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im 19 and gay, how can i make anal sex feel good every time as i tend to feel umcorfortable or in pain most times?!?!

adrian on 23 April 2009 4 Comments

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  • Anal sex is something you cannot rush - get your partner to slow things right down and finger you gently with lots of lube... after 5 or 10 mins everything will be much more relaxed and less likely to hurt. A small vibrating buttplug can be a good 'halfway stage' between fingers and full sex. You may also find that the 'spoons' position (lying on your side with your partner behind you) makes anal more comfortable and pleasurable. It is very important not to rush as any tearing or bleeding increases the chance of you picking up an infection.

    Posted by Claire on 24 April 2009  |  1 person found this useful

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  • I've given this advice to others in the past... Remember that for the past x-number of years your muscles have been used for something quite different. As well as the physical/mechanical advice (see above messages) give your body time to learn its new role. You will adapt, your mind will train itself and the discomfort should reduce in a short space of time. Practice makes perfect.

    Posted by John on 28 April 2009  |  0 people found this useful

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  • Anal sex is something you cannot rush - get your partner to slow things right down and finger you gently with lots of lube... after 5 or 10 mins everything will be much more relaxed and less likely to hurt. A small vibrating buttplug can be a good 'halfway stage' between fingers and full sex. You may also find that the 'spoons' position (lying on your side with your partner behind you) makes anal more comfortable and pleasurable. It is very important not to rush as any tearing or bleeding increases the chance of you picking up an infection.

    Posted by Claire on 24 April 2009  |  1 person found this useful

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  • Ted's right... Lube is more or less a must. The first 3 or so times it will feel a bit uncomfortable, but with practice it gets easier. One thing which works for me is if you put a pillow or 2 underneath your rear (if you're worried about mess, have a towel on standby or just use old pillows). Part of the problem is getting the angle of entry right, as your back passage has walls that can rupture if you pound them too hard. Assuming you're in the gay missionary position (facing your partner), cushions under your rear will help you adjust until the angle of entry is comfortable. There are free pamphlets available from your local hospital's GUM clinic which explain how this works.
    Also always use a condom, as the first few times it's quite possible you will bleed down there, and that makes the risk of STDs quite high.
    Be sure to put the lube on after the condom, otherwise it'll just slip off.
    And finally don't be afraid to tell your partner to slow down or stop if it gets too much, as you're less likely to spend the next 2 days in agony that way. If he's particulary large, this is even more important. You can always masturbate each other to climax.

    Posted by Rupert on 24 April 2009  |  0 people found this useful

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  • Lot's and lot's of Lubrication, and patience!

    Posted by Ted on 24 April 2009  |  0 people found this useful

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