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“I lost my virginity with a older woman, she was about, oh, mid 40s I think…”
“I was hanging around with a lot of people that was older than me, so that was sort of the in thing to do even though I was quite young.”
“I was so embarrassed at being a virgin that I pretended I had lost my virginity on a French exchange.”
“I was with with a boyfriend that I’d been with for about 6 months at the time, but I had pretty much the usual, the old cliché which I think a lot of us girls tend to fall for…”
“I lost my virginity um when my husband and I had our first night of marriage together. ”
“She threw a condom on the bed and said, "Here you go this, is your birthday present"…”
“She came out of the, er, bathroom, in full stockings, suspenders and everything and I was like, “Oh my God”.”
“It was sort of really uneasy. Erm... sort of both, you know, tumbling around a bit.”
“All in all the first time experience wasn’t one that I even really like to even think back to… ”
“I was 35 years old in actual fact. Er, something of a late starter. ”
“One of them asked me if I wanted to go for a walk with him and I went, I knew what I was doing, and we found a door that led to the backstage…”
“We had a drink, and she invited me back to her house and, er, basically she seduced me!”
“A friend’s boyfriend actually snuck one of his Dad’s top shelf magazines out and we were having a bit of laugh reading one…”
“All I can remember was one minute I was OK, next minute I woke up in a B&B and, er, this girl was standing in front of me.”
“It was nervous time for me ‘cos I knew it was the first time for my wife as well. ”
“After I done it I felt happy and pleased that I had done it and good but I didn't feel like I needed to do it again anytime soon…”
“I had one too many Alco pops and went back to his place…”
“To be honest at the time you’re not thinking are you ready or not, you're just thinking you wanna do it.”
“I wasn’t the maturest of people when I was 18.”
“At the age of 16, you don’t really know much about it and you’re not sexually mature as such.”
“I do have regrets because, you know, I always fantasised about this knight in shining armour…”
“I thought I’d probably been ready for quite some time to be honest. I’d been aware of how I was, how I felt since I was about 9 years old.”
“It kind of made me feel like I'd grown up, even though I was only 15.”
“These days it’s old to lose your virginity at 20, but when I was younger it just seemed right to do.”
“I don’t have any angst about… "I should have saved myself for the first man or first wedding night" or whatever.”
“I wasn’t quite ready for it to happen then, and you know, I regretted the way it did happen.”
“When I did actually start my period, and she said oh, don’t worry about that, it’s a period, and it’s just something you have every month, and that was it.”
“We don’t have to sit there blatantly talking about sex all the time, but they know they can come to me, they can ask me anything.”
“The only sex chat I’ve ever had with my mum occurred when I was about 17 and I’d just come back from a guy I was seeing…”
“I certainly don’t remember us having the archetypal birds and the bees talk. Erm... I don’t think anything was really mentioned.”
“When it came to the time for my parents to tell me about sex, erm, it was too late by then.”
“I come from a strict Chinese Christian family. Sex is absolutely taboo in the house, you can’t mention the word sex without making my parents angry.”
“You know, when you’re 6, you don’t really know what’s happening and why it’s happening. I mean, I thought the guy was peeing on her.”
“We wasn’t given bananas or cucumbers to practise on, we was just told how to put it on our fingers.”
“She said that a man gets his willy and he sticks it into your fanny. Quite blunt like that but I suppose when you’re 7 and 8 and she was 14…”
“I can remember reading a book called The Secret Garden that were about two lesbians, my mother nearly had apoplexy...”
“They were never really that good, although I do remember that that was the first time that I was told that oral sex was something you didn’t have down the phone.”
“At the same time we also had the childbirth video, which has left me as a vegetarian for the rest of my life …”
“Um, yeah I believed them that that is what happened ... stupidly.”
“I was like, “Oh my God, what am I gonna do? I don’t know what I’m doing?” ”
“I got promptly marched round to his mother’s and she said that she was going to have him prosecuted cause he was 17.”
“It was a bit of a joke for me to lose my virginity... and you know, it wasn’t the way I wanted it to happen”
“I think they just see it as quite a private topic to sort of talk about because obviously they're not, sort of open about it. Whereas myself I'm a very open person and I don't mind what I talk about. ”
“… I think the only time they have ever said anything about it was I think the only thing my mother ever said about sex was to advise me to have a wee before and after sex to avoid getting cystitis. ”
“...my mum did actually say to me once as teenager "now I would like to think that we are very close and we get on well and can talk about things like S E X” ”
“I was amused by the whole thing, I think I thought it was suppose to be a comedy magazine just like and I got my friends round and we went through it in my room sort of carefully listening out for my parents. ”
“in porn actually you get a really quite ugly looking guys presumably because no on is really looking at their faces.”
“The first time I saw anything that was pornographic was I was walking to school with a friend of mine and he dropped a magazine from underneath his jacket to the embarrassment of every other school child walking across the road and er, and after being que”
“…really embarrassing we just thought it was a home video, put it in, and it was obviously - porn.”
“I was like "wow excuse me? okay then I don't want to watch anymore of this" you know you got people laughing at you”
“… it was a new sensation for me I wasn't use to at all so but the more I got relaxed the better it felt ”
“… it was almost like square peg round hole really.”
“Taking as it were for the first time didn’t hurt as much it was more uncomfortable and it felt like I had passed a brick.”
“It’s supposed to be something of pleasure erm, it’s not something that you can force ”