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I'm 30 and have regular sex, I seem to have problems ejaculating. I enjoy having sex but find it difficult to achieve orgasm, why?

Bob on 29 March 2009 7 Comments

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  • it can take upto 20mins 2 achieve an orgasm, that amount of time is recomended to be spent purely on foreplay so nature being as perfect as it is i can only assume it may just naturaly take longer for you to achieve orgasm. also the more often you have sex the less pleasurable it gets and the harder it becomes to achieve orgasm the mind is considered to be the most powerfull sexual instrument so if your mind is distracted or your not feeling amorous that may cause problems

    Posted by Tess on 30 March 2009  |  1 person found this useful

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  • I have the same problem ejactulating during sex however it can be alot easier through the means of foreplay when your relaxed with touching and imagination

    Posted by Jason on 01 April 2009  |  0 people found this useful

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  • If you're on any medication like SSRI's or anti anxiolytics, they can have this sort of effect, you may want to check!

    Posted by Rachel on 01 April 2009  |  0 people found this useful

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  • i have a similar problem, i dont ejaculate prior to sex, and very relaxed as to not put pressure on myself, but still find i only cum a during certain positions.

    Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31 March 2009  |  0 people found this useful

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  • im 20 and have the same problem, most of the time i have to finish myself off and its embarassing as the girl normally takes offence! i can cum when mastabating, but not during sex! SO annoying!

    Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31 March 2009  |  0 people found this useful

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