. I still can't get over whole experience and I am now 18 yrs!!
My advice is to lose it to someone who loves you back.”
Posted by venessa on 3rd Sep at 11:39AM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 12 when i lost my viginity. and he was 15, he was my babysitter at the time now im 14. but i felt pressured into it. but this boy like he was the first person i did anything with i first kissed him when i was 10 first person i ever snoged. but when this night came it was a shock but i always liked him since i was 6 till about 13. but now i experiencing different people. much fun really but i regret that night so badly so remember .. lose it to someone special and trustworthy and tbh in a relationship.”
Posted by courtney on 27th Jul at 9:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
Looking at some of the other experiences here, I was incredibly lucky. My first time was at 19 at university with my best friend there after we'd been dating for a while. Apart from my incredible nervousness, it was a great experience. Our relationship didn't work out in the long run, but we are still great friends.”
Posted by Rich on 17th Jul at 10:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 16 when I lost my virginity, and my boyfriend was 19. I actually made him wait for two months before I slept with him, which was great because it made me really want it too. After two months of nothing much more than a bit of groping I was dying to have sex with him. I remember my first time being so painful. It really was horrendous, and it wasn't because I didn't want to have sex- it was just because I was so nervous. He kept getting off and asking me if I wanted to stop because he could tell I was tensing up, but I told him to carry on. The pain was over and done with in about two minutes and then the rest was enjoyable. The next day I was so pleased that I did it. I was with him for a year and a half and I thought I loved him, but not like I love my current boyfriend. Either way I'm glad how the experience went and I wouldn't change any part of it.”
Posted by Kerry on 17th Jul at 2:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity to a guy i met at college. When we got together i didnt tell him i was a virgin because i was too embarrased. I asked him to be careful with me but he just wasnt careful enough. I found i was in a lot of pain and i lost a lot of blood.”
Posted by Sam on 17th Jul at 10:34AM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity to a great guy that I am actually seeing at the moment after about a year of not seeing him, although we talked often. I was 15 and he was 18. But he wasn't so great that night... the week before he called me and asked if I’d like to get together to catch up, and i said of course (I had a crush on him the past year at school). He told me that his parents were at their cottage for the weekend and asked if I’d like to stay over, i said yes, lied to my father and took off with him. I thought I fell in love with him that night. It was all so perfect until, it actually happened. He was amazing all night and i missed him so much. We watched the star wars movies on his couch and i fell asleep. He woke me up with kisses on the lips. He asked if i would like to go upstairs to his bedroom, “yes if you carry me,” I said with a grin. We got up there and got in his bed, he climbed on top and started kissing and thrusting his hips making our clothes rub. "I can't do this dry anyone" he said after about 10 minutes of that. He took off my pants and put on a condom, the whole time i was just dreading it. I didn’t want to loose my V to him; i had a guy i loved in mind. He climbed on top and slid inside of me. Instantly i felt horrible and frightened. I wanted to run home, just leave and be anywhere but there with him. After about 3 minutes i couldn’t take it and i just started bawling. He got off and i could tell he knew he made a mistake. I cried all night while he slept next to me. In the morning we did it again and he finished. I felt gross and used. He dropped me off not long after morning and i didn’t hear from him in months. I thought my heart was broken and i never really ever got over it. He used me, took a young girls innocence and i cant ever forgive him. He did apologize many times months after and told me he shouldn’t of stop talking to me but he felt bad about what he made me do. Since then he's been trying to make it up to me by dates to the movies and whatever else i want to do. Since he came back from university this summer we've seen each other 3 times and had sex once, AND he called me the next day :). Although i have had other sexual partners since i always felt something more with him, my first. I have never told anyone about this night, and my ex-boyfriend still thinks he was my first. Although I told him the whole situation I just never told him we actually did it. I feel bad for lying to the guy I loved but I would just break down every time I thought about it. But I do hope me and my first go far.”
Posted by Lea on 14th Jul at 3:27AM (flag as inappropriate)
well i know you will think im just plain stupit and a slut , but honestly i dont think i am ? x ive always been the quiet girl the one who doesnt go listen to what i done last night ? - im the girl who doesnt say what they are up to or where they are in there relationship and when people ask i know what ive done but yet i say shut up and get a life ? ok back to the point im thirteen ... nearly fourteen mind you and well ive been seeing this boy for 6 months now hes in the year above me and we met because we were winching [ kissing with tounges ] and well about two months into our realationship we started fingering blow jobs lick-out ect... he was my first boyfriend [ he doesnt know this tho ] and well three months into the realation ship we had sex his dad was doing the barbaque and he thought lets just "do it" afraid to say no i decided why not everyone else is doing it ? so there i was and aht least he made the effort to have flavoured condoms but still after words i felt dirty and cheap ? he thought greatest time of my life he swore not to tell a sole next thing i know half the town knows ? i cried myself to sleep that night and he felt really guilty because he hadnt put my feelings into consideration a few months down the line and yes im sexually active and im now actully really enjoying it he makes an effort now and if you find the right guy he goes at the speed you want to go and and makes it as romantic as possible - sorry this is so long i just felt as if i had to tell someone , get it off my chest and share whats happened and now i actully feel good about myself x”
Posted by emma on 14th Jul at 12:08AM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 15 when I first had sex, and it was anal. We had tried having vaginal sex but it had hurt too much. I can not put into words how much I regret it. The man in question is four years older than I am and although I am still with him I will never be able to forgive him for abusing the trust of a 15 year old girl who was totally infactuated.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 12th Jul at 6:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
It was horrific when I lost my virginity. It was with a guy that I didn't really like and I was not in the happiest place. It was quick, painful and pointless. I would totally advise anyone to wait because now I'm with the most amazing guy and wish I had saved it for him.”
Posted by annabel on 11th Jul at 12:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
All of these posts have made me more concious about losing my virginity. I'm scared to have sex but i would like to try it...but with someone special. I'm 14 and a boy. I'm a vigin an proud of it!”
Posted by Nik on 6th Jul at 10:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity when I was 18, and it was the summer after I left High School. I had been seeing the guy in question for a week and a bit- he was in the marines and had to go out on leave so we didn't have much time together. We had been on a drive together and we parked up at this abandoned house. It looked over a huge loch, and I remember how beautiful it was. There wasn't a cloud in the sky as the sun was setting. We did it there and then- although it REALLY hurt at first it got better. We aren't together anymore, I haven't heard from him in 2 years but I still have great memories of the time we spent together. I don't regret losing my virginity to him or at 18 at all.”
Posted by Carly on 6th Jul at 4:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost mine a month before my 15 birthday. To a girl that i was really attracted. Afterwards i left in a bit of a hurry, i was a bit scared and proberly not ready. We have recently talked about it and i feel much better as after a year we are back together and i now feel much more confitable about it”
Posted by Aaron on 10th May at 3:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
As someone on here has already mentioned they have, I have an eating disorder too..and suffer with so many confidence issues...last year, just turned 17, I was really pressured into sex, and I have never been so scared in all my life...I didn't know what to do.. he did it, and left, and i was sat there in bits crying...I wondered if it was rape, but i've been in denial about it because I never tried to stop him because i was so scared to as to what he'd do. I am disappointed in myself for not screaming or something and im shaking here now talking about it..its ruined everything for me and i dont even know if i can go on anymore...”
Posted by Danni on 16th Apr at 10:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost mine at 14 at a party don't really remember much all i do is that i woke up to a guy i said thanks and he said he would call me and i left he called me a few days latter and said he wonted to meet up i didn't go i did not even know him now i wish i had dent done it”
Posted by chlo on 16th Apr at 4:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 19 when I lost my virginity, after going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks. Although this doesn't sound like very long we were really close friends for about 3 months before that, and I really loved and trusted him. He was 21 and I felt quite embarassed that I was 19 and still hadn't lost my virginity, and I knew he had been with other girls before, so I didn't tell him. Anyway, the first time was good, not painful or messy as I thought it would be, but not perfect as I was worried he'd notice my inexperience. I really enjoy sex now, in a way I don't think I would have if I hadn't waited until I was ready, but my only regret is not telling him about my virginity, and he still doesn't know, as I am sure that he would have been so sweet and understanding about it.”
Posted by Kelly on 6th Apr at 7:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
Advice for Ian...
I think most women would love a boyfriend who will just do what they ask. Tell her to guide you, she will know what she wants and just enjoy!”
Posted by Emma on 3rd Apr at 11:04AM (flag as inappropriate)
Nerd talking..
When I was 16, I met a guy in a chatbox. A normal chatbox, not relationship- or sex-related. We talked for hours, talked on MSN and over the phone after that. Hours and hours.. And then one day we decided to meet up. We spent all day together and at some point we started kissing and ended up having sex in my mum's double bed *shame*.
We had a relationship for over a year in the end. But now I think about it.. I was never really attracted to him. Stupid me..”
Posted by Susanne on 3rd Apr at 12:48AM (flag as inappropriate)
Mine Was two weeks ago and I'm 18.Was in the front seat of a car with a guy I'd been seeing for about two weeks.
Regretting it now. Wished I had waited for someone more special!
Although one positive is I wasnt drunk .....”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 3rd Apr at 12:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
24 in a few weeks. Still haven't lost it yet. I feel a bit isolated at Uni as everyone must have done this by now. Don't really see any way out of this now, gave up completely a few years ago, just began to realise that girls might find me attractive, but now I've got to work out who might fancy me and what to do about it. Scary!”
Posted by Ryland on 2nd Apr at 4:09AM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity when i was 16, it was with this boy who was 19 and a best mate, i had fancied him for a couple of years but he always has a girlfriend. we had a diagreement and hadnt spoken to each other in a year but i still liked him as i saw him every day at school, when i finally made the first move into talking to him again we kept talking about sex, because i really fancied him i wanted him to be my first time. He took me out for a day and we ended up doing it in a public toilet, i regret where it happened but not who with even though we were just best friends, now we dont talk and i have got a fiance that is older than me ( i always go for the older bloke) but it is not a good idea to sleep with a mate no matter how much you like them.”
Posted by tara on 1st Apr at 10:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity 4 days before my prom (i was 16 a few month before) with some one i thought i was going to be in a relationship with, he was good friend, me and him hadnt been seeing each other was just messing about with each other kissing meeting up having a laugh, he said he loved me and i started fallening for him, all my friends warned me that he was only using me, but i thought differently, wen it finally came down to it i felt under pressure by him and didnt reli want to but did anyway because i thougth he ment every word he had sed to me. it was over in a couple of minutes and immediatly i felt like crying afterwards because i knew it wasnt right for me,i felt so wrong and that i had done something wrong, we used protection, but after that day i haven't had contact with him since, i realised i was used the day of prom when i saw him there and he just laughed at me and kissing my bestfriend on the dance floor i felt so hurt and betrayed by both my good friends.
I regret it sooo much i knew i should of waited until i was in real relationship until i was ready to loose my virginity.
I am now in a relationship with a older lad and the time we spend together is soo wonderful, and i actually know realise wat, to be loved by someone who respects you feels like, me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about a month and a half (we have been together 8 month) and everytime it feels soo special and romantic and loving nothing like my first time............
My advice would be just to wait untill your deffinately ready to have sex as a bad experience can put you off a little bit.”
Posted by Hayley on 31st Mar at 10:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time was when i was 17 with my boyfriend. We had been going out together for a few months before we slept together. It was a bit painful but my boyfriend was so nice about it and always stopped when I asked him to! Im so happy that I waited until I found someone who i really liked and liked me and even though it wasnt the most romantic of moments it was definitely something I dont regret, which was always my main worry about sex! It was a great moment and it made me and my boyfriend closer.”
Posted by Katie on 31st Mar at 10:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17 and i lost mine a few months ago to a friend of a friend after a few drinks. She'd been with loads of guys before and kinda dragged me into it, I was just expecting to do other stuff but she said all she wanted was sex. I could't resist I thought if I didn't that night I never would so we did it, but as it was my first time i came quickly and she got really annoyed and just left. She totally ruined it for me and stopped it being special at all. I pretended to my friends that I didn't care but I was really dissapointed. I recently had a girlfriend and we started having sex, and it was really special and she made it really nice for me, because even though she was a virgin she knew how I felt about losing mine, but I couldn't shake the feeling that it was dirty. I know its hard to resist if you're a guy reading this (thats not me making excuses) but its really not worth losing it in the same way i did as you lose some of your self esteem .”
Posted by Gabriel on 31st Mar at 9:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost mine when i was 17.total cliche.Got drunk up a park and ended up in a bush with a girl who had been mates with for about a year.she had given me oral sex before but we decided to just jump in the bush.it was a disaster.ruined a perfectly good pair of jeans in the mud and had to stop as a bloke walkin his dog came.didnt use protection at all.we did it again in a garage 2 days later and it was not really any better.then her period was late and i was a nervous wreack for about a week.Was the most relieving text ever when she text me to say she got her period.I cant stress enough to any young lad that the total panic of thinking you have gotten a girl pregnant far outweighs the pleasure of an forgetable unprotected fumble. Im 20 now and practice safe sex with my girlfriend of 3 years. Not proud of my first time, it was a rubbish romp followed by a week of utter panic!”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 30th Mar at 10:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im now 18 and lost my virginity last year at a music festival it wasnt what i had in my mind for losing my virginity and i kind of regret losing it in this manner and wish i had waited for someone i cared about and not doing it for the first time in a sleeping bag in a field with all my mates about 4 yards away”
Posted by Adam on 30th Mar at 8:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time is with my boyfriend i had been with for around 2 months. It was a really passionate experience and i wasn't scared at all. He was the first guy i've done more than kiss with and my first foreplay experience and i trust him so much. My time didn't hurt at all but the first time he fingered me it hurt quite a lot. And when we did that enough it ended up being incredibly pleasurable and we showered together and my first time was incredible!! He had already had sex with a previous girlfriend so he knew what he was doing so i felt a lot more safe :) I'm 17 and i'm glad i've waited it was perfect! I love sex now :P”
Posted by Jane on 1st Feb at 10:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
well iam 19 nd iam going out with an older woman nd i have never had sex but iam a bit scared as she got a child, nd i dont know if i will push all the right buttons for her in the bed departement, we mess around a bit but never had sex, will some one give me some advice please”
Posted by Ian on 18th Jan at 11:33AM (flag as inappropriate)
ive been going out with my gf for 8 months now and i feel that we are going a little slow i have only had my hand down her trousers (not knikers) and up her top we dont talk about it and i feel like im pushing her but because i dont know what she wants i dont know if i am or not. what should i do?”
Posted by dylan on 8th Dec at 5:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity at 15 years old, with the first guy i truely loved(still with him now, im 16 now). we waited about 8 months before we slept together, and we talked about it before hand. I was really nervous about losing it but speaking to him really helped. It wasnt as scary as i excpted and he really respected me.”
Posted by Lauren on 26th Nov at 6:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 16, and im seeing this lad that i've been with before. he's 18 and in university. when i was with him before around march time he slept with my friend and his ex gf. and i took him back after 6 months. i'm a virgin, but i know that he's slept with alot of people. he says he 'loves' me, but i dont know if i feel the same way. i dont want to just waste it, or for him to leave me afterwards...and i dont want it to hurt or me to bleed if i'm not fully comfortable with himm...what to dooo? x”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 11th Nov at 9:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 14 when i lost my virginity, i was drunk and ended up loseing my virginity to a guy! not only someone of the same sex but older than me as well! I was shocked but i remembered everything and didnt make any moves to stop it happening. I dont regret it but i wish i'd waited till i was older and wiser.”
Posted by Ben on 6th Nov at 8:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity suposedly at 14 on a holiday in france, it was the first time id drank more than a couple, i dont remember most of the night, but i was told of pretty much what i did, i really regret it now, i met the girl that night, and apparently we went off, did it, and came back together, the next day i was panicky and extremely hungover(not a good combo), i didnt know if id used a condom, if she had any sti's, nothing, not even her name!, it was one of the worst decisions i've ever made, i got checked out when i came home, and i was all clear, but i was lucky, and i havent drank to that point since, and im tellin you, you shouldnt either, its just not woth the risk.”
Posted by Jon on 6th Nov at 1:09AM (flag as inappropriate)
at 14 at a mates houseparty in her room and she walked in on me with my brothers bestmate and my 2 brothers were downstairs. we was all drunk but i wanted to do it at the time because he was my boyfriend of a month but after we done it every time i saw him thats wat he wanted so looking bak i do regret it and wish i'd waited for someone special but i wanted it at the time so i cant regret it”
Posted by jen on 3rd Nov at 8:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 16 when I lost my virginity and it was an ok experience. I kinda knew the guy but I really don't think he respected me. It was prom night and we were in some hotel. I didn't realize I had done anything until I woke up the next morning with him sleeping next to me. Two weeks later I was beaten and raped at a party. I haven't eaten or slept in months and I'm loosing focus in school. Although, a lot of my close friends are trying to keep me on track and I have been sober since June. :)”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Nov at 6:25AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 18 and i only just lost my virginity (yesterday). It was with one of my best friends who I have had previous experimentations with (fingering, oral, etc)... in his parents bed whilst they're on holiday. We used protection, cause he asked me to. I felt so respected, it was great and I loved every minute of it. It was better than I expected...it never hurt me, pleasure all the way, but the idea of losing my virginity was kind of scary, but I'm glad i did best thing ever!!!”
Posted by siobhan on 21st Oct at 6:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was only 14 when i lost my virginity, id had plenty of oppertunities with other guys previous to this one but i was detemined to wait, this was the first bloke i 'loved' and we were together 5 months before we had sex, we did talk about it and vowed to respect eachother. It was on bonfire night after the fireworks at my place ,it was romantic and didnt hurt thnakfully; although we broke up 4 months later. Now 2 years ahead i've had sex with what i consider quite alot of men - all older. I know for a fact that if id waited till i was 16 before loosing my virginity i almost definalty wouldnt have had sex with half the men i have now. I believe doing it so young and with some one your not actually in love with completly devalues sex. I can honestly say ive never 'made love' which i think is what sex should be about, not just 'fun'.”
Posted by Kirsty on 21st Oct at 12:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 19 and I lost my virginity two months after my 14th birthday. It was a disaster, to say the least. I had been with my boyfriend, who was 16, for 3 months and his parents, although highly christian, had alowed me to stop at his house in his room from the begining of our relationship...(it shocked me too, to be allowed such trust). As a result I had had some sexual experience (blow jobs, fingering etc.)before going ahead with full penetrative sex. Becuase forplay had made me comfortable with the idea of sexual intimacy the idea of full on sex didn't scare me much... If at all!
The dirty deed happened on the night of his 17th birthday while we were on holiday in a static caravan in wales. His parents were in the other room...so we had to be quiet. We had both looked for a condom in the machines around Abberystwyth for a couple of days before hand. All took our £2...All gave nothing back! So... annoyed at all the condom dispencers in Abber we did it anyway. I dont remember any pain... or any bleeding... I just remember falling on my back and banging my head on the floor when the two beds we had pushed together flew apart.
We were in a child size beds pushed together (extreemly slim single beds that didnt go together propperly.) I snuggled up to him and prompted the whole thing, telling him that it was ok he could just pull out... ha ha...
Anyway the morning after we had to spend the day with his parents while I fretted about being pregnant because of how stupid I had been. And terrified becuase there was no way I could slip away from his parents to go and buy a morning after pill.
The holiday lasted for two weeks the second week of which I was due on my period... making my previous sexual indescression even more scary!! I didn't start my period... that week... or the week after! It did start on the evening of the day I told my mum... who was ACE... she got a load of leflets about what to do if you were pregnant and hwere to go if you decided not to keep the baby... she was realy supportive.
Not the best way to start having sex... I am still with that boyfriend and we are neering our 6 year aniversary... but because of the scariness of missing a period after our first time... he still has a bit of an issue having sex with me.
I realy wouldnt recomend having sex without any protection... not only do you open yourself up for infections and pregnancy but you can open yourself up to stuff that scars you for the long term... fear of sex... and it shouldnt be like that.”
Posted by Heather on 20th Oct at 12:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was raped when I was 13 and that terrified me. I thought afterwards that people would know and wouldn't want someone that had 'already been used'. I also had a pregnancy scare after it. I am 17 now and have had one other relationship where I have been having sex, and I didn't enjoy it. At first I said no when my boyfriend asked me to have sex with him and then I had sex to avoid having to do anything else sexual and just took my mind away to think about something else while my boyfriend did what he wanted. This is wrong and I know it but I was scared that he would have left me if I'd said no again and I've had issues with self esteem. If i could give any advice it would be to wait until you know you are ready, my first time was out of my control, but the second I could have stopped if I'd tried harder and faced my fears of rejection rather than submitting to something I didn't want.”
Posted by Me on 20th Oct at 12:48AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 20, 21 next year. I am still a virgin!Ive had quite afew boyfriends but i wudnt go as far as to take my clothes off with them as i have alottttt of body hang ups(I have an eating disorder and have done for the last 3 years) I can barely look at myself naked never mine a lad!!! anyway its getting to a problem as im in recovery and could only actually be happy with myself in like another year or longer and until then i know I will not have sex! so the longer its getting the more embarrassing it is! but i am just not happy or comfortable in my self to show myself to a boy.:( xx”
Posted by louise on 20th Oct at 12:10AM (flag as inappropriate)
this sounds way worse than it is....i was 14..i got suspended from school(wrongly blamed)...i was at home(suspended) when this guy 5years older txt me....he said he would call down and doss school...one thing led to another ....the whole town found out..and my friends were worried that i may be pregnant so they told a teacher....the teachers knew then!!and the boy got cought for dossing and was suspended.since i hav had sex with over 13 people and im 16......i wish i waited because sex is lik an activty now...it was never special......wait.. ...u will regret it....i do......sooooo much!”
Posted by regret on 19th Oct at 10:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have a boyfriend and we've been going out since the early summer. he's actually amazing and we get on so well.we never argue and its just perfect. he's not a virgin but i am. and everytime we get close to having sex i feel weak and sick. i know its painful and i hate pain, and im embarrased about the bleeding part, he's understanding about it and i dont want to loose him, but if i keep thinking its going to to be horrible then i dont think ill ever sum up the courage to do it :( and im very self conscious about my body, like many others, but still, if i keep putting it off..i feel im ready, but when we discuss it, i just can't help feeling like its going to be the worst feeling in the whole world. some girls say its fine, others say its so off putting, im so confuseeeddd!!what am i going to do?”
Posted by katrina on 19th Oct at 5:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 18 when I lost mine. I thought it was going to be wonderful, but it felt like a red hot poker was stuck inside me. I think it really has affected me since. I thought he loved me but he was just using me for sex and didnt even realise it was my first time.”
Posted by Tina on 19th Oct at 10:31AM (flag as inappropriate)
I stupidly lost my virginity aged 14 to a boy i had been seeing for 2 weeks. Im 17 now and I havent been able to have sex since, im too scared becuase it hurt. Me and my current boyfriend have talked about it. he is soo nice about it. he says that he will wait until I feel ready to have sex because he wants it to be special for the both of us when it does happen”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 18th Oct at 7:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was in a relationship with a boy that was 2 years older than me hes 19 an im 17 i was going out with him for 4 or 5 months bt only 2 weeks into the relationship he told me he loved me. i was still a virgin at the time. he kept asking me if i was ready to do it. he told me he would wait but he kept asking me constantly an wen i stayed with him we done it. it was painful and it took 2 times for me 2 bleed. then a few weeks later he wanted to do it without a condom. he said again that he would wait until i wanted to do it without 1. but i didnt want to. bt it happend he sed it would be ok. then i had my periods for 7 weeks non stop so i went to the doctors an i found out i had clamydia. he knew he had clamydia and never told me. now we have split up and im never having sex again x”
Posted by Lesley on 18th Oct at 6:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 15 years old and although I have gone to 3rd with a guy i'm not ready for sex. Boys have preasured me to do it in parties, but I want to wait till I find some one I love : ) X”
Posted by Jessy on 18th Oct at 4:35PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 13 when I lost my virginity. I lost it to someone that i had been seeing but not for very long. people around me were losing it so it felt right at the time. so it took place in .... house on the sofa.If i could change things I would. i would have left it till I was older and not followed other people because they were doing it!”
Posted by R on 17th Oct at 11:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 18 when I lost my virginity. I felt like the only person at school not having sex and even though I didn't really fancy the bloke but had decided it was time to have sex.
I guess I used the guy because i think his feelings were stronger and I regret that. I didn't have enough self esteem to wait until I was ready and wth someone I cared for as that would mean that I might be looked at as different by my peers.”
Posted by Fi on 17th Oct at 3:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 18 when I lost mine. My boyfriend & I were each other's first relationship, and by the time we had decided we were ready we had been together for two and a half years. We're so glad we waited, as it was incredibly special and romantic too. Now, a little hwile on, we're getting married. And it makes me very proud to know that the only man I will ever have had sex with will be my husband. =)”
Posted by Han on 15th Oct at 10:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 15 and i've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, we've talked about having sex a lot and i feel as though i'm ready but theres never really been 'a right time' for it. i've been in long-term relationships before, but this is different. i trust him and i really think i'm in love with him. i'm worried if it doesn't happen soon he'll get 'bored' of me. what should i do? x”
Posted by Beth on 15th Oct at 10:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im Sooo confused about sex...I Turned 13 In June Nd All the boys ive Been Out With Have Been Older Than Me..( I Look Older Than ma age).. Nd Theyve All Tried To Pressure Me Into Having Sex Since I Started Secondary School...I Alwayse Say No. (Dont Get Me Wrong...I Dont Send Out The Wrong Messages. Or Act "Slutty") My Heartz Been Broken So Much Im Finding It Hard To Trust Other People Nd Open up & Ive Never Been In A Long Term relationship (2 weekz max)...Buh Now Im Wishing That I Did Loose It...Seeing As People Alredi Think I Have.. I Might Aswell Shouldnt I???”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 15th Oct at 9:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 17 and lost my virginity to my current boyfriend 4 months into the relationship, now a year and ahalf later we are still together, we always talked about sex before i actually lost my virginity which made me feel comfartable around him i dont regret it seen as we are still together now”
Posted by Karina on 15th Oct at 9:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost mine 4 months ago aged 19, and have cried every night since. He needed sex if we were to continue, so after only 2 weeks of meeting him, i stupidly gave in. He was so sleazy about it, 'just relax'.. I bled and it hurt. I was used. He never liked me for me. Worst bit, i knew that. He spent every night, including virginity night, on the phone to another girl. For a month we had 2 minute sex (him not me), unprotected. Biggest regret of my life is, falling for him.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 15th Oct at 8:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
when i lost my virginity i was not sure at the time but i really wanted to loose it, i dont even know why, now i look back and think why did i loose it and he was not even worth it bcuz i was 13 at the time and it happend in his dads office and i was ashamed as he told every one too. :(”
Posted by Lauren on 15th Oct at 12:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 15 when i lost my virginity. i had been going out with the guy who was a year older than me. we had been going out for 9 months before having sex. he didnt pressure me at all and talked about it alot first. we have been going out just over 2 years now :)”
Posted by abbie on 11th Oct at 11:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend, who I met at college, after going out for a day or so we went to a house party; everyone was drinking and we ended up in a bed fooling around, and then a week later we actually both lost our virginity. It was wonderful, even if we were both entirely unexperienced and didn't really know what we were doing; I suppose the main reason for that is at high school during sex-education "gay" isn't every really covered, not in the detail that I feel it should be, and I know views are better, but in a society where homophobia does still exist, I reckon and (I have seen it) that young gay teens are sleeping around because it's discreet and easy, as opposed to being in a relationship where being affectionate in public can lead to nervousness, and even confrontation.”
Posted by Clint on 11th Oct at 5:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity at 18 after being with my boyfriend for about 4 months. it was nice because we got to know eachother and had decided to lose it to eachother. we are still going strong after a year and a half and i'm so pleased i waited till i met the right guy :)”
Posted by Katy on 10th Oct at 8:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
hey x, i know this sounds weird but i grew up in the wrong place wit the wrong people so i missed alot of school. ive heard that wen a male first has sex he loses a flap of skin on his penis, is this true? thanks for any response i get.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 10th Oct at 7:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was raped when i was 13, now im 18 i still havnt had sex, i was to scared when it came to it, i have a boyfriend and he is very patient with me, thank god! He says he can wait till im ready which is good, im still a bit scared but getting more confident. Thanks x”
Posted by Loula on 10th Oct at 6:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 13 and thought i was in love with my boyfriend! how stupid, he didnt love me and we broke up a few weeks later. i was gutted. i regret doing it now.”
Posted by Lex on 9th Oct at 10:02AM (flag as inappropriate)
For Kate. I understand that as you get older it becomes more and more of a big deal and you tend to over think things, and worry about every detail. I was a little older than most when I lost my virginity and I spent a long time pondering over lying to my partner about it. I was embarraseed and felt like it somehow made me weird. It was only until I realised how close I was to him, and how much I wanted to share the experience with him that I realised there was no shame in it and lying was not the answer. My boyfriend was wonderful about it, even if I freaked out a little at the whole thing. Boys might find virginity amusing; men don't. When you do have sex, when you meet someone and want to share that with them, it will be someone who wont find it funny, or odd. They'll find it endearing and like you for it, because it's part of who you are. And they'll want to be with your because of who you are, regardless of your sexual history.”
Posted by Emily on 8th Oct at 8:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 14 when i lost my virginity, i was drunk and out with a few friends when we met these older men. i started kissing one of them and i remember my friends leaving me to go to the pub round the corner and the next thing i remember i was bieng lead to a park near a church. one of the only things i can remember was looking up at the church thinking oh my god im going to hell. looking back i wish i would have waited and not lost it to a man more than twice my age but i suppose it was a lesson that i needed to learn.”
Posted by emma on 7th Oct at 9:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
well i was 13 and i was very drunk. and i was out with one of my mates and i was gettin into him all nite then one thing lead to anufa. i regret it all im 14 now n i wish i was still a virgin because people are callin me a slut n everythin and im not yeah ive slept with 4 people but i was in relitonships with people.”
Posted by ruby on 7th Oct at 9:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
My first time was with someone i thought i really loved im 15, 16 soon. It was about 7 months ago i still hav'nt got over him. It was all to rushed. we had used a condom but i found it to painful and i dont think he has actually took my viginity and im to scared to go to a clinic to find out. I then found out that he had been sleeping with the girl in his previous relationship”
Posted by Alexy on 7th Oct at 9:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity after being with my boyfriend for a few weeks. I know that it doesnt sound like a lot of time but before that we'd spent a lot of time getting to know eachother before becoming official. We didn't stay together for years afetrwards but it was a month or two and I wouldnt change it. I know for some people it hurts and can be unpleasent but i think i was really lucky.
I hate that there is pressure from other people to lose it, I think that when your ready your ready, wether its at 16 (i do think that people should wait until its legal) or 26. If anybody pressures you then they're not worth the bother, the guy i lost mine to asked me before wether i was ready and I said no. he was completely understanding and totally put me at ease knowing that when I was ready would be fine!”
Posted by Katie on 7th Oct at 9:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 15 and i actually want 2 wait for the rite person because i fink it will b a better experience. also boys around my area dont like to go out with gals that have lost theirs alreay
so girls and guys i think its a lot betta if u wait until ur ready.”
Posted by Samantha on 7th Oct at 8:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 17 and I has been with my man for a couple of months, one night we decided we were ready to have sex. He had already had sex with a few other girls, but I was a virgin. We carried on and had sex, 2years down the line and he asked me "who was your first time" when i replied "you" he was shocked and revealed he had never known at all!!!”
Posted by Sarah on 7th Oct at 7:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was 17 years old, the first time i tried it didnt actually work which i was glad about because i was drunk, but the second time we tried it worked, i found it very painful. the thing im glad about was that i was in a long term relationship at the time, i am happy with the way i lost my virginity.”
Posted by mell on 7th Oct at 7:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
To Hayley, that's just what they say, when I went to high school alot of people were like that, boasting about sleeping with loads of people, but now alot of people have admitted to making it up, thinking back some of the things they said really were ridiculus and clearly something they'd seen in a film, but i didn't think of that then, I just thought oh god everyone's having sex but me!!!So try not to worry about what others say, do what you want, whenever YOU want, not when they want.”
Posted by Helen on 6th Oct at 6:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
i lost my virginity when i was 14, a few months ago now, it was with my boyfriend that i had been going out with for a month we kind of rushed it but we had liked it eachother before we'd got together. umm, i wasn't nervous or frightened iwas just excited, however the first time, we had done foreplay and everything, but the actual sex didn't last very long as it realy hurt and i just wanted to stop. i was pretty lucky to be honest because my boyfirend was really understanding and caring. we done it the time after that and yeahh it was very good and we had done it twice after that, i don't regret doing it at 14, with someone i hadn't been with long becuase i really liked them and i knew i was ready.(y)”
Posted by Katie. on 3rd Oct at 8:31PM (flag as inappropriate)
There are a few girls in my school who are known to skip school to go off with a few boys who they met randomly and go and have some "fun" together.
I'm not sure that's the way I want to lose my virginity... I didn't know that men had romantic thoughts as well. The boys seem a lot different at our school, most of them in Year 11 have had sex loads of times without the intamacy or a proper relationship...”
Posted by Hayley on 1st Oct at 7:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginty at 15 with a boy mate at school. We were both really close mates, and having previous boyrfriends who kept asking for sex which I didn't give, I thought my close boy mate would be perfect. No strings attached and yet I know he wouldn't dump me or anything, and we would still be close. He was gorgeous too, so it was all good. We talked about it and then one night he came round and we had sex. Over all, if I could turn back time I would of kept my virginty for someone I love.”
Posted by charlotte on 30th Sep at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
erm well ive still not lost mine and im 16 but all the lads are going on about it as if its something everyone has done and i feel really preasured into doing it but im not sure what to do :(”
Posted by mark on 30th Sep at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I regret losing my virginity the way I did so much. I was 15 and I had been going out with my current boyfriend for 3 months and we hadn't had sex, I was so nervous about it because he wasn't a virgin and not knowing what to do and hearing all these stroies about bleeding and pain and the like I thought i'd be really embarrasing, so stupidly when I was at a party I had sex with a guy I'd met a couple of times at parties, not exactly the romantic, breath taking moment you see in movies!I regret it so much. Me and my boyfriend didn't have sex until 7 months into our relationship and shortly afterwards I told him about the guy in the tent because I felt so guilty. Of coarse he wasn't best pleased,but he completly understood and we're still together, coming up to our 5 year mark. But I so wish I had waited because it didn't hurt, there was no blood and even if there had been if you're with the right person it won't be embarassing. So my advise to anyone is to wait, because it'll sure as hell be worth it.”
Posted by Helen on 30th Sep at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I sometime feel presured coz there all like ur missing out.. But sometimes i wish i was young when i did it something to get over with just the once.. its hard, sometimes. Its something i get scared of coz lads re just like noooo your not and dont believe me orr they just dont want me and look at me am like a piece of crap on there shoe. :-(”
Posted by JASMINE. on 29th Sep at 7:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 15 years old, almost 16, and about 3 months ago I lost mine too. It was with my boyfriend of 4 months, almost a month into the relationship. It hurt alot, but I don't regret it because he was sweet & caring.”
Posted by Natasha on 29th Sep at 1:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 18 when i lost mine and so glad i waited. I went to university and meet a guy in the first week. We started dating, and a month later agreed we were both ready to lose our virginity to one another. We planned when it would happen and it was amazing. Were still togehter now nearly to years later and still going strong.”
Posted by Ellie on 27th Sep at 9:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was just 16 when i lost mine and with my first proper long term relation ship we where togeter for 9 months but only slept with eachother after 4 months and thats what i did with my next boyfriend we where together 11 months ande my boyfriend which im still with i wanted to know that the relationship wasnt just for the sex i wanted to know that they wouldnt preasure me (which they didnt) and they wouldnt leave me afterward and it worked we built a strong relationship before jumping straight into it. I hope this will help alot of girls in a relationship where you think it is getting to the satge of sexual intercorse and that your doing the right thing with the right person.x”
Posted by sophie on 27th Sep at 12:49AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 16, and i still havnt yet experienced a long time or fel in love yet..All my girls think i shuold wait and all of them say i'm missing out.. But it made me realise i wouldnt want that to happen to me..I feel really sorry for you. My brother told me for a laugh that i look like i'm out of the league..I have the blonde hair and blue eyes.. But that brothers for you.. I reallly dont know what to do..”
Posted by Jasmine on 24th Sep at 11:49AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 26 and I still haven't had sex. I feel like a freak and to be honest it puts me off of meeting men, because I think it'll put them off. I have big insecurities about it. However, I dont think I would want to wake up in a room feeling drunk and have a man strip off in front of me and lose my virginity that way. I'm just worried now that the older I get the more of a hang up I have about it and the longer I will be a virgin. Can any men out there tell me what they would think if a women of 26 revealed to them that they had no sexual experience?”
Posted by Kate on 23rd Sep at 9:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 14 and i'd been invited too my boyfriends house at the time he took me into his bedroom and told me too make myself at home i sat down on the computer chair & he sat on the bed he told me to come sit beside him so i move towards him as i went to sit down he grabbed my arm and threw me down & jumped on top of me then reached into his tin & got out a comdom then it just carried on from there ..”
Posted by Elizabeth on 23rd Sep at 8:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was also drunk when i lost my virginity, I was 13 on a beach in brittany in france. We didn't use a condom, but thankfully I wasn't pregnant. I don't regret it, but it wasn't highly romantic.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 23rd Sep at 8:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 21 and I'd been in the relationship with my current bf for about a month. Was a little embarising because I had no idea what to do but it's defo an experience I'm pleased I had and will never forget.”
Posted by Jenny on 22nd Sep at 12:21AM (flag as inappropriate)
omg, i feel sorry for him, i wouldnt like my virginity to be taken away like that, i would be more gutted than he seems to be about but its his life, personally id wait for the right time to make it romantic and special as possible and not let a drunken night happen”
Posted by Cameron on 20th Sep at 9:20AM (flag as inappropriate)
well not all lads obviously, you get some real jerks but you will find alot of guys find sex in general, not just the first time, so much better if they feel that they are making the girl feel really amazing aswell. well thats how i feel with my girlfriend and im guessing im not the only one.”
Posted by Scott on 16th Sep at 8:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
I didn't realise that lads wold like to make it special too.”
Posted by me on 10th Sep at 9:44AM (flag as inappropriate)