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  1. No, sex is NOT important to keep a normal relationship alive - it's neeeded to keep a sexual relationship alive, sure, but sex is not a vital aspect of marrige.”

    Posted by Katherine on 19th Apr at 3:47PM (flag as inappropriate)

  2. i was uncomfortable after having sex after my child was born. my ex didnt make it easier as he was pressuring me to have sex again. think it may have been different if i had someone supportive. and since our break up i havent rushed into anything as i still feel uncomfortable.”

    Posted by claire on 1st Apr at 10:13PM (flag as inappropriate)

  3. it is true tho that having sex soon after birth can make you start to bleed again. after the birth was the worst time of my pregnancy tbh,.... i hated the bleeding etc!! grrrowl! just aswell i got my son out of it haha!! x”

    Posted by [No first name supplied] on 27th Mar at 12:17AM (flag as inappropriate)

  4. Afterbirth is actually the placenta which is delivered within hours of the birth. Therefore there is no afterbirth 'coming out' weeks later. It is true that women beeld for up to several weeks after giving birth. Sex after child birth can be anytime that a woman feels comfortable and her partner is willing.”

    Posted by Rachel on 9th Oct at 11:13PM (flag as inappropriate)

Even for weeks, you know, you’ve still got afterbirth in, in your stomach, in your urine, blood coming out.”

Adam, 24

Sex facts

  • It is common for a woman's libido to drop after childbirth, usually due to tiredness and physical discomfort following the birth.
  • Most doctors recommend waiting 6 weeks after giving birth before re-engaging in sexual activity, to let your body recover. Always seek advice from your own GP.

Other people answering How did sex change after the birth of your first child?

  • Video by Marie

    “It got quieter for a start, less spontaneous because obviously you have another little person in the house that is taking up a lot of your energy. ”

    Marie, 39

  • Video by Graham

    “I would say probably an absence of sex for about, say, six to, to eight weeks would be normal because it’s a big thing, having a baby.”

    Graham, 42

  • Video by Jackie

    “With the first child I had post-natal depression, and it didn’t affect me where my sex life dipped, in fact I wanted more sex, and that I think was for reassurance.”

    Jackie, 51

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