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Gay Male. Married. 32 years old. Age Virginity Lost: 19
“I come from a strict Chinese Christian family. Sex is absolutely taboo in the house, you can’t mention the word sex without making my parents angry.”
What does 'intimacy' mean to you?
“I think people who use the word intimacy in the context of sex tend to link it with the notion of sex in the romantic context... That’s something that’s totally alien to me.”
Have you ever had a problem convincing a partner to use contraception?
“All this would have been discussed and negotiated before the sexual encounter even takes place. And if they say they don’t want to use contraception during the negotiations…”
Have you ever had an open relationship?
“What really, really gets me are those silly romantic people who seem to equate sex with love. Now that just makes me nauseous and sick.”
Have you ever slept with more than one person at the same time?
“What I always worry is, alright if I fancy A and I fancy B, but do A and B fancy each other? Do they get along? ”
In your experience, do drink and drugs mix well with sex?
“I don’t even take refined sugar. And drugs don’t even go there... ”
“I think you’re asking such questions because you’re making assumption that I have some notions of seduction and romance, when I don’t.”
How do you get your partner in the mood for sex?
“If you were to open my diary, you see I actually mark dates for sex. ”
What do you worry about most when it comes to sex?
“It’s a little bit like going to a restaurant and ordering, say, meatball soup and then you find you only get one meatball.”
How important is masturbation to you?
“Masturbation is a solo activity. It’s not sex. ”
Have you ever been caught masturbating?
“I have quite a traditional Chinese Christian family and my mum thinks that, you know, things like that, it’s a one way ticket to hell. ”
Have you ever had a Sexually Transmitted Infection?
“It’s like chicken pox but these pock like marks appear around your bum.”