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“It’s like getting your t-shirt and twisting your t-shirt so that it gets tight but it’s growing at the same time.”
“I think it’s something that as humans we need from time to time. Once you’ve experienced it you need it.”
“Having an orgasm for me is quite a functional thing. It’s a stress relief. ”
“If you can actually have like orgasms, or come together, then it’s fantastic.”
“I would describe the experience of having an orgasm as just being a total relaxation and lack of control over your own muscles.”
“It’s kind of like the end product of what might be five minutes’ work, it might be whole day’s work. ”
“It would be… like… having the best pee in the world when you’ve been really, really wanting to go to the toilet!”
“I got up and I fell over on to the floor because my legs were shaking. I've never had it before and I would love to have it again. ”
“If you’ve made someone else come it’s like that is definitely you’ve had sex.”
“To some people they almost seem to be the be all and end all of sex, like they have sex to have an orgasm, whereas I have sex because I like having sex.”
“I mean obviously it’s a fantastic feeling but I wouldn’t say that that should be the be end and everything of your relationship.”
“You can do that by playing with yourself, you don’t really need a guy to do that for you.”
“I don’t drop hints, I can’t be doing with faffing around, if I want something from someone I’ll tell them. ”
“She did absolutely nothing. I mean, she just lied there, she wouldn’t move, she didn’t want to get involved in any foreplay…”
“I was in park with a girl and she’s not exactly best looking girl but, erm, we agreed to have sex, and cause I wasn’t physically attracted to her... ”
“The worst sex I ever had, I was drunk, he got me drunk so that’s not good.”
“Some girl tried sticking her finger up my bum cause that’s where the male’s g spot is.”
“He was a nice guy. Really big built. He had a nice physique. He was an electrician. And I just thought I could do with a little bit of electrical goods done around the house. ”
“I inadvertently ended up having sex with 3 people from the same family.”
“There was one time when I sort of got caught masturbating but it wasn’t necessarily me it was a, it was a girl doing it for me...”
“Er it’s something that, well you never forget, but it’s made me very, very wary now.”
“...he got up from the bed and he was turning around going "where’s the condom where’s the condom?"”
“I’ve felt used on many occasion, um, but I don’t see being used in the same way as probably most people will.”
“I mean I’ve done it, just kind of to boost myself esteem, but there’s no point because it always drops that further afterwards.”
“She sort of, you know, messed me about, played with my emotions a bit. ”
“You feel kind of connected to that person. Then you have sex with them…”
“The next morning she quickly rushed out of bed and was like throwing my clothes at me. ”
“I've been single for a long amount of time and I've said that's it I’m not waiting for the one I'm going out tonight I want to have sex. ”
“...you like them as a person so when they give you a lift home and drop you off and that's it - you feel a bit used…”
“They are the simplest truest form of sex as far as I’m concerned. That’s two people no affection, using each other for sex.”
“Got paralytic drunk and I took a girl home from a rave. And, like, I had sex with her with no condom…”
“I would have to get to know a certain person to have that relationship, to have a nice sexual drive”
“I’m not particularly proud of that, but when I went into the situation I knew that it was going to be a one night stand and I accepted it.”
“After a relationship of 3 years I think I kind of went into self-destruct mode and, erm, yeah, one of them…”
“I think so long as you and the other partner are comfortable in the knowledge that it’s going to be sex for the sake of sex and not as a prelude to something more…”
“To have sex with somebody that you’ve never met before, and probably never gonna see again, is really exciting.”
“In my personal experience is a lot of women are going out there just to gain the experience.”
“The second time was probably a little better because I felt more confident, but then when I tried it again...”
“The situation hasn’t been in front of me, but even if it was…”
“What I always worry is, alright if I fancy A and I fancy B, but do A and B fancy each other? Do they get along? ”
“You know, there’s always someone being left out, and unfortunately it was me. They seemed to enjoy each other’s company a hell of a lot more than mine.”
“They add an interesting dynamic to the event, I think, because… when there are just 2 people having sex, there is a sense of responsibility…”
“I found myself focusing on one person and then another and the other.”
“Drink, drugs can mix well with sex as long as you know your limits. I personally I’ve had sex on ecstasy a couple of times.”
“I don’t even take refined sugar. And drugs don’t even go there... ”
“I actually think that it’s very outrageous. I know I’ve done some outrageous things, but… ”
“It lowers your performance and also I feel that it’s really dangerous.”
“I don’t think foreplay is that big a deal. I don’t really enjoy it.”
“Foreplay is really important to my sex life, because I think it’s a build up to the actual sexual act.”
“I think you’re asking such questions because you’re making assumption that I have some notions of seduction and romance, when I don’t.”
“You’re not likely to have foreplay every single time, but I do think that foreplay, to me, can make or break the sex.”
“For me there’s nothing better than a man who, basically, has no limits, and just loves a woman’s body.”
“I think foreplay has to be um something that’s negotiated or explored between two people for it to be as comfortable and as enjoyable for both of them.”
“I don’t like faffing around, I don’t like being given hints, I don’t like girls doing all the trying to seduce me.”
“I’m quite weak when it comes to sex anyway, so as long as I know what’s coming I’m semi there...”
“I like to be bitten on my neck.”
“I’m actually very much a touchy feely person, I like to be kissed, I like to be caressed, I like to be stroked.”
“I’m a very sensual person. I really do like touch.”
“I’m alright for the first couple of seconds and then I’m just like that, boring. And it’s just the same repetitive thing. ”
“Usually somebody who’s made a bit of an effort to obviously have washed, obvious as that may sound.”
“The old ears. Nibbling of those. Heavy breathing in your ear…”
“There’s one part at the back of my neck where, if you touch it, anyone touches, even myself touches it, I’m instantly horny.”
“Before I lost the weight, I didn’t like being touched because I was too big, and now I don’t like being touched because I could build another person off the excess skin.”
“For about 4 years it was vampires that I was obsessed by. I’d have to sort of watch a vampire DVD to build up to get in the mood for sex.”
“They probably want me to stay around and watch telly and what not, but I’m not really I’m not really interested in that. ”
“You wake up the following morning and you just think oh my god. I’ve slept with my friend. That has to be the most awkward thing on the planet.”
“Has to be done cause apparently one in three people have an STD and they don’t know.”
“It’s like chicken pox but these pock like marks appear around your bum.”
“I actually don’t know who I got it from, cos it was during a time when I was promiscuous.”
“It is horrible, it’s painful, you can’t pee, it’s disgusting, you get like a yellowy green pus…”
“For me my body is a temple and only a selected few will ever get the chance to explore it. ”
“She said that her friend had Chlamydia and that I should get checked out…”
“In the last few years I have actually done things that I would have dreamed of doing before. ”
“I’ve been to swinging clubs, um had sex in the woods…”
“The older you get there’s this, er, about sex, people think that maybe you shouldn’t because you’re a certain age…”
“It’s a little bit like going to a restaurant and ordering, say, meatball soup and then you find you only get one meatball.”
“Do I look too fat? Do I look too thin? Is my hair OK? It all seems very kind of vain and aesthetic, but it’s important that you look OK and you feel OK.”
“It’s not the most attractive thing at all, and you know, the reason why it used to worry me is because I used to wonder whether my partner would find me attractive. ”
“Simply because it kind of scares me a bit because I’ve gone through it before…”
“My friends tell me that I need to get over that hurdle and that problem but I personally I can’t. ”
“There has been times where I haven’t and I’ve been stupid, and I think we’ve all been there as well.”
“I heard all about these sex aids, so actually when I was out with my friends, we went into Ann Summers…”
“Um, all the European ones tend to be too small, um, for me”
“I have trouble fitting them over my willy, and that’s the God’s honest truth.”
“On the first day I’d finished my normal period and by the following Sunday I had started the breakthrough bleeding. This lasted for 6 whole weeks”
“A good form of contraception is always your mother. My mum especially.”
“All this would have been discussed and negotiated before the sexual encounter even takes place. And if they say they don’t want to use contraception during the negotiations…”
“Most guys from my experience, will have bareback, or unprotected sex, if you allow them to.”
“It really scares me the number of partners that I’ve had who have been quite happy to not even discuss safer sex.”
“And I was like, that’s dead naff to say that, that’s killed it for me already.”
“Masturbation is a solo activity. It’s not sex. ”
“I’ve discovered lots of things about myself through obviously trying things out…”
“You know I used to do it at school. I used to have competitions with my friends in the toilets.”
“I think you need to know your own body and you need to know what it is that makes you tick.”
“When you haven’t got a man in your life and you're finding it difficult to sleep... ”
“If you don’t like yourself… then I don’t think you enjoy masturbating, but if you like yourself, if you like the body you’re in, then you’re gonna like masturbation a bit more.”
“It was recommended to me a few years ago by a friend of mine. And that entails using, er, a power shower…”
“I have tried on many occasions but I end up laughing at myself …”
“Masturbation is great but sex with someone else is even better. ”
“I’m kind of sat there chocking the chicken really, really fast and then I pull them back up and get the train. ”
“I have quite a traditional Chinese Christian family and my mum thinks that, you know, things like that, it’s a one way ticket to hell. ”
“So what do I say to her mum that walks in when you’re masturbating - ‘Oh I was just masturbating over you’? You know it wouldn’t really go down too well.”
“I felt like… well, you know, she’d caught me doing something that was my secret.”
“I didn’t know how to handle the situation really, um… so I… think I made a little lie up and said I was making the bed!”
“By the time I sort of like opened my eyes and refocused I realised that, erm... ”
“The worst thing was, we never said anything to each other afterwards.”
“He was shouting and my brothers friend was laughing and I was trying to pull my trousers up…”
“I had to grab the nearest thing which ironically was a roll of kitchen paper and just covered myself and she knew exactly what I had been up to. ”
“I’ve had open relationships before. Um… sometimes they work, sometimes they don’t... ”
“It would always have a bad consequence... in fact, that was what stopped us from getting together in the end.”
“I mean I don’t find it a problem, it’s just something that’s never happened for me…”
“I used to think that there was something wrong with me…”
“I’ve never really had a problem having orgasms, but just to enhance it what I sometimes do is take the old wonder pill…”
“There’s been times when it’s been a bit dodgy, and I haven’t been able to get there…”
“I do believe that everyone has got someone out there who they can call on if they need a quick little rumble.”
“I’d say overall I’ve slept with hundreds of people, possibly going into the thousand mark, I’d say, because I’ve lost count. ”
“I’m getting all hot and aroused and just wish that there was someone in my bed there just for me to pounce on.”
“There’s always like different sex positions you can find out about, different toys you can use… it’s actually educational in its own way.”
“So it's just like one looks like another, so for me now, it's just a case of having some fun watching it and having a bit of laugh”
“I can grope myself but that's as far as it goes…”
“I was out at G-A-Y bar, as you do, you know enjoying myself, having a few drinks, and this beautiful lady came over to me and started talking to me...”
“… when you get to my age you've been there, seen it, done it and, to be fair, I don't think there's anything that a pornographic video could show me now …”
“I would rather read a good book than watch porn. ”
“Images are fine to turn you on …”
“And I just thought: "Ooh. Do these people really do this? I mean, is this what they really get up to?, ”
“And I tend to, like hair down there but not too much I like it to be quite trimmed and tidy.”
“I think I change my down there hairstyle more than I do the one on my head. ”
“The guy always seem to maintain the erection - no that doesn’t always happen at all and you know there is no excuse the term fanny farts going on.”
“If they were really feeling the height of the moment you know there will be a point where they would have to come…”
“I don't think I want to be a Paris Hilton …”
“When I got home and watched it again it got me a little bit aroused again so therefore I had to go back and do him again …”
“I've paid for sex twice in my life, once in Las Vegas and once here in London…”
“Shockingly I have paid for sex technically. ”
“...my luck is, even at my age I can have sex more than once in a very short time... ”
“It was when a guy once grabbed my crotch and was whispering really sexual things in my ear.”
“Even though it’s an intimate moment between two people its very dirty so I'm straight in the bathroom.”
“I'm quite conscious of the size of it ‘cos I have been with guys who are lot larger and its almost like comparing how much money you've got in your bank account. ”