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Im 14 years old and im bisexual...im in love with my bestfriend who is a girl and i cant tell her, what should i do?

Lucy on 12 March 2012 8 Comments

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  • i told my bestfriend, who is straight,i liked her, but we just laughed it off and it didnt effect our friendship, but we didnt get together, if your really close friends then it shouldnt effect your friendship and theres a chance you may get what you want

    Posted by [No first name supplied] on 23 April 2012  |  1 person found this useful

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  • It depends on whether you think shw will be accepting- last year my friend told me that she was bi, and then a few months later she told me that she thought she liked me. I had a boyfriend and didnt think I liked her, but I didn't see her any differently, she was still my best friend and I still wanted to spend just as much time with her, and our friendship would have continue to be exactly the same, but a month or so later we were on holiday together and she kissed me, and all these feelings came rushing through, that I had been repressing because I thought I was straight, and I realised I'd been falling for her. We've been together for eight months now. I wouldn't suggest kissing her like she did me, because it's risky, but I do think that if she doesn't know you're bi you could try telling her, and if she responds positively then maybe tell her you like her- but see how she reacts first, and give it time. Good luck!

    Posted by Anna on 20 March 2012  |  1 person found this useful

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  • i told my bestfriend, who is straight,i liked her, but we just laughed it off and it didnt effect our friendship, but we didnt get together, if your really close friends then it shouldnt effect your friendship and theres a chance you may get what you want

    Posted by [No first name supplied] on 23 April 2012  |  1 person found this useful

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  • It all depends on the person. I told two friends and one was cool with it and one freaked out. You could try telling her and if she freaks out tell her it was a joke.

    Posted by Jenny on 30 March 2012  |  0 people found this useful

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  • It depends on whether you think shw will be accepting- last year my friend told me that she was bi, and then a few months later she told me that she thought she liked me. I had a boyfriend and didnt think I liked her, but I didn't see her any differently, she was still my best friend and I still wanted to spend just as much time with her, and our friendship would have continue to be exactly the same, but a month or so later we were on holiday together and she kissed me, and all these feelings came rushing through, that I had been repressing because I thought I was straight, and I realised I'd been falling for her. We've been together for eight months now. I wouldn't suggest kissing her like she did me, because it's risky, but I do think that if she doesn't know you're bi you could try telling her, and if she responds positively then maybe tell her you like her- but see how she reacts first, and give it time. Good luck!

    Posted by Anna on 20 March 2012  |  1 person found this useful

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  • Heya!

    Been there, done that. One of my best friends i didnt even like, but when i told her i was bi, she freaked out and wouldnt come on holiday with me because of it - it ruined our friendship completely. Then when i did like my other best friend, i knew she wasnt bi, so i never told her. But i never regretted it.

    The thing you have to ask yourself is
    1. Does she know you are bi? If not, how will she react?
    2. Are you sure that she is bi?
    3. Even with a male friend, if you do have something with them, if you do break up, it can ruin the friendship, and thats the same with either gender. Do you want to risk that?

    Maybe you should take it a step at a time - tell her you are bi if she doesnt know. and leave it at that. maybe if she is bi she will tell you in a couple of months. If she isnt, she wont say anything. You have your answer before you even ask - trust me. Normally if i say i am bi to a bi person, i get the response of 'me too'.

    Good luck!

    Tam xx

    Posted by Tam on 18 March 2012  |  0 people found this useful

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