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So most girls 'cum' when they have an orgasm, but apart from that how does a girl know if she has or not if she gets quite wet anyway??

Charlotte on 22 May 2010 8 Comments

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  • The other girls are right..you really do know when you have had one. It took until my fourth sexual partner for me to orgasm and i was beginning to think i was abnormal as i hadnt already. I just knew something was happening that hadnt before and i couldnt stop it. Breathing tends to speed up and it just feels like a wave of pleasure coming over you that then stops...not like the usual 'good' feelings during sex that are continuous. Orgasms are 10 times better!

    Posted by Leanne on 27 June 2010  |  1 person found this useful

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  • How do you mean "cum when they have an orgasm"? Are you talking about female ejaculation? ..as "cumming" and orgasm are one and the same thing, I thought. Anyway, if you are talking about ejaculation, I wouldn't have said that "most girls" do at all. It's fairly rare, I thought - correct me if I'm wrong girls! In any case, it doesn't really matter either way - I have never ejaculated and have been able to have some of the most mind-blowing orgasms I can imagine in my time! My orgasms are characteisized by that kind of tickly achy tingly feeling that spreads from the clit/vagina, as others have described, and then results in a kind of overwhelmng sensation centred in the clit/vagina area that is pretty indescribable, followed by lots of hard fast and pleasurable pulsating in the genital region, which slowly subsides. Can be sensitive to the touch for a bit afterwards.

    Posted by Rosa on 09 September 2010  |  0 people found this useful

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  • i think i have an orgasm during foreplay but it only seems to last a couple of seconds.. is there any way to make the feeling last longer?

    Posted by sarah on 08 July 2010  |  0 people found this useful

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  • It's a reflex, a bit like sneezing. It starts as an achy sort of feeling that spreads from your clitoris down your thighs and builds up to an overwhelming sensation. Most people of both sexes will tense their muscles and curl their legs up, breathe fast, and make a 'cumface' (grimace). As other people have said, you'll know when you've had it. If you practice by yourself you'll be able to find out what works best for you. It can be difficult getting there the first time for some women, because when you start getting close it feels a bit like you're about to wet yourself, but once you manage the first one and know what works for you it should be easier after that.

    Posted by Paula on 06 July 2010  |  0 people found this useful

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  • The other girls are right..you really do know when you have had one. It took until my fourth sexual partner for me to orgasm and i was beginning to think i was abnormal as i hadnt already. I just knew something was happening that hadnt before and i couldnt stop it. Breathing tends to speed up and it just feels like a wave of pleasure coming over you that then stops...not like the usual 'good' feelings during sex that are continuous. Orgasms are 10 times better!

    Posted by Leanne on 27 June 2010  |  1 person found this useful

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