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I've had sex three times twice with the same person and I have never orgasmed. I'm the only person who has made myself cum and that has only been from my clitoris being stimulated. Am I normal?

sarah on 06 April 2013 2 Comments

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  • You're totally normal. I'm 21 and my boyfriend of 1 year has never made me cum with no aid. For me personally, it is impossible to orgasm purely from penetration alone. When I do orgasm, we either use toys (bullets from Ann Summers are made to stimulate the clit and are small enough to use during sex), or it involves him going down on me while fingering at the same time. Most of my female friends also can't orgasm from sex alone :)
    Also, overthinking it can really make it hard to cum. A big reason why I struggle so much now is because I have stressed about it too much and so find it hard to relax during foreplay/sex. Make sure you both take your time and relax, that orgasm will come eventually!

    Posted by Danielle on 06 October 2013  |  0 people found this useful

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  • Yes it's perfectly normal, When I started having sex all my husband would do was go in and out. I had to teach him to rub his penis against my clitorus to get me to orgasm and I only had to tell him once and more often than not we orgasm together now or very close together.

    Posted by lauren on 17 May 2013  |  0 people found this useful

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