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“Now we’ve ended up in the situation where maybe looking back on it I wouldn’t have wanted to be in”
“That was probably my main concern before. Probably my only concern before. But now it’s actually happened…”
“We found out from my doctor that you can still have sex when you’re pregnant and I’m pretty sure I’ve heard before that sex is actually good for the baby.”
“It didn’t put us off any sort of sexual activity, it was just as often as it was, which with my husband was very, very regular.”
“I was feeling really ill, I had terrible morning sickness, although my goodness it does not last just in the morning…”
“The actual intricacies of trying to get your stomach into any position whatsoever that is comfortable enough to be able to shag, is almost impossible. ”
“It’s virtually impossible to have sex in the same position, so you have to adopt different positions, and that’s probably backwards or something like that!”
“She was so scared around that area of things... I don’t even think she would have attempted to have sex again. ”
“Even for weeks, you know, you’ve still got afterbirth in, in your stomach, in your urine, blood coming out.”
“When it hurts you tense up, and… then you get stressed out and then you tense up, and it just got worse and worse.”
“With the first child I had post-natal depression, and it didn’t affect me where my sex life dipped, in fact I wanted more sex, and that I think was for reassurance.”
“I would say probably an absence of sex for about, say, six to, to eight weeks would be normal because it’s a big thing, having a baby.”
“It got quieter for a start, less spontaneous because obviously you have another little person in the house that is taking up a lot of your energy. ”
“I think I was just trying to keep my boyfriend interested in me. Mentally it was a lot harder. ”
“I make no apology for it… I can’t cry into my hankie and pretend to be something that I’m not.”
“We’d split up before then and that was the only time when the condom had split. So I wasn’t too sure whether it was mine...”
“You wonder what might have been. You wonder if you made the right decision.”
“It has changed my view on it. Before I would have tried to force the girl as much as possible to have had an abortion.”
“I think at the time I was quite upset because you know you do sort of wonder about what what the child would have looked like.”
“I subsequently went on to the pill as you tend to do when you’re in a long term relationship, but obviously I hadn’t been at that time and too excited, or drunk, or silly to use a condom…”
“I came off the Pill and then my periods were really erratic and after about a year we both began to get a little anxious…”
“That was like the biggest shock of the planet. I just … ooh I couldn’t believe when the doctor's receptionist told me”
“I told me husband before we got married that I had no intention of ever having any children, so I hoped that he never wanted any children cause this wouldn’t feature in our life whatsoever.”
“I knew I had done something wrong, or I felt I had done something wrong. ”
“There was part of me inside that probably went 'Oh my goodness, what have we just done?'”
“I don’t know any woman that actually only buys 1 pregnancy test; you always buy at least 2, because you always think that the first one’s wrong”
“It was just wrong timing. Completely wrong timing.”
“I’d no idea, absolutely no idea, of just what a difference that would make to my life.”
“I was absolutely terrified, in fact I managed to hide it for about four months.”
“As he was standing knee deep in the swimming pool we had this discussion, it was very random.”
“This was pre the days where you’d go and buy your pregnancy test, you had to go actually to the doctors and have a test, and you had to wait for it to come back.”
“I didn’t get around to telling him that because he avoided me for a while and whether he knew, I don’t know, but he must’ve had a sixth sense…”
“I've been taking contraceptives since I was 18 but did have before then a split condom incident which put the fear of God into me ...”
“I’ve been in situations where condoms have broke…”
“I was constantly worried every single month that I'd get pregnant…”
“… it was a time when I was allowed to talk to the back of the head of my partner which is something she wouldn’t normally like too much”