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“I love I love surprising people like just while while they're doing something really innocuous like the washing up or something.”
“Something like role play or, you know, fantasies or dressing up, if I need to do any of that to keep sex interesting and exciting, I think there’s a problem with the sex itself. ”
“Reminding your partner of how sexy you are… you know, keeps lust alive within them.”
“No-one wants the monotony of, as my grandparents put it, the hokey cokey sex, where it’s just in, out and shake it all about. ”
“That’s actually reinvented some things for us. I think cos we’re in a relaxed atmosphere…”
“I used to play sort of these games, and one evening my other half was working late and he used to live quite a way from me, so I would arrive at his house whilst he was at work.”
“We stripped off and was walking around, we felt very, very liberated and free and I must admit it’s quite an arousing kinda sensation as well.”
“You can’t obviously work, study, raise children, do everything you do and still be what was it Jerry Hall described as "a whore in the bedroom"?”
“I like trying to find out where the best parts or where the most nerve endings are to really trace around the body.”
“I like to touch his penis and his balls, and like to massage him on his back…”
“I just have to look at him sometimes, a seductive look, a quick touch…”
“If you were to open my diary, you see I actually mark dates for sex. ”
“To get them in the mood it depends where you are and if I’m out and about I will always make a girl laugh, always. ”
“A bit of a tease in the shower and then throughout the day I like to send sexy text messages.”
“You might be doing the odd email. You know post has just arrived and you just think you know what I’ll send one of those saucy dirty text messages. And then before you know it…”
“Stockings, suspenders … dress up sexily with some stiletto heels… you know, sort of surprise him when he came home from work… on the doorstep in a long coat.”
“Something I’ve practised for many years, and believe me it's always worked, it drives my fiancée absolutely... ”
“It’s like getting your t-shirt and twisting your t-shirt so that it gets tight but it’s growing at the same time.”
“I think it’s something that as humans we need from time to time. Once you’ve experienced it you need it.”
“Having an orgasm for me is quite a functional thing. It’s a stress relief. ”
“If you can actually have like orgasms, or come together, then it’s fantastic.”
“I would describe the experience of having an orgasm as just being a total relaxation and lack of control over your own muscles.”
“It’s kind of like the end product of what might be five minutes’ work, it might be whole day’s work. ”
“It would be… like… having the best pee in the world when you’ve been really, really wanting to go to the toilet!”
“If you’ve made someone else come it’s like that is definitely you’ve had sex.”
“To some people they almost seem to be the be all and end all of sex, like they have sex to have an orgasm, whereas I have sex because I like having sex.”
“I mean obviously it’s a fantastic feeling but I wouldn’t say that that should be the be end and everything of your relationship.”
“If you don’t, then it obviously means that there’s something wrong with your relationship.”
“If you didn’t have orgasms you’d be questioning what was wrong.”
“It should definitely be a yes because at the end of the day not all orgasms can be achieved through intercourse…”
“I don’t drop hints, I can’t be doing with faffing around, if I want something from someone I’ll tell them. ”
“Men’s attention span is not great, don’t say lots of words at them because they get lost and they lose interest.”
“Hello yeah I’m shopping shall I get anything? … Cream? Honey … how about a Crunchie?”
“I’ve never been one that in bed would say do that, move round, do that…”
“When it gets to the point where we’re near a time when we will meet up, then often we’ll become a bit more explicit and a little more intimate down the phone as to potentially what we’re looking forward to…”
“My partner the other night presented me with a plate of bangers and mash of which he had arranged into let’s say a rather, er, erotic sort of display.”
“I’m actually in the middle of writing a story and I’ve kind of based it on my fantasies... ”
“Some people just see it as privacy but I think it goes on a much deeper level... ”
“I think people who use the word intimacy in the context of sex tend to link it with the notion of sex in the romantic context... That’s something that’s totally alien to me.”
“It’s a shock to the system when it happens as well and all of your emotions get very tangled up and you start shaking and tears start flowing…”
“Obviously I’ve never felt that way about someone in my life... ”
“Intimacy means, er…”
“I think the fact that we found ourselves in this hotel room on this island in the Mediterranean, which sounds quite romantic in itself…”
“The second time was probably a little better because I felt more confident, but then when I tried it again...”
“What I always worry is, alright if I fancy A and I fancy B, but do A and B fancy each other? Do they get along? ”
“You know, there’s always someone being left out, and unfortunately it was me. They seemed to enjoy each other’s company a hell of a lot more than mine.”
“I don’t even know really how it happened, but it did. And it happened a few times. And it was really quite incredible, but absolutely exhausting.”
“The first one was er… was awful, it was absolutely awful.”
“They add an interesting dynamic to the event, I think, because… when there are just 2 people having sex, there is a sense of responsibility…”
“Bearing in mind I was 17 when we got married, Dave was 20, and it was sort of a phase that we went through. ”
“Somebody suggested that we play strip poker, probably because I’ve never played strip poker in my life and I’ve no idea how to play poker, so inevitably I lost and one thing led to another…”
“It was a bit special because my fiancée had arranged a little surprise for me…”
“Drink, drugs can mix well with sex as long as you know your limits. I personally I’ve had sex on ecstasy a couple of times.”
“I don’t even take refined sugar. And drugs don’t even go there... ”
“I actually think that it’s very outrageous. I know I’ve done some outrageous things, but… ”
“It lowers your performance and also I feel that it’s really dangerous.”
“It’s like you’re on a completely different level. If the building was to fall down around you, you wouldn’t even know”
“I don’t think foreplay is that big a deal. I don’t really enjoy it.”
“Foreplay is really important to my sex life, because I think it’s a build up to the actual sexual act.”
“I think you’re asking such questions because you’re making assumption that I have some notions of seduction and romance, when I don’t.”
“You’re not likely to have foreplay every single time, but I do think that foreplay, to me, can make or break the sex.”
“For me there’s nothing better than a man who, basically, has no limits, and just loves a woman’s body.”
“I think foreplay has to be um something that’s negotiated or explored between two people for it to be as comfortable and as enjoyable for both of them.”
“… it’s something for me that comes before sex it is a part of sex …”
“I don’t like faffing around, I don’t like being given hints, I don’t like girls doing all the trying to seduce me.”
“I’m quite weak when it comes to sex anyway, so as long as I know what’s coming I’m semi there...”
“I like to be bitten on my neck.”
“I’m actually very much a touchy feely person, I like to be kissed, I like to be caressed, I like to be stroked.”
“I’m a very sensual person. I really do like touch.”
“I’m alright for the first couple of seconds and then I’m just like that, boring. And it’s just the same repetitive thing. ”
“Usually somebody who’s made a bit of an effort to obviously have washed, obvious as that may sound.”
“The old ears. Nibbling of those. Heavy breathing in your ear…”
“There’s one part at the back of my neck where, if you touch it, anyone touches, even myself touches it, I’m instantly horny.”
“Before I lost the weight, I didn’t like being touched because I was too big, and now I don’t like being touched because I could build another person off the excess skin.”
“My partner has found the best way to get myself in the mood is in actual fact to go for a out of the blue full on frontal chest assault.”
“For about 4 years it was vampires that I was obsessed by. I’d have to sort of watch a vampire DVD to build up to get in the mood for sex.”
“Basically I just can’t control myself, and it gets me going all the time.”
“My partner can get me in the mood pretty much with very little effort, with the touching, the flirting... ”
“They tend to be the ones who are more likely to make a really, really, really big deal about it, like they think they haven’t done something right or they think you’re not happy with them”
“I actually got quite good at faking it, so I didn’t realise what they were until…”
“I remember one time actually when it first happened, I thought what’s wrong with me, she was gorgeous you know. I should have been well away.”
“I mean I don’t find it a problem, it’s just something that’s never happened for me…”
“I used to think that there was something wrong with me…”
“I’ve gotta say it felt like I was wetting myself, so it didn’t really feel very nice so I’m glad that I haven’t had them very often.”
“I’ve never really had a problem having orgasms, but just to enhance it what I sometimes do is take the old wonder pill…”
“There’s been times when it’s been a bit dodgy, and I haven’t been able to get there…”
“I feel that I’ve had trouble reaching orgasm before in years gone by really because it has been a relaxation thing what with children, maybe worrying they're having in their packed lunch the next day or issues of work ”
“"what the hell am I doing here, I may as well not even be here, part of this"”
“I don’t have a problem with using vibrators on girls or girls owning a vibrator.”
“I, you know, pop to the supermarket and get things like syrup and er, I think jam was used once.”
“I heard all about these sex aids, so actually when I was out with my friends, we went into Ann Summers…”
“They allow you to be in various places at once, so if your hands are already busy, a sex toy can be doing other things.”
“Whenever I’m listening to music I tend to get an erection because, you know, they’re just vibrating away with the bass.”
“I have quite a few sex aids...They're all broken at the moment. ”
“I don’t like the rubbery smell or sensation…”
“When she showed me it I was a bit like, you know, what the hell’s that?”
“...it takes all the sexual tension and all the intimacy out of it when you are holding something that’s shaped like a cactus…”
“I’ve got an incredibly short attention span, I find that if I’m doing the same thing over and over again with the same person…”
“We have to give ourselves at least 5 days before or before we have sex because the testosterone levels have to be really high.”
“I did try keeping up with her and thinking you know what otherwise she’ll get bored or maybe something’s wrong with me. And it was just relentless.”
“When I’ve had a partner with a different sex drive, you’ve got two choices…”
“When I was very ill and I went off sex, his sex drive didn’t go up, it stayed the same…”
“I once met a beautiful girl, and she was very, very nice, but she wasn’t as sexually active as myself…”
“You have better sex with the girls who don’t want it that much, because the sex is always when you’re really horny.”
“My girl went on holiday for about two and a half weeks. And I remember after about a week…”
“I was away from home and I got in a situation where I was a bit worse for wear and my friend was worse for wear and I’d always had a little bit of a crush on him…”
“I have kissed someone else whilst a relationship was ending. But as far as anything sexual goes…”
“I felt because I didn’t see a future for us, I almost in my heart had moved on.”
“I’m quite sure that some people would be absolutely horrified at that and some people will understand completely.”
“The same time that I had an affair, he went and paid me back by having more affairs in the same period of time. ”
“I know why I’m doing what I’m doing, and they think it’s... something else. ”
“My partner was a bit older than me when we got married and he actually didn’t save sex for marriage...whereas I’ve been a Christian all my life.”
“She just wanted sex and not the relationship, and I wanted the whole hog.”
“It has been a bit problematic in the past, from what I’ve found. For example, usually when a guy gives me the impression that they’re genuinely interested in me and not just sex... ”
“We always say that we move in different ways. I go up and down, this is what me husband says, up and down, depending on, where you are or what’s going on.”
“I’ve even had one ex girlfriend said that she thought I was Robert Redford, and she imagined that I, Robert Redford was making love to her. ”
“I would turn him down. And he would take this so badly, really badly. It was like an ultimate rejection. ”
“That was probably my main concern before. Probably my only concern before. But now it’s actually happened…”
“It’s something that happens a lot at my stage of marriage and amongst my peers…”
“The older you get there’s this, er, about sex, people think that maybe you shouldn’t because you’re a certain age…”
“It’s a little bit like going to a restaurant and ordering, say, meatball soup and then you find you only get one meatball.”
“Do I look too fat? Do I look too thin? Is my hair OK? It all seems very kind of vain and aesthetic, but it’s important that you look OK and you feel OK.”
“It’s not the most attractive thing at all, and you know, the reason why it used to worry me is because I used to wonder whether my partner would find me attractive. ”
“Simply because it kind of scares me a bit because I’ve gone through it before…”
“My friends tell me that I need to get over that hurdle and that problem but I personally I can’t. ”
“There has been times where I haven’t and I’ve been stupid, and I think we’ve all been there as well.”
“I’ve had 3 caesarean sections and I worry about my stomach looking a it like a road map”
“We found out from my doctor that you can still have sex when you’re pregnant and I’m pretty sure I’ve heard before that sex is actually good for the baby.”
“It didn’t put us off any sort of sexual activity, it was just as often as it was, which with my husband was very, very regular.”
“I was feeling really ill, I had terrible morning sickness, although my goodness it does not last just in the morning…”
“The actual intricacies of trying to get your stomach into any position whatsoever that is comfortable enough to be able to shag, is almost impossible. ”
“It’s virtually impossible to have sex in the same position, so you have to adopt different positions, and that’s probably backwards or something like that!”
“She was so scared around that area of things... I don’t even think she would have attempted to have sex again. ”
“Even for weeks, you know, you’ve still got afterbirth in, in your stomach, in your urine, blood coming out.”
“When it hurts you tense up, and… then you get stressed out and then you tense up, and it just got worse and worse.”
“With the first child I had post-natal depression, and it didn’t affect me where my sex life dipped, in fact I wanted more sex, and that I think was for reassurance.”
“I would say probably an absence of sex for about, say, six to, to eight weeks would be normal because it’s a big thing, having a baby.”
“It got quieter for a start, less spontaneous because obviously you have another little person in the house that is taking up a lot of your energy. ”
“Has to be done cause apparently one in three people have an STD and they don’t know.”
“It’s like chicken pox but these pock like marks appear around your bum.”
“I actually don’t know who I got it from, cos it was during a time when I was promiscuous.”
“It is horrible, it’s painful, you can’t pee, it’s disgusting, you get like a yellowy green pus…”
“For me my body is a temple and only a selected few will ever get the chance to explore it. ”
“She said that her friend had Chlamydia and that I should get checked out…”
“And she just looked at us, and went "Just make sure you’re done in ten minutes" and closed the door...”
“So I sent him a poem back describing basically how he was gonna get some great head and the only problem was the message somehow didn’t go to him…”
“So we did a bit of a sniff test to find out whether or not it was urine, we were like “it doesn’t really smell like pee” ”
“We pulled over across into a lay-by, or thought it was a lay-by and then, um… ”
“We found quite a secluded spot in the sea and erm, we decided to get a bit frisky so we started having sex erm, then turned around to notice…”
“I could hear it happen, and I could feel it happen, and the worst thing was it was in my bed as well, so I was fuming.”
“It was very embarrassing and very loud it killed the mood a little bit.”
“…when the lights came back on again and my period had started unexpectedly and it was just all over. the place looked like a murder scene it was absolutely horrific. ”
“…oh there is a sex program so there was nothing else on and I though oh this is a bit more fun isn’t it and suddenly my wife burst in…”
“...he said "oh that is it" and I was like "sorry but", it was really, really embarrassing…”
“You’re in the moment and you’ll say things and then once it stops you kind of resolve back to like normal life and you go oh hello, and then you realise what you’re wearing…”
“I don’t have one-night-stands, and I don’t sleep with strangers, so anyone that I have slept with has either been a friend or a girlfriend.”
“It was awkward in as much as it was uncomfortable and borderline painful but not in a good way”
“I generally fall asleep I think, after sex, so I don’t really... ”
“The day my divorce came through is when we did it, um… and then after that it, it just seemed weird because I’d never done it before…”
“I mean a coupla bottles of wine, and we’ve had some great sex where inhibitions have gone, fell off the end of the bed, done all sorts of things we don’t normally do, and then the morning after…”
“We were quite drunk and we were staying at my house, and she knew about me and she knew about my sexuality and she started asking lots of questions…”
“I subsequently went on to the pill as you tend to do when you’re in a long term relationship, but obviously I hadn’t been at that time and too excited, or drunk, or silly to use a condom…”
“I came off the Pill and then my periods were really erratic and after about a year we both began to get a little anxious…”
“That was like the biggest shock of the planet. I just … ooh I couldn’t believe when the doctor's receptionist told me”
“I told me husband before we got married that I had no intention of ever having any children, so I hoped that he never wanted any children cause this wouldn’t feature in our life whatsoever.”
“I knew I had done something wrong, or I felt I had done something wrong. ”
“There was part of me inside that probably went 'Oh my goodness, what have we just done?'”
“I don’t know any woman that actually only buys 1 pregnancy test; you always buy at least 2, because you always think that the first one’s wrong”
“It was just wrong timing. Completely wrong timing.”
“I’d no idea, absolutely no idea, of just what a difference that would make to my life.”
“I was absolutely terrified, in fact I managed to hide it for about four months.”
“My sex drive is pretty high I would say, going on by what my husband says and all the boyfriends I’ve had before. It’s not usually a problem…”
“I haven’t got any problems at all, everything works, and I feel sometimes like if I was about 25.”
“So if my girlfriend’s listening to this, then you’d best do something about it!”
“I hate it. I can’t stand it. It was the worst experience ever.”
“I have never wanted to be somewhere else ever in my life, it just, it was horrible, it was horrible.”
“I think it’s quite surprising, it took us both by surprise, cause it’s labelled as one of the most convenient forms of contraception for women today.”
“It is absolutely the most revolting thing ever and it’s pathetic. I mean, it just… it… I don't know how it works but all I know is that it slips all over the place.”
“That was difficult because it was quite painful to start with, but that only lasted a few hours.”
“Um, a condom went missing on a partner and um… I didn’t know it had gone there…”
“Now the female condom, er, is in a complete category of it’s own. It is hilarious to say the least, at least my experience was.”
“From my personal experiences you need to use protection regardless of whether it’s 2 men, 2 women and also straight couples.”
“Your sex life is for each other, you give yourself to the other person,and masturbation is very kind of, self indulgent, you kind of do that for your own pleasure.”
“Masturbation is a solo activity. It’s not sex. ”
“I’ve discovered lots of things about myself through obviously trying things out…”
“You know I used to do it at school. I used to have competitions with my friends in the toilets.”
“I think you need to know your own body and you need to know what it is that makes you tick.”
“It can provide a benchmark for what the other partner likes doing, how they like to be touched, what they enjoy doing.”
“I do actually find it a big turn on when I wake up sometimes in the middle of the night and I know that he’s sort of caressing himself…”
“That is really difficult question. It sounds really lame because it depends how busy I am. If you are having a super busy week I just come home and go to sleep and then get up again, shower, get up. ”
“As he was standing knee deep in the swimming pool we had this discussion, it was very random.”
“This was pre the days where you’d go and buy your pregnancy test, you had to go actually to the doctors and have a test, and you had to wait for it to come back.”
“I didn’t get around to telling him that because he avoided me for a while and whether he knew, I don’t know, but he must’ve had a sixth sense…”
“As Christians we both believe that pornography can actually do more damage than it can good.”
“I’ve always found it quite strange when people want to watch porn at the same time as having sex.”
“The very first ones, the only ones that we used to watch, with the flock wallpaper in the background, I were more interested in the horrific decoration they had. ”
“One time my fiancée was in the room with me and she could see I was getting a little bit fruity... ”
“There’s always like different sex positions you can find out about, different toys you can use… it’s actually educational in its own way.”
“It makes me feel a bit dirty in that kind of way and I would rather play out live scene with my partner …”
“What really, really gets me are those silly romantic people who seem to equate sex with love. Now that just makes me nauseous and sick.”
“I’m quite sure that some of my friends would say I was always in a open relationship, the other person just didn’t know.”
“I thought it was quite a good deal because the girl was a bit older than me, and I wasn’t over keen on her…”
“I still don’t understand how it works actually. I have got a tendency for jealousy... ”
“When you’re a girl and you go to a strip club, normally girl strippers let you be a little bit more adventurous with them than with guys…”
“I’m willing to try pretty much anything as long as I know in advance”
“There’s an abandoned woods near where I live in Somerset, and I took sort of a girl down there once in my car... ”
“Um the honey. Chocolate. Um … and there was ice cubes. That was really good fun... ”
“It was not what I expected, it wasn’t as awful as I expected and I didn’t really feel bad at all afterwards.”
“cos you are thinking oh my God is someone going to walk in and at the same time thinking I hope not until I’ve finished 'cos I don’t want to stop half way through…”
“If it got to the stage where I needed to masturbate in secret, I would think that there was something I needed to say about the relationship…”
“If you say no then you end up either having an argument or possibly even losing that person, but then if you say yes are you saying yes for the right reasons? ”
“I er was involved with a lady and she was buying me things and she offered to buy me a car…”
“because I wasn’t actually looking for a meaningful relationship with them it didn’t really matter”
“I'd started seeing someone and it's turned out they've just wanted me for sex... ”
“I don't really feel that I knew my own feelings or what i wanted out of a relationship at that time. Very, very young and I just feel that I wish i had waited a year or so”
“I don’t think he had any form of sexual education ‘cos he didn’t get it in the right place …”
“I had drunken, unprotected sex once…”
“I think we can just use our own imagination, and i think that conjures up a lot more than what it would do, if it were any pornographic film or anything”
“I’ve watched porn with my wife and a little shocking for her at first but then she opened up …”
“The only thing we have ever done filming is on my partner’s mobile phone and I think my partner felt that he was a bit of a superstar after he saw himself. ”
“We asked somebody to film us outdoors and unfortunately we got caught by the police ”
“Afterwards watching the film I didn't feel at all sexy as I was going my bum looks a bit big from that angle ”
“It just looked quite silly seeing yourself doing those things.”
“…we could put our video on the top shelf. Might become a bestseller.”
“…it kind of builds up that trust between us and we see other women on television and feel jealous about it but we feel comfortable with being attractive to ourselves or to each other”
“I've had a lot of guys who have expected me or wanted me to do things that clearly they've seen in porn ”
“I like to do a Hollywood wax …”
“I am more comfortable knowing that everything is neat and not running amok and it’s the same with guys ”
“… but no, but yeah, it's mainly just shaved off.”
“My fella would prefer for me to shave it all off …”
“I don't feel the need to cuddle, I certainly don't smoke I don't feel the need to immediately jump in the shower but just to have some form of connection with the person you’re with.”
“I find my partner enjoys the fact that I’m still paying attention after sex, whether it’s just caressing her body or if its kissing her gently...”
“I don’t like to feel embarrassed and I don’t like embarrassing other people. ”
“Guys are normally quite flattered if you tell them to stop so to me I am more concerned if someone is really tiny because ‘cos they aren’t going to be a fat lot of use to anybody …”
“For me when it wasn’t too much of an embarrassment as my wife had never seen or handled one before …”
“I have been in a situation - two situations actually…”
“I always say it doesn't matter about the size…”
“I have been with who have been a 30 second wonder which was quite frustrating for me but probably slightly embarrassing for them ”
“… my partner did excite me quite a lot and more than I can handle …”
“I have been with someone before that has ejaculated far too quickly.”
“Like, as in moments before penetration, which is, a bit too early really. ”