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im 15 and i was fingered by a boy. i think he popped my cherry cos i bled abit and it was uncomfortable. is this in any way normal ? also, does this mean it wont hurt the first time i have sex cos my cherry's already been popped ? x”

Posted by Mollie on 28th Oct at 12:50AM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm 18 and since I was 16 I've wanted to have sex. My girlfriend has been with me for 3 years now and she's really lovely. I think she is ready and I'm ready but I don't know whether I'm up to it and if she's up for it. Plus I have this really romantic idea about sex and I don't really know if it's all its cracked up to be.”

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Posted by qxmvlzqzks on 23rd Oct at 4:40PM (flag as inappropriate)

I was with my boyfriend the other night and he was playing with himself and he had an erection. After about 15 minutes he fingered me. My friends keep telling me i am pregnant because i have been having cramps i thought i was having cramps because he was forceful when he fingered me. i am really scared please help:(( Thanks”

Posted by Kate on 20th Oct at 10:55AM (flag as inappropriate)

im 17 and im a virgin, i feel as if i am ready but everytime i get the chance to do it i cant, is it becasue it is not the right guy? and i really want to loose it because i have had lots of chances and i just want to have good sex but i have to go through the pain of loosing it firstbut i just cant seem to find the right guy, yes i get lots of chances but none are for me, why is this? is it because i am not ready, scared etc? and i also get wet ALOT, a guy feels my inner thigh and i pre cum, is that normal?”

Posted by molly on 16th Oct at 1:59PM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm 22 and recently I met with a girl in party and we enjoyed everything and in the end it came up with just insertion for a matter of 4-5 sec then she said for not doing that and I controlled somehow. So my question is am I still a virgin as I never had sex before that and after that too.
Please help.
and one more thing does masturbating has anything with virginity.”

Posted by Aanand on 5th Oct at 2:04AM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm a 17 year old virgin and I'm happy I've waited. I've been with my current boyfriend for 10 months and he understands, he's older and more experienced but realises that I'm not ready and I love him for that. I decided to wait for the right guy now I'm just waiting for the right time. My boyfriend has told me he'd wait forever. Whenever I'm ready. I'm glad about that. I don't think anyone should feel pressured into it and should wait untill they feel the time, place and person feels right. Thats what I'll be doing and i'm happy.”

Posted by Lucy on 1st Oct at 10:41AM (flag as inappropriate)

well im 13 and i havent even had a boyfreind yett :( i wud want one but i just dont have the confedence a girl whos in the year below me (a good freind) lost her v and when i found out it made me want to and also can you have sex when you havnt started your periods”

Posted by Nicole on 29th Sep at 7:49PM (flag as inappropriate)

I was 19 years old when I had sex for the first time, she was 2 years older than me. First time was : push, stare and laugh. Now I´m 29 and she is still my only one and we have 2 children.”

Posted by Antti on 12th Sep at 6:48PM (flag as inappropriate)

im a 27 yr old virgin any time it comes to having sex,his penis wont go in im looking for some advice”

Posted by mary on 8th Sep at 10:38PM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm poppy and i am 14, Well i was camping with the boy i liked and his friend friday night and we were drinking, and i had one too many and starting to get in about his mate and kissed in the tent. the boy i liked went home and i was left with his freind and we got closer, and then he asked me if i wanted to lose my virginity and i agreed, we used a condom:) but it really hurt is this normal? , and when i woke up the next morning i regret my decision:( and the boy acts as nothing happened and dosn't really talk to me, and i am the first one out of my group of girls to lose my viriginity and i am scared to tell them in case they judge me.”

Posted by Poppy on 1st Sep at 5:41PM (flag as inappropriate)

are you able to have sex for the first time without having your first ever period?”

Posted by Laurie on 31st Aug at 8:04PM (flag as inappropriate)

what is the perfect "fanny"? because there might be a ugly way it could look and i was wondering what the best way for it to look was”

Posted by samantha on 31st Aug at 8:02PM (flag as inappropriate)

I Am 13 so i feel im to younge for sex and plus i dont have a boyfriend is it a bad thing that the penis doesnt go in? and where abouts is the g spot? i wiould also like to know if a sexual disease can still be spread when wearing a condom?”

Posted by Sophie on 31st Aug at 7:58PM (flag as inappropriate)

Does it hurt when you pop your cherry ??”

Posted by charlotte on 28th Aug at 6:02PM (flag as inappropriate)

im 15 some of my friends have lost their virginity but i haven't im not upset about that but i feel ready to have sex. my mum has sed i can if i want but theres one thing getting in my way i dont trust anyone after a few years of bullying my confidence is very low. i worry bout my penis size and everything i havent finished puberty but it still worries me like 'what if i finally get to bed the girl sees it and laughs' i know this is silly because i would only do it with someone i can truly trust. im also scared that ill loose it with one of my female friends who has already lost it and they would think im bad. i dont know what to do i kinda feel lonley even though im not a minority PLEASE HELP”

Posted by Nick on 19th Aug at 8:55PM (flag as inappropriate)

as soon as i see or think of sex i get an erection how can i stop this from hapening please help”

Posted by ryan on 17th Aug at 11:48PM (flag as inappropriate)

the video says that condoms are only 98% effective on pregnancy, and i always feel i'm gonna be one of the 2% who get pregnant. will this effect my first time.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Aug at 1:30AM (flag as inappropriate)

I am 13. When my penis gets erect, it bends to one side from the base. Is this normal and how can I make it straight again?”

Posted by Alex on 10th Aug at 3:20PM (flag as inappropriate)

i want some advice which i cant take to anyone.
i have a problem, i masterbat daily. i want to leave this bt i can't. is this harm my health. what should i do?? i am 23 aged male.”

Posted by krish on 9th Aug at 1:24AM (flag as inappropriate)

i lost my virginity at 14, to a guy i have been with for 2 years now, it was the most romantic thing ever. he cooked me dinner with candles fairy lights everything it was perfect. i love him but will we get in trouble because we are underage?”

Posted by katie on 7th Aug at 10:28PM (flag as inappropriate)

i had my first time about 7 months ago when i was 16, i was with my boyfriend for just a month and we're still together now. i know people might think that maybe we should have waited for a bit, but i knew i was ready, i have no regrets to how it happened. it wasn't sore for me either, just a bit of a strange feeling, and it is normal for you to bleed for your first time apparantly, cause otherwise you haven't done it properly, which is what i told. but personally, i wouldnt let anyone pressure you, just do it when you feel ready and dont have to think about whether you think its right or not, and you'll know, but remember to always be safe, thats my advice in a nutshell.”

Posted by gemma on 2nd Aug at 10:17PM (flag as inappropriate)

I lost my v last night,at the end of the sex me or my boy friend made a farting noise
dos that mean the condam spilt? ”

Posted by louise on 31st Jul at 1:47PM (flag as inappropriate)

Being a virgin is so hard especially for a dude.My girlfriend is also a virgin. I am a Christian and I believe in sex after marriage and currently I think its a wise way to avoid STIs and HIV plus unplanned pregnancies.”

Posted by Antony on 29th Jul at 7:52PM (flag as inappropriate)

hi im 14 and im a virgin and im scared of having sex because i think my penis is too small does it matter”

Posted by jerome on 29th Jul at 11:51AM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm 23 and still a virgin and it sucks, I haven't been in a relationship thats lasted that long and...I guess I assume its not going to happen in a while. I'm getting to the point where I think I should just ask a good male friend, I know is a silly thing to say, but I have really got to that point in my life..It's a bit depressing hearing 15 and 16 problems because you truly haven't reached my point.”

Posted by Anna on 25th Jul at 7:28PM (flag as inappropriate)

i am 15, nearly legal, i want to have sex, but im worried because my foreskin wont pull back fully, its getting there, but also when i touch and try to clean underneath the foreskin the head of the penis is really tender and hurts alot, is this normal or not :S HELP!!!”

Posted by Daniel on 25th Jul at 10:31AM (flag as inappropriate)

i lost my virginity last week, im 14, i never bled and it didnt hurt at all i think i broke my hymen using tampons i didnt use a condom i regret doing it now :( x”

Posted by rebecca on 24th Jul at 6:55PM (flag as inappropriate)

Ok, so basically i'm a man and i had sex for the first time, and i couldn't feel any pleasure, i have no idea why! i mean put it down to nerves, the first time, second time i was totally fine with it, and in the moment, but again, i found it really hard to get any pleasure. I am so depressed and embarrassed about it, what can i do to stop this in future? I mean i definitely need help with this, otherwise i wont have a sex life!”

Posted by Ryan on 24th Jul at 4:55PM (flag as inappropriate)

When i had sex for the first time. i was really worried about everything that is mentioned in other comments. Eg. does it hurt alot? am i ready? will i bleed alot? but it was really nothing to worry about it hurrt the first minute or to. but then i ajusted so i didnt hurt. and i only bleed for a little while and it isnt alot of blood only abit. but afterwards it really wasnt how i was expecting it, it wasnt nothing special. mainly because i think me & my boyfriend didntt have anything special. i would advise anyone to wait untill your with the right person!!”

Posted by Jade on 22nd Jul at 7:33PM (flag as inappropriate)

Meh & my boyfriend are planning on having sex im 17 & hes 18 , we've tlked about iht multiple times . But everytime we get to it ans we start messing around we never end up doing iht . any ADVICEE ??”

Posted by [No first name suplied] on 22nd Jul at 3:00AM (flag as inappropriate)

Ryan: I wonder if you tried to penetrate your partner too soon and whether your erection was fully hard. It is really important to arouse your partner, and, at the same time, yourself. Spend plenty of time in caressing each other, kissing, touching, massaging; then when you are both fully aroused, using plenty of lubrication, move towards penetration. It is a mistake for both of you to try for penetration too soon -- make sure you are ready for it or it can be a problem.”

Posted by jonathan on 17th Jul at 11:01PM (flag as inappropriate)

ive been with my bf for nearly 2 years now and there was a rumour going round school that we did it when we didn't , but we felt under pressure to do it since everyone thought we did- it hurt so so much i regret it like!”

Posted by Jane on 17th Jul at 4:32PM (flag as inappropriate)

From the age of about 16 i decided i wanted to save sex with a guy until I was married, and my current boyfriend made the same decision. I would just like to reassure people out there that you dont have to have sex in order to be in a serious relationship! Yes its hard, but if you and your partner have set boundaries, neither of you get carried away!!
I know in society today being a virgin past university seems stupid, but I'm 20 and proud to say i'm waiting.
Who cares if its not good? I'll have no one to compare it to so I won't really know if its bad and besides, we'd have plenty of time to experiment and explore within our marriage to make it better!!
waiting isn't weird, or stupid or unnatural: its perfectly fine and nothing to be ashamed of!!!!”

Posted by rach on 14th Jul at 6:01PM (flag as inappropriate)

From the age of about 16 I decided I wanted to save sex with a guy until I was married, and my current boyfriend made the same decision. I would just like to reassure people out there that you don't have to have sex in order to be in a serious relationship! Yes its hard, but if you and your partner have set boundaries, neither of you get carried away!!
I know in society today being a virgin past university seems stupid, but I'm 20 and proud to say I'm waiting.
Who cares if its not good? I'll have no one to compare it to so I won't really know if its bad and besides, we'd have plenty of time to experiment and explore within our marriage to make it better!!
waiting isn't weird, or stupid or unnatural: it's perfectly fine and nothing to be ashamed of!!!”

Posted by rach on 14th Jul at 6:00PM (flag as inappropriate)

I am well past retirement but still learnt new things”

Posted by Rob on 13th Jul at 8:38AM (flag as inappropriate)

I lost my virginity when I was 15, I regret it so much I wish I had waited, I so did it with the wrong person and experienced alot of problems after my sex with him... Plus if i'd of just waited a few more months i could of had my Cervical cancer jab, But now i've just made the risk highger :( Gosh I really should have thought about it before hand.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 13th Jul at 2:16AM (flag as inappropriate)

me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex, i know he's ready, but i'm not sure if i am. and i'm scared i'm going to get pregnant, what should i do?”

Posted by chloe on 12th Jul at 10:29PM (flag as inappropriate)

i own a horse and i have been riding for about 8/9 years, and i have just heard that because of the movement and how wide you have your legs apart, you have popped your hymen. is this fact true?”

Posted by Cait on 12th Jul at 3:11PM (flag as inappropriate)

I lost my virginity at 26, as a guy at that age there was tremendous pressure to"get laid". I was made fun of by friends and family this just made me anxious and it had a very destructive influence on my self esteem. I regret rushing myself into sleeping with a girl i did not know properly and not having the self esteem to date someone for a long time beforehand.”

Posted by simon on 11th Jul at 10:31AM (flag as inappropriate)

I lost my virginity when i was 13 and it really hurt! =D”

Posted by charli on 10th Jul at 8:13PM (flag as inappropriate)

some of my friends in school say to have sex and dont ware a condom its imposible to get a girl pregnant on the first time.”

Posted by jordan on 6th Jul at 8:28PM (flag as inappropriate)

im 18 year old male and still a virgin and i want to have sex but everytime it nearly happens i cannot get an erection no matter how hard i try and its embarassing, why is this happening? and how can i try and fix it?

”

Posted by matt on 5th Jul at 5:46PM (flag as inappropriate)

im 16 and im worried. ive got a boyfriend, hes great and lovely and sweet around everybody, including me. He's a live-wire when it comes to kissing as well which im thrilled about. He asked me straight out when i wanted to have sex, and that he wouldnt push me or force me to do anything.
i want to , i really do- i think. but im not the smallest girl around and hes as skinny as a bean pole. What if he takes one look at me and scarpers. i'm also worried that its going to hurt - im not naive enough to think that it will be perfect ... but i just want to know all the facts before. do you think guys judge the way a naked woman looks? thanks guys and girls x”

Posted by Lauren on 2nd Jul at 7:37PM (flag as inappropriate)

im fourteen and i lost my virginity acouple of months ago when my girlfriend came off her period and the day after she stated a period again is this normal?”

Posted by elliot on 1st Jul at 6:00PM (flag as inappropriate)

Does It Hurt When Yuu First Loose Yuur Virginity && Do Yuu Bleed Lots Cuz This Is Wat I Hv Been Told But I Dnt No Wetha Too Believe It ??”

Posted by Shaz on 30th Jun at 9:15PM (flag as inappropriate)

Im 14, and my boyfriend wants me to have sex. but im not ready, i want it to be special, but i dont kno what to say to him""”

Posted by Jenny on 29th Jun at 7:58PM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm 15, and me and my girlfriend have tried to have sex a couple of times, but when the occassion came up I just couldn't maintain a strong enough erection to penetrate. The first time I was a little drunk, so we put it down to that, but the second time I was completely sober. Now I'm worried I won't be able to rise to the occasion if we try again.”

Posted by Fred on 24th Jun at 8:46PM (flag as inappropriate)

any female 32 yr old virgins(due to anxiety) out there to make me feel like im not on my own”

Posted by amanda on 18th Jun at 9:56PM (flag as inappropriate)

I love my boyfriend, i honestly do, and we are ready to progress to having sex, we have tried, and either he has problems 'going in' ir he starts to and the pain is unberable, i know its meant to hurt but it does make me pull away and i have tears in my eyes. im really worried and could do with some advice

PLEASE.”

Posted by Alice. on 14th Jun at 1:54AM (flag as inappropriate)

I waited until I was 20 to lose my virginity, I was with my partner for 6 years and my first time didn't hurt at all because I was relaxed and really ready. You need to be able to trust your first time partner to make it an enjoyable experience for both of you.”

Posted by Allison on 13th Jun at 11:30PM (flag as inappropriate)

I want to 'do it' but i don't think that i'm really ready. ????
i am only 15 nearly 18 what do i do, do i wait?”

Posted by Louise on 11th Jun at 9:47PM (flag as inappropriate)

technically my first time i was 14 but that was a choice that was taken away from me. (don't worry they did catch the guy) the time after that i was 18 and had been with my partner 3 months. i'm not one of those who thinks you shouldn't have sex before marriage but i do think whatever your age you should wait at least until you know the person well and trust them. i'm sure one night stands are fun but for young people they can cause more harm than good!”

Posted by jess on 11th Jun at 8:03PM (flag as inappropriate)

There is no need to rush into sex and regret it. Sex should be with someone you love and care about there is no need for people to sleep with the first person they meet to lose their virginity. I have a younger sister and was shoked to find out she lost her virginity at 13 i was disgusted but at the end of the day she is my sister and i think when she meets someone she loves and settles down she will regret losing her virginity at such a young age.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 11th Jun at 3:21PM (flag as inappropriate)

i m 20 year old guy i m watching porn video last 8 year and masturbating last 8year what it going to create problem of my sex life in future.”

Posted by andrew on 10th Jun at 3:37AM (flag as inappropriate)

Ryan, What i do is and what really works for me, put your penis at the entrance of her vagina. And start pushign it in little by little going in just a little harder each time. This may take a couple few minutes but it should work. Another things is its better if her legs are wide open as possible. And it'll be quite easier if she was wet, or if lube is used. Lubricant works very well, and remember use water based lubricants, oil based can cause infections. I am 16 years old and im speaking from expirience.”

Posted by Nelson on 8th Jun at 4:13AM (flag as inappropriate)

Me and my boyfriend are considering on having intercourse,but i find it hard to trust guys, with the guy im with i dated him for 9mths without doing nothing, and we now back together, we are thinking of doing it and hes more wanting it than me, he did say if im not ready then its okay, but i know he wants it. Im doing the right thing, leaving it til his birhtday, that way we are in a legal age to do it. I occasionally give him a wank at times, and he did cum, when i finished giving him a wank i wash my hands with soap. Would this mean i will get pregnant?”

Posted by Elisha on 6th Jun at 2:16PM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm 17, and i have friends aged from 14-23. All have had sex, but think its ' nice' that i haven't. Honestly, I'm not terrified to have sex, I just simply haven't met a person i thought was right for me. I've had a few boyfriends etc, but those relationships all ended as all they really wanted was sex, not commitment. I personally feel even 17 is a bit too young, i guess my feelings are kinda traditional. But i completely respect those who have had sex & those who haven't.
Also, to the comments which include personal embarrassment on appearance & size.. it doesn't matter at all, as long as you and 'yourself' are healthy and safe, nothing else matters. I do believe that the media has had a terrible effect on peoples views of sex & that anyone who hasn't had sex before the age of 16 is 'frigid' & anyone who has had sex full stop is a 'slut' or 'is easy'. Relationships don't always need sex, but if you are both very happy to stay committed and have sex, go ahead.
But do be careful in what your partner or another can say.. for example. A friend of mine was 'seeing' this guy a little older than her, ( she was 17, he was 21) After just under a month of seeing each other, they had sex. He convinced her that he shouldn't wear a condom & he dumped her a few days after (he currently was in a relationship with another, my friend wasn't aware). My friend isn't the dumb type, but it shows that using emotions can make people believe anything.”

Posted by Clare on 4th Jun at 11:20PM (flag as inappropriate)

Me and my girlfriend have spoke about sex and are ready to have it, but when we tried my penis would not go in. i have heard of this happening but i want to know why this happens and what do we have to do to stop it happening?”

Posted by john on 4th Jun at 5:28PM (flag as inappropriate)

I lost my virginity on my wedding night and even though it is unpopular it was the best decision I ever made. My friend (aged 15 at the time) told me that it hurt a lot and after that she didn't have sex again until she felt ready. I didn't pay attention to the usual pressure to have sex I didn't understand why virginity was to be treated like a disease that you need to get rid of as soon as possible. For me sex isn't just a bit of fun it's a way for two people who love each other to connect, I'm not saying that's how others should see it, it's just the way I do. He knew what to do so I wasn't worried, we took a shower together first and that relaxed me we experimented with techniques we talked about before our wedding and we used food as well. It was the most wonderful night of my life and even though waiting for marriage is not for everyone, I do recommend waiting for someone you truly care about and want to do it with.”

Posted by Aynsleigh on 30th May at 3:14PM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm sixteen and lost my virginity a few months ago. It was slightly uncomfortable but after a while it got better. There are alot of questions on this site about how painful sex is and all kinds of issues. My advice is ask someone you trust, could be a friend or family member. I do have a question though, I have had sex quite a few times now on a regular basis and it still isnt pleasurable. When does it start to feel good ?”

Posted by Justine on 29th May at 9:02PM (flag as inappropriate)

me and my girlfriend both want to have sex but when we tried my penis wouldnt go in and i know this is common but would feel much better with some advice”

Posted by ryan on 20th May at 11:20AM (flag as inappropriate)

Im 18 and I lost it to my current boyfriend when I was 15, so i've had one sexual partner. Although theres a lot of pressure around, I do recommend you wait until you find somebody who is worth it. Relationships rarely last forever when you're young, but if you do break up hopefully you can move on knowing that you lost it to the right person.”

Posted by Tessa on 15th May at 8:03AM (flag as inappropriate)

My 1st time was crap i was 14 / still am/ and this boy in my class asked me to sleep with him and i said noo but then my mam chucked me out of the house so i did after !
It hurt loads and the condom split, a couple of days later he asked me again and i said no so he spread it round the school what i had done! Argh!
2nd time i was drunk and fooling around with some boy i just met when he asked for sex i still said noo but he didnt listen and that went round the school too !”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th May at 5:59PM (flag as inappropriate)

From a bisexual male point of view:
-i lost my virginity to a female when i was at the age of 18 with my 20 gf of only 1 month. My first time was a rather quick one for me. I wish i lost it to a more meaninful girl as she dumped after me finishing after 2 min.
-I also lost my virginity to a male my age at the age of 18, which was a different story as the first few times in receiving anal can be quite painful and even bloody and/or shitty if not done right. Its all about relaxation and pratise”

Posted by Travis on 8th May at 11:40AM (flag as inappropriate)

im a 20 year old virgin guy and i want to have sex but anytime it nearly happens i cannot get an erection no matter how hard i try and i get embarressed. how can i get an erection to last....??”

Posted by chris on 7th May at 11:03PM (flag as inappropriate)

is it normal not to bleed after your first time?”

Posted by karen on 6th May at 8:35PM (flag as inappropriate)

when you lose your virginity (female) will it hurt and will i bleed and what will my vagina look like afterwards?”

Posted by Beth on 5th May at 8:34PM (flag as inappropriate)

I deliberately waited until I was married. It made it more special and I felt more comfortable and secure. Why? Because I knew that he loved me without the sex. To me, the first time was amazing. There was no pressure or stress that I might not see him again or that he would dump me on poor performance.
Befor ehand, we talked a lot about things like birth control, foreplay, our limits, that sort of thing. I think the main key to a great 'first time' is trust and communication.”

Posted by Miriam on 30th Apr at 8:22PM (flag as inappropriate)

When ever I get talking to nice girl, out some where, like a fancy pub or club in west end or so on, i always feel kind of nervous or scared. I feel being a virgin, sets me back from the rest, as i'm inexperienced!”

Posted by Dave on 29th Apr at 11:39PM (flag as inappropriate)

i lost my virginity at 14. and a agree with the comment about it being sore the first time, as the partner i had wasnt very gentle. i did have some bleeding but after that it was ok. it was a one night stand and i dont think i will ever have one of those again as it didnt give me the spark i have with sleeping with someone i love and trust.”

Posted by Lisa on 29th Apr at 12:05AM (flag as inappropriate)

can you have the hymen broken at the doctors?”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 24th Apr at 10:19PM (flag as inappropriate)

I think this is really helpful. It definitely makes me feel a lot less pressurised about how I should act or look and stuff. I'm lucky to have a mum I can talk to about stuff like this with, but she still can't answer all my questions, and this is really helping. Thankies loads :)”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 24th Apr at 10:03PM (flag as inappropriate)

the first time i had sex was the worst descision i had ever made because it was when i had a little too much and didnt use a condom and unfortunately i ended up pregnant. i was forced to have an abortion as i am only 14. i know i shouldnt have done it now and i have learnt from my mistakes.”

Posted by pippa on 23rd Apr at 10:55AM (flag as inappropriate)

THIS VIDEO MAKES ME WISH I WOULD OF
WAITED!”

Posted by whitney on 23rd Apr at 5:06AM (flag as inappropriate)

I waited until I was married until I lost my virginity, and I'm so glad I did. My wedding night was so memorable for so many reasons, and I haven't brought any baggage into my marriage with me. I was 26 when I got married, and I had enjoyed being single for all that time before without feeling like I was missing out on anything. I have no regrets, and my husband and I enjoy a really great sexual relationship. Not everybody is "doing it", it is possible to wait, and I'm so glad I did.”

Posted by Stacey on 21st Apr at 11:24AM (flag as inappropriate)

When anyone looses their virginity its not going to be the best. In fact most people find that their first time is rubbish and a lot of girls find it painful. The best time for a girl to loose her virginity is when she is with someone she can trust and when she is really in the mood. This will lessen the discomfort of penetration, however it may not stop it all together. Also if a guy tells you girls "If you loved me you'd do it" then he doesn't love you as much as he's saying he does. Don't give in to pressure especially where sex is involved. If you feel uncomfortable about what he asks you to do then say no and stick to it. If you give in and do it for his sake you WILL regret it!!!”

Posted by Joan on 21st Apr at 7:38AM (flag as inappropriate)

I hoped this page would discuss how sex can be psychologically and socially harmful as the four programs discussed how it can cause biological diseases.

The video soon warns against underage and submissive sex but says readiness is a personal judgment. It concludes sex rouses lots of feelings and emotions and has consequences so advises careful thought. But it does not compare different outcomes then and later. And it presumes modern morality is adequate for preserving the culture on which all depend.

Religion requires virginity prior to marriage and a few posts under Your Questions are from those who respected this. Traditional societies rely on families to rear children who will sustain the culture when adult. And they persuade men to support the family by denigrating sex without it. This is hard for lads but avoids lasses feeling used. And it minimises the spread of venereal diseases.

Our society relies on its variously educated youths and adults being sensible about sexual behaviour and on government helping anyone in trouble. But marriage has become optional, many more children are unruly and some are abandoned. I suggest good sex education should seriously consider religious teaching as the outcome of small personal decisions can have big social consequences. Else too many children may lack adequate families to raise them well.”

Posted by George on 20th Apr at 3:57PM (flag as inappropriate)

Im male, the first time i had sex was when i was 18, my girlfriend was 17. it was also her first time. she did lose a bit of blood for the first few times we had sex but not a lot. the sex wasnt fantastic, there were no fireworks and i prematurley ejaculated. with time and practise it has got a lot better though.”

Posted by steve on 20th Apr at 2:29PM (flag as inappropriate)

First Time i Had Sex i Was Drunk And i Regetted It. Most People Do Regret There First Person.”

Posted by Kat on 17th Apr at 10:44PM (flag as inappropriate)

Personaly And For Many Of My Friends The First Times Not Goin To Be Great, Sex Gets Better With experience And If Your With A Stable Partner Sex Will Be Better After Time When You No What Eachother Like And Feel Comfortable. Love Can Bring Better Sex”

Posted by Cathy on 16th Apr at 5:19PM (flag as inappropriate)

hello,im young and have told my friends i have lost my v when i havent!what should i do?.x”

Posted by mary-anne on 16th Apr at 2:26PM (flag as inappropriate)

do you bleed alot when you first have sex. because wont that be kindof embarrassing if you had just stopped having sex and there was blood everywere ?”

Posted by charlie. on 16th Apr at 2:18PM (flag as inappropriate)

i agree with rebecca , everyone makes sex out to be great , but when i experienced sex for the first time last year, it wasnt as good as i thought it would be i didnt have strong feelings for the boy + it was sore & uncomfortable for the first few minutes. all i have to say is only have sex if you love the person your with and feel comfortable to do it with your partner.”

Posted by Lauren on 16th Apr at 3:26AM (flag as inappropriate)

I have now had a better understanding of sex thanks to this, and I thought wearing 2 condoms was safer! I'll remember that one!”

Posted by Natasha on 15th Apr at 10:51PM (flag as inappropriate)

i am 16 years old and i have been with my bf for 1+1/2 years and i feel i am ready for sex but i dont know if my bf is. How do it bring it up in conversation without it being to embarrasing? Please help me! Everything on this site so far has been a great help its made me feel a lot more confident! Thanks!!”

Posted by Amie on 14th Apr at 9:13PM (flag as inappropriate)

Im a virgin and im ready to have sex but im scared that its really going to hurt? Does it hurt as much as they as they say it does?”

Posted by Lucy on 13th Apr at 9:04PM (flag as inappropriate)

Our culture relies on ‘educated’ youths and adults being sensible about sexual behaviour and on government picking up any pieces. But marriage is optional, some children are unruly and a few almost abandoned, usually boys. So I hoped this page would discuss how sex can be psychologically and socially harmful.

The video soon warns against underage and submissive sex but makes readiness a personal judgment. Later it notes lots of feelings and emotions may be roused and potential consequences may occur. But it does not consider how the character formed will affect later behaviour. I doubt this modern morality is adequate for the long term.

Traditional cultures rely on families to rear children who will sustain the culture when adult. And they persuade men to support the family by denying them sex without it. This is hard for lads but avoids lasses feeling used. Is something similar still necessary?”

Posted by George on 13th Apr at 4:00PM (flag as inappropriate)

The first time i had sex was with a man i had known very well since a young age. I was legal (by a week) and thought that having an older boyfriend with a car and money was great.
When we slept together he said he loved me and didnt want to pressure me into anything,but this wasnt the case. Needless to say it hurt and he dumped me a week later.
Thinking back i was very naive in what happened and he was only using me for sex. This was later confirmed when he was sent to prison for being a pedophile. I have had an STD test since (which didnt hurt)and was lucky as we werent careful with me being on the pill. Im ashamed of what happened now and want others to know a man really will wait if he loves you and dont be in a rush to sleep with anyone.I hurts and its nothing like in the films!”

Posted by Amiee on 12th Apr at 8:10PM (flag as inappropriate)

Hey I'm only 14 and alot of my friends have had sex or are ready to and they had made a pact to do it before we go back to school in september but I feel I am not ready ! Help!!!”

Posted by Sherri on 10th Apr at 2:10PM (flag as inappropriate)

i just want to know what age is the oldest age to have your first period ?”

Posted by kirsty on 9th Apr at 1:32PM (flag as inappropriate)

From a female perspective, I waited until it was the right time (25), however it was very painful the first couple of times, it wasn't the orgasmic erotic experience people make it out to be.”

Posted by Louise on 9th Apr at 11:19AM (flag as inappropriate)

i lost my virginity when i was 16. i had been with my boyfriend for 4 months and we knew that we were both ready. it was quite painful for me to begin with but it did ease after a little bit. we were both virgins and i think that made it really special. we're engaged now and have been together for a year and a half and i love him very much. the main thing that i want to say is make sure you use precautions, such as using a condom, because otherwise youll be worrying and it will spoil it.”

Posted by s on 9th Apr at 11:15AM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm 14 and I haven't had sex yet. My friends are all saying that it's great, but I'm not sure. My boyfriend really wants to have sex but I don't nknow what it will be like and I'm nervous.”

Posted by Laura on 8th Apr at 8:20PM (flag as inappropriate)

The first time is often pretty rubbish and over fast, and can be uncomfortable or painful for a girl. All the more reason to get it out of the way early and then have fun exploring yourself and sex. People make far too much of a deal about their first time, its just like all the other times except less fun.”

Posted by Luke on 8th Apr at 4:56PM (flag as inappropriate)

Well, i'm really worried because my boyfriend put the condom on the wrong way round! then the right way. my periods are every two weeks, and i havn't had one now, when i should be having one. I'm really worried i'm pregnant, because precum must have been on the outside. please help!”

Posted by I on 8th Apr at 4:30PM (flag as inappropriate)

i am 18 and i havw had 1 serious boyfriend in my life and i was only 14 and he was 17 and as soon as we had sex he dumped me 3 days later”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 8th Apr at 11:57AM (flag as inappropriate)

When i Lost My Virginity I Actualy Didnt Feel Anyhting And It Didnt Hurt. I Didnt Orgasm And It Was Literaly LIke 10 Min's I Wasnt Too Botherd Cuz I Knew It Wasnt All Its Made Up To Be So yeah”

Posted by Sophie on 7th Apr at 8:45PM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm 16 nearly 17 and i havent had sex yet. all of my friends say its good that i havent. But 1 mate tend's to make fun of me which makes me want to lose it because shes putting pressure on to me. but i just want to wait untill i have a proper boyfriend. Do you think i should do this and what do you think i should say to my friend.”

Posted by Alex on 7th Apr at 8:05PM (flag as inappropriate)

My first time in having sex hurt a lot!
i started crying.
i didnt know what to do so i started talking to my boyfriend, he just said dont worry you will get used to it. we carried on and then it got better and better through the night.
this was my first time in having a sexual intercourse.
we didnt use a condom and i didnt get pregnant!
i was really lucky here :)
i think my boyfriend is getting bored as we do the same things over and over.
do you have any suggestions on what would spruce it up a bit?
Thanks, :)”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 7th Apr at 6:16PM (flag as inappropriate)

from a female view the frist time was not as good as every one 'makes out' even though i did lose it to someone i cared about at the time it hurt and i bleed at least the first 3 times it wasnt nice.”

Posted by Rebecca on 7th Apr at 10:48AM (flag as inappropriate)

I lost my virginity only last week, Im 16 and have been September 2008. Many friends have told me sex is amazing and changes everything. But when i lost my virginity, it wasnt as special as what everyone makes it out to be. A few minutes of pleasure and thats it. I lost my virginity to a guy who totally respects me and we can talk about things like pregnancy, contraception, periods. Ive been with him for a couple of months, no pressure at all. But you should never lose your virginity or have sex with someone just so that they dont split up with you. They arent worth it otherwise.”

Posted by Vicky on 5th Apr at 9:52PM (flag as inappropriate)

My names Jamie, i am 18 and i am worried about having sex! Yes i am a virgin, and i am scared my penis is to small! I have nearly had sex once, but the girl was too put off by the size! WHAT CAN I DO? i now half no self confidence !!!”

Posted by Jamie on 5th Apr at 8:27PM (flag as inappropriate)

Hey, Does It hurt?
Do girls always bleed?
Am 16 and was wondering these because me n bf are wanting to have sex for the first time for the both of us. He is 16 too so its not ilegal.”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 4th Apr at 5:45PM (flag as inappropriate)

Ive told people ive lost my virginity cz im 14 n everyone else has just to fit ini sed i had . what do i do its annoying me ?”

Posted by Sophie on 4th Apr at 2:26PM (flag as inappropriate)

Is it illegal to have sex if your under 18? :)”

Posted by Frankie on 3rd Apr at 7:29PM (flag as inappropriate)

if me and my partner were thinking of having sex for the first time, and i was worried about hurting her during intercourse, what should i do from here?”

Posted by Christopher on 3rd Apr at 7:17PM (flag as inappropriate)

i lost my viginity when i was 14 i was drunk and agreed to sex but when i woke up the next day i found out i wasnt actually ready quite the oppersite actually”

Posted by toni on 3rd Apr at 2:46PM (flag as inappropriate)

I have watched every sex education programme that has been on and it really helps me i have a lovely step mum and i know i can talk to her but this gives me more information”

Posted by kayleigh on 3rd Apr at 12:50PM (flag as inappropriate)

hi i found your program very good very informative but could you imagine the impact on pc users if you your selves provided a no-nonsense porn filter that is free of charge to download direct from your site now wouldnt that be much more efective than beating round the bush from service providers if you want a job done you got to do it your self . oh yes just one more thing HIV aids was not mentioned in the show i think the biggest threat of all should not of failed to be spoken of kids need the full truth after all i think HIV is a little bit worse than a swollen penis or sores on your tounge . OK my last words are get that free pornfilter software on your site and start protecting tommorows generation now.”

Posted by Roy on 3rd Apr at 1:12AM (flag as inappropriate)

I find it really sad how so many young people are having sex. The way society puts pressure on people is so bad. why doesn't anyone wait til marriage anymore. it seems like the world has lost all morality. I lost my virginity when i was in my late 20's and have only slept with one person my wife. Its a pity kids aren't bought up being taught the right stuff in school and by their parents.”

Posted by Richard on 2nd Apr at 11:14PM (flag as inappropriate)

i am a 27 yr old woman, and i have never had sex.... this is something i am not ashamed of. i just have a very strong will, and am not easily influenced to do anything I D NOT WANT TO DO!!!
so, for all you virgins out there, be proud of your virginity, and when the right time comes along, you will know....
good luck, kiddos......

ps. .. by the way, i am very pretty woman and not ugly at all, just in case someone thinks that is why i am still a virgin...lol”

Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 11:03PM (flag as inappropriate)

If it's your first time obviously it's a good idea to be having sex with someone you know and trust but it's also a good idea to not take things too seriously. Me and my girlfriend both recently lost our virginity but not taking it too seriously, having a bit of fun and getting used to the idea of sex made it so much easier. Your first time is probably not going to be great either so don't get too hung up if you don't think it was as good as it could of been, things will get better.

Be safe. Use a condom”

Posted by Tom on 2nd Apr at 11:00PM (flag as inappropriate)

to be really honest..first time was absolutely rubbish, and now i dont even speak to the girl either....REGRET!”

Posted by adam on 2nd Apr at 10:07PM (flag as inappropriate)

I'm a 19 year old guy and I refuse to have sex untill I meet miss right. it's hard sometimes because my hormones drive me crazy but its my life and I want losing my virginity to be remembered as one of the highlights of my life.

To all my fellow virgins out there...be proud of who you are!”

Posted by Frankie on 2nd Apr at 9:58PM (flag as inappropriate)

hi, my name is murray. me and my girl friend are wanting to have sex, however whenever we try it is simply too painful for her. Is this normal? any suggestions?”

Posted by murray on 2nd Apr at 3:42PM (flag as inappropriate)