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A few months ago, I nicely asked my boyfriend to stop watching porn. I just found out he's been lying to me about him stopping watching. What to do?

Emma on 01 December 2010 11 Comments

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  • To be honest, you haven't exactly got any right to tell him to stop watching porn. He's not cheating, and that's just what boys do.

    Posted by steph on 20 April 2011  |  39 people found this useful

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  • It is cheating... He's getting pleasure out of watching other women doing things to theirselves and to eachother... You'd call it cheating if he was in the same room watching it. So don't talk b.s! My boyfriend realised how much it upset me and he has stopped it, and threw all his dvds out. He knows where his priorities lie :)

    Posted by Hannah on 19 July 2011  |  34 people found this useful

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  • He isn't cheatin, its just porn, and a load of girls watch porn but if it was them u wouldn't say it was cheatin. Its just what guys do.

    Posted by Rose on 06 November 2011  |  0 people found this useful

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  • firstly u have to ask your self why are you asking him to stop ??
    Their could be many reasons, u feel like his cheatin on u, u feel like he thinks these woman are better then u. To be honest this is probably more about how u feel then him. Honestly as a woman i do understand watching your partner getting sexually aroused by a woman u may not thinks all that or totally oppisite stunning makes u feel happy.. You could be shy to watch it your self.. I suffered all these things but onced i watched porn on my own i realised it can be satisfying and u and your partner could embrace it together. even have a laugh about it...its natural its no different from masturbating or sex.. The way i look it i rather when im not about my boyfriend get off some who not real then cheat.. if he cant express him self sexually your relationship wont work. maybe your have to find some one who dont wach porn which is like 0% of men... but be daring your self x

    Posted by kayleigh on 26 September 2011  |  0 people found this useful

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  • I have watched porn and masturbated regurarly since puberty; in and out of relationships and I have never once said "I love you" to my computer, wanted to exchange the friendship and company of my girlfriend for whirr the DVD player or kissed my girlfriend while thinking about my magazines!

    Porn is not going to steal your boyfriend from you. It gives a passing pleasure to him and is no threat to you.

    If he lied to you, that's the thing to be worried about.
    Talk frankly to him about it and ask him to do the same. If you both do that you can't go wrong.

    Posted by William on 27 August 2011  |  2 people found this useful

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  • Grow up?

    I'm not saying this because I'm male, but because it's none of your (or anybody else's) business. This only used to bother me in my first relationship ever, when I was just a kid really, but as soon as I realized the only negative impact it was having on my relationship was the negative importance I was giving it, in my mind, it ceased to be a problem.

    You could, of course, ask him to stop, or even break up over it if you feel this is a deal-breaker. But you could do better than this and just let it go. Because I know it doesn't feel like it, but the truth is that you're just making up stuff to be miserable about. And when it comes to relationships, it is always a very, very bad idea to try and get the other person to change for you. Specially if you feel you are entitled to it because you changed first for them.

    Posted by Ralph on 27 August 2011  |  2 people found this useful

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