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For many women - and men – the female orgasm is shrouded in mystery. While some women are able to orgasm very easily, with up to 40% experiencing multiple orgasms, around 16% never achieve orgasm at all.
This video explains what happens during orgasm and looks at the 2 areas commonly associated with orgasm in women – the clitoris and the G-spot.
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340 posted so far
I LOVE orgasms... they feel soooooo nice..!!
I find it helps to relax, think of something sexual or look at something sexual.
But one thing I would like to know is how to increase the length of time for an orgasm.. I want my pleasure to last !!”
Posted by Jaz on 15th Nov at 8:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
Really, as the video stated, there are only two ways to reach an orgasm (though some may orgasm through penetration)
The best way is to get something which vibrates decently and preferbly moves a bit. I personally use my shaver, with the shaving head taken off (if you copy this idea, TAKE THE SHAVING HEAD OFF seriously or you will get hurt!) it has a little pointy bit under the shaving head which moves really fast and makes the shaver work. i would recommend something like that, but be careful in what you use! A vibrator is a good idea too, I think you can get some specifically for clitoral stimulation. Anyway press the vibrating head of whatever you are using into your clitoris and find out which parts feel best when stimulated. Pressing your thigh muscles togther can also be very pleasurable. Try different leg positions--knees bent up, leg straight and squeezed together... whatever works for you.
But seriously for those uncertain about whether they are experiencing an orgasm or not... trust me, you know when you do!
You start feeling heat rushing around your body, your heart beat increases and your leg and pelvic muscles spasm, but apart from that you feel incredibly turned on, and seriously people you just know. So if you're in doubt i should imagine the answer is no, or you're not quite there yet.
Hope this helps! Good luck :)”
Posted by Camilla, 15 on 15th Nov at 3:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
is there any way a woman can increase the chance of having an orgasm through penatrative sex?”
Posted by claire on 19th Oct at 11:13AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17 and I think i've kind of figured out my body. The trick to getting an orgasm is not to think or over analyse too much. sometimes you know when you are aroused because you feel sort of light down there and then if you try, you'll probably get one. Also, for those who don't know what the liquidy stuff is that comes out after or before masturbation, it's actually a natural lubricant the body produces -basically for sex and easier penetration of the penis...yes, i've thought a bit about it and it makes sense, our bodies produce it because it wants us to reproduce quite simply, and usually more of the stuff comes out during ovulation. Hope this helps. :)”
Posted by Brie on 3rd Oct at 12:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
im with my second sexual partner and he cant make me orgasm but my past partner did. i have tried to do the same things i did with my last partner but this doesnt seem to work.”
Posted by gema on 5th Sep at 3:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
i agree with imogen said in her post....people always want to have sex 1 night stands and just have there cake and eat it.....but how many of you that have had to many 1 night stand's will really feel good about themself next day ....we should be able to talk to partners and our friends about sex but it just dose not happened because to many people are always like no not talking about sex with you thats my personal bussiness we need to start growing as a human race and listen to each over more”
Posted by noel on 29th Aug at 9:12AM (flag as inappropriate)
I find it disconcerting how many young girls are expecting good sex and orgasms through nothing more than vaginal stimulation in order to please their partner. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and sex is something we both enjoy. Before we had full penetrative sex we talked about sex a lot and experimented with each others bodies to understand what the other enjoys the most. Men and women have no idea generally about each others' bodies and what a person likes sexually varies tremendously from person to person, even with men. Open, frank, and honest communication in a trusting relationship is the BEST way to have a great sex life and experimentation with sex and foreplay is also key. Girls, we all need to stop being so shy and squeemish! Men WANT to know how to please you as much as you want to please them so just TALK to each other! It's always good for girls to experiment with their own bodies too so that they have a better understanding about their own sexual needs. Don't rush into sex, isn't better to have an enjoyable first time than a confusing and disappointing one?”
Posted by Imogen on 21st Aug at 12:54AM (flag as inappropriate)
I was in the same situation as Chelssey, i never really got much out of sex or masturbating.. until I got something vibrating and pressed it on my clit and it proceeded to an orgasm!!”
Posted by elle on 20th Aug at 7:04AM (flag as inappropriate)
i love sex but when my bf do it with me i feel pain more than excitement ,,and when he reach my G spot i feel more and more pain which i cant handle..i need solution for that i dont orgasm or whtever is clled from the inner,,why?? i want to feel normal and feel right pleasure..want to orgasm and stop that pain,i only did sex 6 times”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Aug at 7:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
I dont understand why i cant achieve an orgasm ever! I really want to experience one but i dont know if i can or not? Can anyone answer this??”
Posted by Sky on 9th Aug at 1:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
hiya im in my late twentys and havent had a orgasim,i get imbarresd my legs start to jump and i feel like im going to wet myself and my clit starts to hurt,ive been told this is the start and that i shouldnt stop but i always do,what i can ido to help myself and have an orgasim with my boyfreind”
Posted by trace on 2nd Aug at 8:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
okay so im 18 and havent had sex yet.im literally always horny but im sooo scared it will hurt. i know im ready though......i can orgasm through masturbation but it never seems enough. help....i think i might just stay a virgin forever.....”
Posted by emer on 2nd Aug at 2:24AM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we've has sex many times, as well as regular mutual masturbation due to a long distance relationship. However, the past few weeks I have been noticing that there is far too much liquid that becomes present after ejaculation. I have heard many stories such as how it's seen as 'squirting' and it's perfectly normal, however I have also been told that it could be a sign of bladder weakness. Being only 17, I am very nervous if it IS bladder weakness and there is something wrong with me.
The large amounts of liquid does smell like urine, a little, and I'm just really worried and embarassed for the sake of my boyfriend because it's starting to put me off the idea of sex altogether due to this embarassment. It's very difficult to go and see my GP due to other factors, so I'm resorted to the internet to help me find some answers.
please help! :(”
Posted by Sarah on 26th Jul at 1:22AM (flag as inappropriate)
if ur not orgasming through clitoral stimulation it may be because ur not "turned on" properly.”
Posted by Kate on 24th Jul at 1:09AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi every1...i'm 17 n have been with my boyfriend 2years...we have a very sexual relationship....my boyfriend rubs my clitorus while we have sex and it really makes the orgasm feel better...also i was wondering how long is safe to b on the pill i'm on it a little over a year now and am wondering how much longer is safe so if any1 knows please reply back...thank you ; )x”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Jul at 8:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
i always worry when it comes to masturbating. This Ma sound strange but im not sure im doing it right! i dont seem to gett much pleasure from it! Any tps Or could yu tell me ow to masturbate correctly?”
Posted by Chelssey on 12th Jul at 1:02AM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi, i'm 14, and i am a bit worried. I could be seing this boy soon. He is quite experianced when it comes to 'pleasuring' girls, and i've never really done anything like that with a boy. I'm quite worried that i'm not going to satisfy him, i meen i want to, and i love him, and i know he wouldnt push me into it. The real worry is, what am i supposed to do when he's fingering me. Am i supposed to moan or somthing. And also, some handy tips of what boys like please lol :)”
Posted by Olive on 5th Jul at 12:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
when i first had sex, i didnt seem to orgasm untill the end but it wasent very big whats rong with me? :(”
Posted by kim on 3rd Jul at 11:16AM (flag as inappropriate)
i recently got fingered by my boyfriend. It reallly hurt but i didnt want to tell him! is this normal? and will this happen everytime?”
Posted by Jennifer on 29th Jun at 7:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 14 and have tried masturbation, but I can only seem to gain an intense rush of pleasure for around 2-3 seconds. What is this? And is there any way it can be elongated?””
Posted by laura on 27th Jun at 1:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
Me and my partner been together for 6 years now and while in our teens we were able to please each other without having sex. We thought we knew about each other a lot and when it will come to having sex, it would be pretty easy for us.
When after 3 years we started making love, we realised this was not the case. While the start was exiting and nice, it would lead to nowhere for me and I would ask him to stop in middle or just wait until he gets orgasm and stop it.
I used to have problems getting aroused for penetrative sex because it was not pleasing and I would have sex only during my fertile days, when arousal is natural at a high risk or pregnancy, but as we are only 22 now and do not want kids yet this was not a good option.
I think the most important is such situations is to be honest with your partner and try to find solution together. I read that someone is faking orgasm to please the partner - faking will not solve the problem! DO NOT fake it - you will only get depressed by having same problem and your partner will have no idea why you are having mood swings and that will be bad for your relationship.
It is funny - everyone says you have to relax to feel pleasure and orgasm through penetration, but in my case - i have to gather all my strength and 'workout' and keep myself pressed against my partner while having sex to make it pleasurable (if you can't imagine it, try doing it while standing). Too bad I am not fit enough to last it long enough for me to orgasm, so we usually do it in a pose so I can stimulate myself while he is inside me and that usually(!) works.
So, if relaxing doesn't help you - try to do some workout! ”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 27th Jun at 10:39AM (flag as inappropriate)
I do my best to make my wife get Orgasm right before mine or at least we get it together. In case I couldn’t do it, and I got ejaculation before she get orgasm, I never leave her and I continue until she got it. Chosen the right timing of the woman to have sex is important factor helps her too, much, getting orgasm. To make my wife get orgasm, I delay the Penetration as much as I can, and spoil her too much with sweet, passionate words while making love, women are too much, positively, sensitive of that.
Also, the man should have sexy appearance for his wife as well as he likes her to be. Also the legality, marriage, is important to feel intirior satisfaction and peaceful that aslo helps getting orgasm for the woman. Folk, for better, life make the marriage too much easier, to have a healthy,secure most pleasurable love. ”
Posted by Medhat on 23rd Jun at 7:52AM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never had a virginal orgasm. how can i achieve one as i have recently started having sex with my partner regulally and would really like to enjoy sex.”
Posted by Cat on 21st Jun at 10:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
I seem to find that when i am being fingered i am really dry down below wich then makes being fingered quite painful...is this normal and is there anything i can do other than using lubracants to help?”
Posted by amie on 21st Jun at 5:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi, i'm a 13 year old girl, coming up to 14. I feel and sound extremely dirty and sinful when i say this, but i have been rubbing myself since i was about 9 :S Although i have reached orgasm hundreds of times, i have never had oral or actual sex. I would really like to try it but i don't have a boyfriend as i dumped mine after he forced himself on me. Is there any household object apart from a dildo that i could use? if so what? Please tell me and give me some ideas as i would really like to break myself in because i have a feeling it will really hurt me. (:”
Posted by Emma on 14th Jun at 2:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I find it really interesting reading others' stories, it doesn't make me feel so different, my friend recommended i masturbated as at night i always feel extremely aroused, but i don't enjoy it when i penetrate with my fingers, it's just not a nice feeling, i prefer to stimulate the clitoris myself and (i know it's slightly graphic) that usually makes me orgasm after about 10 minutes, most of the time i have two orgasms, is this normal as from what I've read, some people don't orgasm at all :S”
Posted by Katy on 5th Jun at 8:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
i dont ave a orgasim by normal sex alone is this normal ???”
Posted by lakia on 5th Jun at 12:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 16 and my boyfriend of 6 months and i have been having sex for approx 3 months. we lost our virginity to eachother and whenever we have sex it feels fantastic but he cannot seem to make me orgasm through clitoral or penetrative stimulation. this doesn't bother me very much really, however, i have recently noticed that my boyfriend has become very self conscious about it and feels that it is his fault. it really gets to him! i've tried to explain to him how i don't find it a problem but i don't think he is convinced. after intercourse, he now turns very quiet and seems disappointed in his performance and will not brighten up no matter how much i encourage him how amazing it felt. does anyone have any tips on what i can do next? it doesn't particularly bother me, but i dislike the fact that it bothers him.. ??”
Posted by fiona on 3rd Jun at 9:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 15 years old, and i masterbate every now and again. when i do masterbate it takes about 15 minutes to get close to an orgasm but i can never quite manage it. My clitoros gets really sensitive and i cant get any further with it, is there anything i can do?”
Posted by Ashley on 30th May at 8:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have tried masterbating but i don;t really understand how it works, i never really get pleasure and if i do it only lasts for about 2 seconds, is this normal?”
Posted by Lizzie on 28th May at 4:28PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17 years old and have recently lost my virginity. My partner didn't orgasm in the first 30 minutes of sex and it wasn't until we started experimenting with positions until she found one that gave her an orgasm. We had sex again soon after and the position worked again so its just a matter of experimenting and seeing whats right for you.”
Posted by jack on 27th May at 4:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 15 and i've tried masturbating but i cant get aroused when i finger myself, only from rubbing my clitoros. is this because i can't get far up enough or am i just different?”
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Posted by [No first name supplied] on 23rd May at 11:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have tried all sorts of masturbation, but have found that the only way I can orgasm is by wrapping my legs around each other and tightening and loosing my muscles rapidly. I was recently fingered for the first time, and it was very embarrassing as nothing really happened. I have never heard of anyone orgasming like this, and wondered if I could do anything to be more normal?”
Posted by Charlie on 23rd May at 10:07PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had my first orgasm when i was 18, its a very weird feeling it was through the clitoris. At first i was wondering what the hell was going on, but then i relaxed and let my body take over. For about a minute it felt like it had stopped all together, then the feeling soon came back and i had my orgasm. Anyone who has not had an orgasm by rubbing the clitoris try it, just relax and keep rubbing you will get there and you will know when you have done :)”
Posted by Lorna on 22nd May at 2:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am a 14 year old girl. i have been fingerd by my boyfriend but it really hurt, this is the first time i have done anything sexual with anyone before, will it get better and stop hurting, i was to scared to let him do it again incase it still hurt. i also didnt want him to feel he didnt pleasure me so i breathed really heavily and made little noises but it really just hurt. i have also heard that you are supposed to bleed the first time, but i never, is this normal? HELP!”
Posted by Beth on 22nd May at 12:58AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 15 and have tried masturbation, but I can only seem to gain an intense rush of pleasure for around 2-3 seconds. What is this? And is there any way it can be elongated?”
Posted by Lilly on 18th May at 2:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 16 and have been with my partner for over a year now but i don't know if i've ever orgasmed. Theres been times when its felt really good, but nothing ever 'heveanly'. My friend said that you'd know if you had had one, but i don't. Is anyone in the same position as me? Please help :(”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 14th May at 12:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
This might sound really silly but I don't know if I've have ever had an orgasm I prefer my boyfriend doing oral on me, I enjoy it more than sex. I don't know if I'm feeling the orgasm and just not knowing that its that.”
Posted by lauren on 12th May at 3:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hello! i am sexually active for 8 years now and i NEVER have had orgasm just by penetration with penis alone, although i always feel like
"on the edge of orgasm" my boyfriend help me by stimulating my clitoris. Before i felt im a weirdo, and something was wrong with me that i couldn't orgasm like a "normal" woman should, but now i know im normal too, and we are all so different and its up to a partner we're with if sex will be great and exciting or sad and lonely.”
Posted by Katarina on 11th May at 10:01AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 14 years old. And always orgasm even in class i dont know why this is happening but even when i am just relaxed i dont know what to do and its embarrising because its really bad. Can you please help ???”
Posted by emma on 8th May at 11:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi, i love giving my girlfriend an orgasm and she does too but sometimes well oftern she cries after, she says its not because it hurts or anything just because its so good... is this normal? thanks”
Posted by dave on 5th May at 12:05AM (flag as inappropriate)
I really enjoy having orgasms i must admit. is it a bad thing that f i use somethng that vibrates to cause an orgasm? I'm concerned that when I will have sex that I won't be able to reach an orgasm. Any help here?”
Posted by Sarah on 4th May at 8:48PM (flag as inappropriate)
At present I am giving sex ed. lessons to young adults with learning difficulties. Your videos are very helpful and explain issues better than I could. Thank you.”
Posted by Liam on 29th Apr at 8:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 18 and have been with my partner for a year and a half.. we didnt wait too long to have sex with each other, but it took 6 months before I had my first orgasm by penetration. Now it is absolutely amazing! I find it easier (and very quick) to orgasm during girl on top missionary, and he seems to get a lot out of it as well! I think it is a matter of time..getting to know yourself and your partner and feeling comfortable with experimentation to get the best experience for you both.”
Posted by [No First Name Suplied] on 26th Apr at 3:40AM (flag as inappropriate)
To Kat: You're not a freak. I do the same thing. I think some women cum more than others. I don't think there's anything you can do about it, but I also don't think you should be embarrassed. Don't be ashamed of who you are, besides, guys seem to like a lot of cum. It makes them think they're doing something right ;-)”
Posted by Louise on 26th Apr at 12:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
... Girls seem to become sexually active without ever knowing their bodies... Every partner I've had always seems to be unsure of her bodies responses... After being a part of many multiple orgasms I have to say a woman's sexual responsiveness is amazing...”
Posted by Chris on 24th Apr at 8:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 14 and have been masterbating myself since i was at least 4 or 5 . is this really bad ??”
Posted by Louise on 24th Apr at 10:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
...I'm really dreading the time when i could lose my virginity because i am not comfortable even looking at my own downstairs department, let alone another guy seeing it...
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Posted by [No first name supplied] on 23rd Apr at 6:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
It doesn't happen every time you have sex (unless you are extremely lucky)!!! It also doesn't require all that hyperventilating and shrieking you see in pornos.
I rarely orgasm through penetrative sex, I have to be very aroused for that to happen but I ALWAYS orgasm through oral. It takes me about 7 or 8 minutes to climax and then that lasts for about 2 minutes or longer and it just feels good.
I have never had a multiple orgasm but I orgasm regularly because my boyfriend knows I come through oral and not penetration (usually).
Its easier for boys to reach orgasm than girls so make sure your man makes the effort for you - after all its a huge compliment for a man to know he can actually satisfy!”
Posted by Rose on 21st Apr at 7:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
i love getting an orgasm, it feels great!”
Posted by jojo on 21st Apr at 4:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I m yonger girl when i doing sex first time i feel so pain, why?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 18th Apr at 6:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
me and my boyfriend are sexually active, he always has an orgasm while i dont, help!”
Posted by daisy on 17th Apr at 11:21AM (flag as inappropriate)
I've never been able to orgasm through penetration alone. I've also found that most of my friends hve never even experienced an orgasm!”
Posted by Lisa on 17th Apr at 9:20AM (flag as inappropriate)
i have been active for about 1 and a half years now and i was able to stimulate my gf to cum straight away. tjis is great for both of us as she clearly enjoys it soo much and it makes me feel good i can please her however her fav is clitoral and she always insists on this b4 penitration. i am more than happy for this but often when shes come she roles over and sleaps so i am left with out any thing. this is awquad for me as i feel left out and used. also she is v hooked on cuming and will ask to be satisfied 6 times a day! this is v tiring and unsatisfying fr me as we tend not to have penatrative sex”
Posted by dave on 16th Apr at 9:07PM (flag as inappropriate)
why do i orgamsm really fast (5 mins) by rubbing my clitoris? but takes like 30 mins on the G-spot?”
Posted by laura on 15th Apr at 1:10AM (flag as inappropriate)
I lost my virginity a day ago .. i was pretty scared but once i got into it it was great we did it loads of times. . . The only problem is .. my partner doesnt last very long down there and he withdrawed.
How can i make him last longer? I really want him to ? Please help ? (:”
Posted by Rachel on 14th Apr at 9:48PM (flag as inappropriate)
ive only had sex the one time but when it comes to orgasms what would happen and how would i react to it?”
Posted by jenna on 10th Apr at 3:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never had an orgasm im 19 and have been sexually active for 5 years now is this normal?? i have been with my partner for 3 years and we have tried to make me orgasm but nothing seems to work should i worry?? PLEASE HELP!!!”
Posted by Paige on 10th Apr at 12:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive recently got with someone and he fingered me, i can't tell if ive had an orgasm yet. Im inexperience in sexual content. I suddenly become light headed whislt he does it, does this have anything to do with it?”
Posted by Jade on 9th Apr at 7:35PM (flag as inappropriate)
this is so emabressing.. when i masturbate it takes me a short time, (when i concentrate) to orgasm, but sometimes when i reach orgasm, lots of fluid comes out of my vagina as if i have wet myself, but it feels good, i dont know if im normal or not..”
Posted by Alex on 9th Apr at 6:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 36 years old and I love sex, but I'm having problems getting it to feel like I want it too. How can I help this?”
Posted by Becca on 9th Apr at 1:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and lost my virginity to him, in the first year we had the most amazing sex, now i find it hard to get aroused and very difficult trying to orgasm and i dont know what to do since i feel our sex life is going down the pan.”
Posted by rachel on 8th Apr at 11:13AM (flag as inappropriate)
Why can't some wemon have orgasims is it to do with some chemical imbalance or is the orgamism not entirly needed?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 8th Apr at 10:31AM (flag as inappropriate)
my insides feel numb when i touch inside is this uncommon?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 8th Apr at 3:46AM (flag as inappropriate)
hey there!
i'm a lesbian and love all things woman. this video was very informative for a attractive young lady about town like me!
thanks
i really enjoyed the whole thing.
:)”
Posted by Mandy on 7th Apr at 9:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
lost my virginity to my bf of years was an amazing experience.. we tuk it slow n strated wid foreplay.. then 69 position.. wen were together we just cnt resist we speak freely about how we like it n how to achieve an orgasm, he such a sweet heart .”
Posted by mary on 7th Apr at 11:58AM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 15 and i've tried masturbating but i cant get aroused when i finger myself, only from rubbing my clitoros. is this because i can't get far up enough or am i just different?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 7th Apr at 8:27AM (flag as inappropriate)
I have read many of the comments on here and after thinking i have never orgasmed i now think i may have. Holly described how you know you've oragsmed because for about 3 seconds you go all uptight and feel like your in heaven! This has happended once or twice to me before but i thought it was too short to be an orgasm, am i wrong??
ALso, on occassions me and my partner haven't actually got to having sex but i go feel all funny like i cant speak or anything and i get an intense feeling inside and i often get very wet down there as if i have realesed liquid. But it doesn't feel "amazing" just good for a very short period of time, like i a few seconds. Is this an orgasm and does this mean i have come? Please help to clear this up for me!”
Posted by ka on 6th Apr at 5:33PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 18 and have had 2 sexual long term partners..the first never ever gave me an orgasm and the current can only make me orgasm through stimulation of my clit. I feel bad on him so i often fake my orgasms..Iv also tried toys and never had an orgasm through stimulation of my G-spot..is this normal?! Is it possible not to have one”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 6th Apr at 1:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We have always had a very sexual relationship and at the beginning, both being virgins, we spent a lot of time trying new things and exploring together which made it quite exciting. I have still never reached orgasm however and I think my boyfriend feels this is his fault. I have never had any problem making him come but we cant seem to find anything to make me come close. We both still live with our parents and so there is always the worry of someone walking in on us. Is there possibly some sort of mental block that would stop me from relaxing and orgasming? Any tips?”
Posted by Nikki on 6th Apr at 12:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 17 years old and i try all the time fingering and useing toys, i think i have had a orgasm. it felt amazing and i wanted to scream! but was that a orgasm or what!”
Posted by Becky on 6th Apr at 12:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
me and my partner have sex all the time, mainly because i never achieve and orgasm through penatrive sex, this leaves me unsatisfied and always wanting it. by watching your video has helped me realise that sometimes penatrive sex is just not enought to make some women orgasm!!”
Posted by Jess on 6th Apr at 11:05AM (flag as inappropriate)
What actually happens when a girl wet before coming ? X”
Posted by Sinead on 5th Apr at 10:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 20 and I have only experienced an orgasm in the last month through masterbation, I didn't know much about a female orgasm and when it happened I had to look online if that's what it was. Once I got more information about it I knew i had been having orgasms and now I am very happy being single! :)”
Posted by KellyAnn on 5th Apr at 8:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
im a 16 year old girl and im pretty sure i have orgasmed but this was basically brought on by me stimulating myself, not from a guy... but i dont seem to be able to orgasm from clitoral stimulation, and im not entirely sure ive done with the G spot either. I just want to know why not”
Posted by emily on 5th Apr at 3:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 21 years old and have been with my partner for two years. I have never been able to reach orgasm through penetration only and have tried to explain to my boyfriend that I require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. He has tried it, but I feel on edge, and he gets bored after a while as I think he expects it to happen suddenly. Any advice?”
Posted by Louise on 4th Apr at 10:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have never been able to experience an orgasm and feel rather like a woman who never grew up! As I'm on my own, I really need help to find how to give myself an organsm and then I can be more aware of the whole 'sex' scene. At the moment, it's all a mystery to me. I wish there were lessons on how to do it on your site!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 4th Apr at 10:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi i ahave never been able to have an orgamsum no mater what i try HELP”
Posted by emma on 4th Apr at 7:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm really up for my boyfriend fingering me...but i am not sure if i will have an orgasm. i have read a lot of the comments and a lot of people say they havnt. but i am worried it will be really loud and my parents will hear...i think i might put on music...but is that a bit weird ?? x”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 4th Apr at 3:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
More women will learn what makes them orgasm when the myths that women who play with themselves are dirty are dispelled! I didn't orgasm until I was 25 (through oral) but my boyfriend convinced me to explore my own body so I could tell him what turned me on and now I orgasm almost every time we have sex. But I had to find out what felt good on my own.”
Posted by megan on 4th Apr at 3:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
I Dont Know If Ive Had An Orgasm Or Not. I Feel Im Too Young To Have one and Im Not To Sure If I Have. How Do You Know If You Have?”
Posted by kaytee on 4th Apr at 3:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
How Do You Get An Orgasm on yOur Own ?”
Posted by Sophie on 4th Apr at 2:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
I think it is a lot easier for guys to reach orgasm, it has a purpose, the female orgasm is still a mystery. just take time over it, i was 18 until i first had an orgasm, explore your body and take loads of time over it. once you reach it once you'll never forget how!”
Posted by verity on 4th Apr at 2:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 18 and i have never had an orgasm with or without a partener. i now have a baby and the last time i had sex was at 9 months pregnant. this help bringing on the birth but no orgasm. when i have tried to orgasm using clitoral syimulation but that feels a little painful, well i mean a little to stronge to be enjoyable what can i doooo. xox”
Posted by ellie on 4th Apr at 1:22AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 18 years old, im with a girl i love to bits but i cant seem to make her orgasm, previous sexual partners ive had havent had a problem having an orgasm. Im her first sexual partner and feel dissapointed that she cant experience one and she feels unnatural because she cant have one. Is there something i or we as a couple can do to help her experience an orgasm?”
Posted by Jo on 4th Apr at 12:59AM (flag as inappropriate)
This websites really helpful but these words are way long and really confusing. Do we get taught this in school or do I have to ask some one? Cringe!”
Posted by Hannah on 3rd Apr at 7:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi i'm 21 and do find it very hard to orgasm during penetrative sex (like most women) in fact i rarely do. However I do know what works for my body, and my advice to ppl on here asking how to make yourself come is definitely to masturbate. Someone has already mentioned it here: if you do not know how to pleasure yourself, then i think its quite unlikely a man will be able to make you come. I highly recommend using a vibrator along with some form of lubricant (to ease/stop any pain), as i find it extremely hard to come just by clitoral stimulation. Just experiment, and get used to your own body. Hope this helped~!”
Posted by Rebecca on 3rd Apr at 6:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
What actully is female cum? I have before and i know it is very different from male cum. But why do some women come and other don't it all seems to be a bit of a mystery to me!”
Posted by jessica on 3rd Apr at 5:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
Before i was in this relationship, i used to have orgasms when i masturbated on my own. But since ive been i nthis relationship, i have only reached an orgasm once, and that was the second time we did it. Why can't i reach orgasm any more? The sex is really good, he enjoys it as much as me, i just feel a bit dissappointed when i don't reach orgasm...HELP ?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 3rd Apr at 5:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
I can't seem to find my G-spot. I've tried so many times to find it but nothing inside me makes me feel good. Why is this?”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 4:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
i dont know why but when i have sex i dont orgasm.. i know its different but i dont really mind because it means i am quiter and people dont notice haha”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 3:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
I find it quite a shame that our generation has been branded a shameless and ignorant one, we have been getting so much stick both from the media and from society in general. I have a happy relationship with my partners and with sex in general, but everywhere I go I feel horribly guilty because I'm only 15. People time and time again have been warning me and giving me advice when they haven't even had sex themselves. I think people should stop dumping all the blame on the kids and start looking at the real problems in society. I'm not blaming this project, I think this is really helpful, but after watching your episodes i feel guilty and it's made me paranoid about my sexual health and experiences. Not all teenagers are idiots who go around shagging anything with a hole and without any protection. Not all teenagers sit at home all night learning about sex from porn while jacking off to the latest porno, but that's just my opinion.”
Posted by Connor on 3rd Apr at 3:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
i was just wondering how can you tell if you have had an orgasm iv cum during sex before but not sure if i have orgasmed or am i being very stupid n they both mean the same thing ?”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 1:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 16 and have only ever had 1 sexual partner and he is now currently my longterm partner we didnt sleep with eachother untill we had been together 4 months and we were sure we were ready. we have always used protection even tho we were both eachothers firsts and i myself have only just been able 2 reach orgasm. just dont rush into anything with anyone wait until your both ready emotionally to do any kind of sexual activity and always make sure you use protection. x”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 1:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
Some women can 'cum'. it is called female ejaculation. i am lucky and can do this, although i usually stop myself. a feeling like needing a wee can be the start of this. just keep going. i'm 17”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 1:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 17, and im in my first sexual relationship. I'v never had an oragasm, and i have to fake them. What can i do?”
Posted by [No First Name Supplied] on 3rd Apr at 1:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
i had a lesbian relationship in my 20's and had fantastic sex and what i thought were orgasms.it wasnt till i was in my 40's and had been married 16yrs that one night my husband just seemed 2 hit the spot and it was fantastic.although through the years id had some great sex and in all different positions this had never happened before,it was really intense ,almost painful it was so good the classic NO NO YES YESSS YESSSS . U want it to stop but not stop my only problem is that i can only seem to orgasm with clitoral foreplay and not with penatration and over a few yrs its made penatrative sex much less appealing so thats not so good 4 him .i also think its not just about hittin the right spot i find i orgasm more when i feel good about myself and relax and dont worry about fat bits and what hes thinking.”
Posted by mandy on 3rd Apr at 12:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
I get wet really easy. Like we could be making out for a bit and then my boyfriend put his hand down my knickers. and then i'd get wet. It's so annoying. Is this normal? also, i hate it when he trys to get all sexual. I tell him to stop he does, then he tries again and in the end i let him. :| The weird thing is when hes doing stuff to me, or i'm doing stuff to him i dont want to stop, but i dont want to have sex just yet, i think im too young but im scared we will get carried away. what do i do?”
Posted by g on 3rd Apr at 11:59AM (flag as inappropriate)
i was in a lesbian relaitionship in my early 20's and had what i thought were orgasms ,i eventually married a guy and we had good sex but it didnt make me scream then about 8 yrs ago 1 night he just seemed 2 hit the spot and it was amazing i knew then that i had only been really turned on before i hadnt really orgasmed.when u orgasm its like its almost painful the feeling of pleasure is so intense its the classic NO NO YESSS YESSSSS YESSSSS i also think that its about more than just hittin the right spot,i have the best orgasms when im feelin good about myself and feel confident with my body i think thats because i relax and let go more instead of worryin about fat bits and what hes thinkin (and ive been married 24 yrs!)i do find after the best 1's im sore the next day and it hurts when i pee so if anyones got a solution 4 that let me know. finally yes it is great to have added bonus of orgasm but its not everything ive had lots of great sex that made me feel fantastic without an orgasm.I bought a vibrator 4 the first time in my life at the age of 42 as my husband started working away from home but found it really hard 2 get the same result it was good but not so intense , the only downside i have with sex with my partner is i want more foreplay and less penetration as i only orgasm with clitoral touch which isnt so good 4 him.”
Posted by mandy on 3rd Apr at 11:22AM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 and have had only 2 serious sexual long term partners. I've found that it's on a mental as well as physical level, whether your girlfriend orgasms or not. I agree with jo on 'letting yourself go' but it's also about finding out what the other wants. To be honest you're both in it together and you want the best for/from each other so there shouldn't be a problem with asking for things a different way. Doesn't necessarily mean being good or bad at sex.”
Posted by Jack on 3rd Apr at 3:11AM (flag as inappropriate)
I was at this party and i was songing this boy and i had a orgasm over it!but when we became sexual active i didn'thad a orgasm over it now thats not normal whats wrong wiv me!.”
Posted by rachel on 3rd Apr at 1:13AM (flag as inappropriate)
Hello Im 16 and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, as i reached about 15 and a half he started to 'play' with my body and it felt really good but 1 year on and just cant seem to have an orgasm without being penitrated by him and touching my clitoris at the same time. is there somwthing wrong? Thakns”
Posted by Vikki on 3rd Apr at 1:01AM (flag as inappropriate)
You've got to know your own body, and what you like before you expect anyone else to. The answer, masturbate, experiement. I orgasm everytime without fail because i know what i like and i direct them to my 'spots' Obviously its very important to feel totally at ease around the person so your body is relaxed ready for an orgasm.”
Posted by Katie. on 3rd Apr at 12:17AM (flag as inappropriate)
to one of the previous comments that me and my friend were reading, we wanted to let other girls know about the feeling of an orgasm, especially for the first time. When a girl orgasms the body does shudder and sort of feels like a peeing sensation. This feeling makes you want to stop even though your enjoying it, but just carry on through it because it feels really good. After the first time you orgasm your used to the feeling and it becomes even more pleasurable. Hope this helps.”
Posted by Hannah on 3rd Apr at 12:04AM (flag as inappropriate)
is coming the same as an orgasm?”
Posted by jade on 2nd Apr at 11:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have only had an orgasm once during sex, is it bad that I dont get them everytime I have sex?
I feel quite embarrassed because I dont. Help?!”
Posted by Chelsea on 2nd Apr at 11:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have been with my boyfriend for a year now, we have regular sex but i dont know if what im feeling is an orgasm,i get a tingly feeling sometimes is that when i have reached orgasm??it all feels really nice but i dont know how its feels to cum either, or how to find the g-spot to make me orgasm??”
Posted by abi on 2nd Apr at 11:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
I believe an orgasm also depends on your relationship as well. I rarely orgasmed untill I met my husband. Now after 15 years together, we just get better and better by discussing our needs and sharing our thoughts and becoming one. I now have many multiple orgasms ;-0”
Posted by Karen on 2nd Apr at 11:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
ok so I am 52, married for 30+ years and have had about as many orgasms as on two hands. Why only sometimes, why not more often, what is it that makes it happen?”
Posted by sue on 2nd Apr at 11:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have heard so many times that women can squirt...
What is it and how can it be acheived???
”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 10:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 16, and i never really used to see the big deal about sex. People used to go on about how amazing it was, but when i first had it i was dissapointed. I had sex with a few more people after that and it still wasnt much better, all my friends were saying how good it was but i couldnt relate to it. Until i had sex with my current parter now, did i really see what they meant. Personally, i think it was because i had no feelings for my previous sexual partners, it was just sex.”
Posted by TJ on 2nd Apr at 10:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am a 16 year old girl and lost my virginity with my former boyfriend . He manages to make me orgasm through foreplay. It is a great feeling; i agree with someone further down that it is that good you want to stop (for some strange reason). I have only experienced one vaginal orgasm whilst i was on top and he fails to make me orgasm whilst he is on top although this isn't a problem to me as i am happy he is getting pleasure. Is their anyway i can gain the experience while he is on top as he is beginning to feel inadequate as he always has pleasurable sex but i personally don't always feel pleasured. please help ?”
Posted by dee on 2nd Apr at 10:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi I'm a 16 year old guy and I've given my partner many different kinds of orgasm (e.g. g-spot, anal, clitoral and even through the nipples) with relative ease... Although I don't fully understand why so many women are having trouble, from experience i would say it is just a lack of patience. An orgasm can take quite a while to build up and happen so just keep trying :) (I find it is easiest to stimulate her clitoris).
The mood is also key to it in that if you are not relaxed the chances are you won't have an orgasm. Just don't worry about it and try new things and you'll be fine :)”
Posted by Tom on 2nd Apr at 10:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
my girl friend enjoys sex probaly more than i do and it is great but she never orgasms because she stops me, she has orgasmed 2 or 3 times with me and said it felt realy good but still stops me she only cums by accident if she gets to carried away and forgets to stop me this makes me feel like a bit of a let down a my previous partners have all been able to orgasm when with me??????”
Posted by jack on 2nd Apr at 10:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and he is my frist sexual partner and im his, i never know if ive reached an orgasm because i dont know what it feels like, if i havent what could i ask him to do to increase my chance to have an orgasm. help!!”
Posted by sammy on 2nd Apr at 10:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 20 and my first sexual partner and I waited 6 months to sleep with each togther becasue the first time we tried I was too nervous and then from then on everytime we tried after that he was too nervous and couldnt keep his erection. However we did enjoy plenty of foreplay which resulted in him discovering he had the ability to make me orgasm like a man. Yes Im talking about the supposedly mythical "female ejaculation". And when we got around to it the actual sex wasnt that bad either!”
Posted by Shirley on 2nd Apr at 10:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
I agree with Jo. Other than my husband, the only other orgasms with men I've had were through receiving oral sex, because at sex in general they just weren't as good. But as well, a physical connection is a great help, but you need to let go and let it take over you. My husband can give me them through penetrative sex, not always but it does happen often, depending on position/duration of sex etc etc.
However, I personally would always recommend some kind of toy, just a stimulator, no need for the full deal. Then your man doesn't get replaced by a false vibrating penis, that quite frankly can make him feel inadequate as they do things he physically can't. But always make sure you're tuned into your own sexual responses. Experiment, and tell him what you like. We're all different!”
Posted by Terri on 2nd Apr at 10:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 17 and i've been with 2 long term partners. i've never reached orgasm with either of them and i don't know what to do to get to it. i can reach it when i can experiment with myself but i couldn't wiht my last boyfriend and i cant wiht my current one. is it that he's not good?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 9:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 21 and am not sure if i have ever had an orgasm.I really dont know why?I may of had the begining of one but not a fool one.What am i doing wrong?”
Posted by emma on 2nd Apr at 9:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been sexually active for nearly 17 years and not had much luck with orgasms at all, nor have I ever got into masturbation. I think mental arousal is the key for me and that has presented problems - if I don't get anything out of sex I don't look forward to it and am definitely not aroused. I have experienced orgasm with a previous partner but that phase in the relationship didn't last long. In a way this page is great because for SO many years I felt incomplete as a woman (still do to be honest) as you never hear of other women with the same problem.”
Posted by Ann on 2nd Apr at 8:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
I did not start enjoying sex until I was about 27 and found it difficult to orgasm. My current partner takes time over foreplay and turns me on so much that I find it easier to orgasm. I also masturbate regularly and have sexual fantasises, I have found this to be crucial to having orgasms.
I would say that a lack of body confidence prevents women from acheiving orgasm, as does stress and depression. If you can relax and you love and trust your partner, it will happen eventually. You just have to work at it!
Also, never underestimate the importance of pelvic floor exercises.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 7:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 now but i lost my virginity when i had just turned 15. I really regret it, i was drunk and it was with a friend who was 17 at the time. We're still friends now. At the time it was kool i'd lost it before my friends, but now i feel ashamed to tell people i was that young and it was with some-one i wasn't in a relationship with. So don't feel pressured into having sex, it's ok to say no. Save it for some-one who matters.”
Posted by [No First Name Suplied] on 2nd Apr at 7:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
what agae will you have an orgasm?”
Posted by katie on 2nd Apr at 6:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
how can i give myself an orgasm? i am really interested in it and i havent got a partner and i havent had one for some time now so i really want to know how i can pleasure myself.help pleasE!”
Posted by anna on 2nd Apr at 6:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am twenty years old and have had a few sexual partners, none of which have made me orgasm. On the video it says to talk to your doctor if you are having any problems with orgasm. Is there actually anything that can be done?”
Posted by Amy on 2nd Apr at 4:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
can you orgasm without being with a partner, just by imagining things and feeling horny?”
Posted by eleanor on 2nd Apr at 3:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 18 years old and have been with my 22 year old partner for 3 weeks now, i did it with him the other day for the first time, as it felt right, but felt nothing from my breats or clitoral,why didn't i orgasm what am i doing wrong?”
Posted by laura on 2nd Apr at 3:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
i think i come nearly all the time with me boyfriend. but how do i know if it just feels good or it is an orgasm. because in porn they are screaming and everything i have never been like that.”
Posted by rebekah on 2nd Apr at 1:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
Me and my boyfriend have a very healthy sexual relationship. We enjoy experimenting with new things and he has recently found a new way of making me orgasm. He uses a combination of oral and penetrative sex. He starts with oral for a couple of minutes, then he penetrates me for a bit, then goes back and forth between the two until we both climax through penetrative sex. It feels amazing. I'd suggest to any couple to try it.”
Posted by Rosie on 2nd Apr at 1:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 20, and I've had a few sexual partners. My first sexual partner made me orgasm through oral sex, as did my second. But until my current partner I have never orgasmed through pentration.... although it is not penetration alone, we use clitoral stimulation as well.... but they are the best orgasms I've ever had. if you are struggling to orgasm try it”
Posted by Kim on 2nd Apr at 10:03AM (flag as inappropriate)
It looks as if nobody has shared this yet...errogenous zones!
I very very rarely achieve orgasm through intercourse alone, but if my boyfriend stimulates my nipples I'll come straight away.
I'm pretty sure I read somewhere that there are actually nerve endings in the nipples that somehow link with the clitoris..I certainly know that if my nipples are touched at the same time as my clit it intensifies what I'm feeling in my clitoris.
Also, the sides and back of my neck and inner thighs are sensitive to very gentle biting. And I enjoy having my partner very lightly run his nails down my back.
What always helps, thoughs, is emotional connection. If my partner kisses me very tenderly, or holds me very close during love making, holds my hand, strokes my hair, whispers to me, or just looks lovingly at me, all of these make me feel closer to him and intensify the experience.
Commun ication - if you're a little bit uncomfortable, even if he's just laying on your hipbone, you won't achieve orgasm. Don't be afraid to tell him what to do.
This could even be a turn on for you both - work out what you like, for me a little dirty talk gets things going much quicker. My boyfriend was really self conscious with it, but then he realised that by something as simple as asking me how it felt he could get amazing reactions.
Everybo dy is different. Work out what you enjoy... sex for the first few times is never great. And it takes a little while with every new partner to work out how things work between you - every man has a different anatomy, and slight variations in their penis size and shape and angle of their erection can have a huge effect, as can their overall build, height etc. Plus, every guy has different skills!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 3:37AM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 20 years old and have had 5 sexual partners but ive never actually had an orgasm why is this?”
Posted by natalie on 2nd Apr at 1:08AM (flag as inappropriate)
im 16 nd wen i have sex after awhile like 5-10 mins into it i cant feel the mans penis anymore is this normal?? if not wots wrong with me ???”
Posted by tayla on 2nd Apr at 12:47AM (flag as inappropriate)
I think it is important for us girls to reach orgasm! But, I also think it' very much up to the individual to really explore what makes it feel yummy and what doesn't because a lot of the time it feels good for the man anyway, and if you're unsure just ask...I think I'm quite lucky as I reach orgasm quite easily but I have found through breathing techniques that relax you and regular breating it super helps... Lush x”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 2nd Apr at 12:28AM (flag as inappropriate)
For the girls who don't know how to masturbate, it seems to be easy. (I'll be the first to admit that I've not tried it, being both male, and a virgin, and that what little knowledge I have is compiled over a few years of being driven to find out how to pleasure women even though it seems unlikely that I'll have the opportunity for a while yet).
If you're somewhere private, and are feeling a little horny, then experiment with your fingers. Find what you enjoy - all of your skin is sensitive (to varying degrees), so don't leave out nipples, neck, maybe feet.
If you know what the clitoris is (look it up, I'm sorry to sound patronising), start there for more intense feeling, then perhaps you could move further (how to put it?) in. (Pleasure seems to be derived from friction, ie. rubbing, but as they say - experiment).
That, as far as I know, is female masturbation (and can be supplemented with various toys and partners :p)
Simple, but I suppose I should mention the clean hands thing which this site upholds.
I hope that helps, I'm sure other, more experienced people could offer better advice, although this is one area where pornography may actually help (if you ignore everything except the way the 'participants' stimulate themselves).
The most helpful people would probably be your friends: no matter how embarrassed you might be about asking, if they don't have a genuine desire to help you (or at least be mature about it), then they aren't particularly good friends - this may extend to orgasms as well.
That was a long post. Hope it helps someone.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 11:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
I can't believe that some females don't actually know when they are having an orgasm. I found out through masterbation. How are you going to let your partner know what makes you reach climax if you don't know yourself? I'm obviously really lucky to have a husband that won't give up until I have cum!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 10:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 19, i've had sex with 3 guys. Out of the 3, there is only one who has actually made me reach orgasm through intercourse, and that only happened once, when i was on top! Although painful, i also reached orgasm through anal sex, but I wouldn't recommend to use this method all the time to reach orgasm! Most of the time, I don't even reach orgasm through oral sex either! I find the best way to reach orgasm is through sex toys, I'm now on my 2nd rampant rabbit from ann summers and they have been the best £40 i have ever spent. I can use them with a partner or without which is double the bonus when i'm alone! I reach amazing orgasms through using that! Don't be afraid to try new things, i felt ashamed after i bought my toy, but then realised i get pleasure out of it so it was worth it! Have fun, explore and enjoy trying new things!”
Posted by Rachel on 1st Apr at 10:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never had sexual intercourse or used any kind of sexual toys before. i really want to experience an orgasm...never had one before. do i just have to rub my clitoris for long enough and will i eventually orgasm?”
Posted by Rachel on 1st Apr at 10:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 18 and ive had one sexual partner my current boyfriend but ive never had an orgasm (of course he doesnt know this) :( im afraid that i may be clinically unable!”
Posted by sarah on 1st Apr at 10:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have never had a G-spot orgasm. Are there any tricks that work better than others? When speaking to one of my friends she said that i isnt normal (which i know is not true) but i do feel like sex could be alot more interesting if I did as sometimes I dont really enjoy myself I just do it for my partners sake. Is this noraml to get bord?”
Posted by Hannah on 1st Apr at 10:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
i feel that if you dont relax totally during sex then yits harder to reach an orgasm if you relax an d trust your partner then its alot easyer”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 9:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have bin with my partner for 2 years and we have had a child but when we have sex i cant feel any sexual feelin is it nomail?”
Posted by shanice on 1st Apr at 9:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 22 and since ive been sexualy active i've always had a problem coming. i can literly go hours and normaly the women ends up saying she can't take any more, i semm to not last as long with bigger girls....is there anything i can do to help me come in a decent time??”
Posted by john on 1st Apr at 9:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm a girl from Norway and I've had several orgasms. I get more orgasms than the partner, which the guys like, but when I read how many who don't get orgasms at all, it worries me. Does this mean I am not normal? Is there something wrong with me?”
Posted by Maggie on 1st Apr at 9:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
I wish I could stop mine, multiple ones happen every time.”
Posted by Ann on 1st Apr at 9:31PM (flag as inappropriate)
After i play with my girlfriends clitoris for a while she starts to uncontrollable move and then tells me to stop is this an orgasm ?”
Posted by Jack on 1st Apr at 9:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
other than my current sexual partner, i have never orgasmed from intercourse. i think its all down to comunication, by guiding each other through what you like and dislike is so much easier than just dealing with it in silence. you should never feel uncomfortable discussing it with them, it benafits you both when you just talk believe me :)”
Posted by Hannah on 1st Apr at 9:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 16 years old and im with a 17 year old lad we have had sex just 1 time but i did not have an orgasm im really worried that he dont wont sex again what shell i do?”
Posted by pheobe on 1st Apr at 9:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive been with my boyfriend for quite a while now and everytime we have sex i orgasm but i dont cum, My boyfriend feels a bit disheartned that he cant make me cum. Im confused because i havent cum before so a dont really know what it is. would you be able to give me some tips or somethings please.”
Posted by Emily on 1st Apr at 9:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 and had over 10 sexual partners. However only 1 has made me orgasm, so SIZE DOES NOT MATTER! He was only like 6 inches and my ex before that was nearly 10... So what I think, is that it takes someone you love, or simply just good at sex to do it ;) enjoy! xx”
Posted by Gemma on 1st Apr at 9:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had never had an orgasm until I met my current boyfriend. It was like a whole new world he knew exactly where to touch and even found the mysterious "g" spot. I have found that if you relax and do not tense as you are orgasming it is far more intense and enjoyable”
Posted by k on 1st Apr at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
THIS IS TO THE GUY WHO SAID IT WAS A MYSTERY AS TO HOW WOMEN GET STI TESTS:
They get a blood test the same as men, also some STIs can be tested through urine samples.”
Posted by Naomi on 1st Apr at 9:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was 30 before I had an orgasm and had to ask my friend what it was like to have one, she said it is like a sneeze between the legs, also I find the time of the month affects whether or not I orgasm, and how wet it is. I have had numerous partners and always used a condom, and feel now I am older I have more confidence and this helps on the orgasm front, and also masturbation was never talked about,but sex is a natural function and we should not be ashamed about it, and we should love our bodies as no two are the same.”
Posted by Margaret on 1st Apr at 9:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now and everytime we are intimate (touchy feely or being sexual) I have an orgasm but don't actully cum and my boyfriend asks why and sometimes doesn't believe me that I did have an orgasm. Can you give me advise?”
Posted by Elizabeth on 1st Apr at 9:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
how long should a orgasm last ?”
Posted by sophie on 1st Apr at 9:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am doubting my sex drive as i have been with lots of different women and have never made any of them orgasm, coud you give me tips on how t do this please?”
Posted by Dorien on 1st Apr at 9:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 17 and have my first intimate boyfriend and we have both just started having sex 3 months ago. he is really good and it feels great but i can never orgasim during intercourse, only oral. how can i improve this??”
Posted by amy on 1st Apr at 9:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
im a lucky girl. i reach orgasm every time i have sex with my partner of 6 months. you just have to relax and enjoy it!”
Posted by J on 1st Apr at 9:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been with my partner for 2 years and have been having sex for 1 year now. I have never had a g-spot orgasm and for some reason sex is now very painful. We managed to have sex for about 2 hours without realising and after that it is too painful to have sex. Is there anything wrong with me?”
Posted by Emma on 1st Apr at 8:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 25 and had many sexual partners, i'm not quite sure if i have had an Orgasm. It always gets to the point where its too much and too sensitive and i can't go on. I think i have cum before from being on top but people say you would know about both if you've experienced them? How am i supposed to know if i have or not?????”
Posted by Rebecca on 1st Apr at 8:47PM (flag as inappropriate)
me and my boyfriend love sex, but i never orgasm through sex or oral, i have to fake it and its so embaressing !!! what should i do!?”
Posted by Sam on 1st Apr at 8:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been sexually active for nearly 17 years and not had much luck with orgasms at all, nor have I ever got into masturbation. I think mental arousal is the key for me and that has presented problems - if I don't get anything out of sex I don't look forward to it and am definitely not aroused. I have experienced orgasm with a previous partner but that phase in the relationship didn't last long. In a way this page is great because for SO many years I felt incomplete as a woman (still do to be honest) as you never hear of other women with the same problem.”
Posted by Ann on 1st Apr at 7:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im seventeen and i have only really had one long term sexual partner. i find that i casn orgasm very quickly during sex. i love both clitoral stimulation and when my boyfriend hits my G-spot, they both make my body shudder!!! Its amazing!”
Posted by Alexis on 1st Apr at 6:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 24 and have only ever had one partner, with him I have experienced orgasms, for the first few months I felt too self conscious and couldn't orgasm. I believe that when you become comfortable with yourself and comfortable with your partner you are more likely to orgasm because you are relaxed, we talk about sex together and try new things also. I don't believe it is down to someone being good or bad at sex I believe it is through learning about each other and being able to let yourself go. Personally I think the fact that I love him makes a big difference to enjoying sex.”
Posted by Stacy on 1st Apr at 6:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 19 and i haven't had sex with my boyfriend yet but i use a vibrator. My mother knows about it. But i haven't had a G-spot orgasm, only Clitoral. Can you tell me how i can acheive a G-spot orgasm during masterbation or sexual intercouse.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 3:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
How do i know that im having good sex?”
Posted by Becca. on 1st Apr at 3:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
ive been with my boyfriend for a few years now but ive only reached orgasm twice, why? is something wrong with me !”
Posted by Emily on 1st Apr at 1:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 16 and for some reason i dont get orgasms unless its 'clitral' whats rong with me !!!!”
Posted by Emma on 1st Apr at 1:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've never had an orgasm due to penetration. Either me or my boyfriend has to give clitoral stimulation for me to reach orgasm during sex.”
Posted by Clare on 1st Apr at 1:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
reading some of these comments, people seem to be interested in the female ejaculation. this is something that to me only happens in porn films!! you can still have an orgasm and not ejaculate! ive never ejaculated, i just get even wetter, and its not a big deal to me and my boyf! i have had 4 sexual partners, and been with my boyfriend now for over 2 years. it took a while for me to orgasm with him, maybe a few months, but it was fun experimenting until we found the best way for me to orgasm! getting closer to each other and falling in love also helped :-) so girls who find you cant orgasm, just take your time and relax, enjoy the sex, and it'll soon happen!”
Posted by Hannah on 1st Apr at 1:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
Every woman is different on how they orgasm for me it's the g spot. It's much easier to orgasm if you are relaxed and comfortable. If you are worrying about something it stops you from truly enjoying yourself and it would be much harder to reach the orgasm. Just relax and everything will go smoothly. (:”
Posted by Sam on 1st Apr at 12:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
It works very differently for different women. There are soft slow pentration that for one woman will wind her up to an orgasm. For another I have found only oral works and one I found rubbing my knuckles rapidly against the clitoris worked. Its a personal thing and often linked to more than just the technique used.”
Posted by Matt on 1st Apr at 12:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've only had sexual intercourse with my current long term boyfriend, but have done foreplay with two other guys. I've never orgasmed, and it now bothers me because it affects my partners confidence. Why can't 16% of women orgasm? And what can be done to change it?!”
Posted by Jules on 1st Apr at 11:43AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 17 and have been sexually active for a year with my partner of 2 years, i have not been able to achieve orgasm in the year of having sex and it is very frustrating for both of us, is there anything we can do to help it? And would me being on the injection and pill have anything to do with it?”
Posted by mandy on 1st Apr at 11:27AM (flag as inappropriate)
When having having foreplay with my partner and rubbing her g-spot it makes her need to wee and she wants to stop. Is this normal or is there something wrong?”
Posted by Stuart on 1st Apr at 9:46AM (flag as inappropriate)
It took me over a year to have an orgasm and I think all that time I was constantly doubting my ability to have it.
The first time I orgasmed, it was due to me masturbating which I'd been doing for 2 or 3 years before hand. I felt like this kind of opened the gates to having an orgasm with my partner. I feel as though you need to switch on 'the orgasm switch' to be able to have them.
Knowing your body, trying different things and enjoying yourself is how you will reach an orgasm. You just need to let yourself go and be comfortable with it all.”
Posted by Katie on 1st Apr at 9:41AM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been on birth control pills for a very long time, i have noticed since i have been on it i have a hard time having an orgasms can you gave me some advice on how i can solve this problem.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 1:54AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 18 and have been with 2 sexual partners. my previous partner never made me orgasm even though he was well... (well you know). and my current boyfriend isnt large at all but he gives me multple orgasms frequently. but then again he makes me shudder when he touches me. i think i am a very lucky girl.”
Posted by Christina on 1st Apr at 12:36AM (flag as inappropriate)
in sex mygirlfriend feels the need to pee is this normal and wot is it pee or cum ?”
Posted by r on 1st Apr at 12:34AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 18 and i lost my virginity at the age of 15 and i have never had an orgasm during sex i have reached orgasm many times on my own is there anything i can do to reach orgasm during sex”
Posted by laura on 1st Apr at 12:33AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 41 female and i have just learnt things myself with this show i have never ever had an orgasum with a man but at a very young age i did have clitoral orgasums it will happen for u i use a intense vibrator on the clitoral area that works for me i does still bother me that i cannot come with a man but i experiment alone try it is only natural”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 1st Apr at 12:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
i've reached orgasm before; but i've never actually came, why?”
Posted by michaela on 31st Mar at 11:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 24, I've slept with 8 men and, while I had always loved the sex and thought I was completely comfortable, the only way I could have an orgasm was through "DIY" and never actually during sex... until I met my boyfriend, who I've been with for over 3 years now and I literally orgasm left right and centre with him!
I think sometimes it just has to be the connection between you, it's a trust thing - you need to be able to share what you like and what you don't and not be self conscious. As much as I had fun with guys I didn't really care about, being with someone I love totally changed sex for me and made it so much better. I'm not saying "oh be in love before you can have an orgasm" - far from it, but it's just my personal experience :) Be comfortable with that person.
And yes, it really helps to know your own body so you can help your partner, but sometimes learning together is all part of the fun :)
PS believe me you KNOW when you've had an orgasm - it's not a maybe thing. Wow. If you are beginning to explore masturbation try it in the shower, where you're relaxed and the soapy water can help.”
Posted by Angellica on 31st Mar at 11:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
Thanks, I had no clue where about the G-spot at all. Understanding female Orgasms was always a complete mystery for me! I'll take this into some consideration and learn to respect women and not just me to me pleasured by girls.”
Posted by Gareth on 31st Mar at 11:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 16 and my boyfriend can make me come by rubbing my clit and it feels great, have you got any advice on helping me come through sex? and how can you rub your clitoris on the man while having sex?.”
Posted by sally on 31st Mar at 11:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 years old and I've bemm with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I don't believe I've ever cum or and an orgasm, I enjoy our sex a lot, so is there something wrong with me??”
Posted by Anna on 31st Mar at 10:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
Some men have this misguided idea that all women want to be multi orgasmic, and that if they are, then the more orgasms the better. I have mutiple orgasms very easily but enough is enough! When I have had as many as I want then I really want my partner to climax too - but some men just want to go on and on. Please guys, we are not all the same and if a woman really says enough is enough, believe her! I love chocolate too, but too much makes me feel sick!”
Posted by Carol on 31st Mar at 10:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm fifteen, i've had sex with about 11 different lads now, but i don't honestly believe i've ever had a full on orgasm. i mean you will know if you have one my friends say. is there something wrong with me?”
Posted by Chanelle on 31st Mar at 10:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 20 and i have never orgasmed and am in a long term relationship. I have to fake it so he doesnt feel he is doing anything wrong because he isnt its just i never have with anyone is there anything i can do?”
Posted by H on 31st Mar at 10:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
I used to think that i was wetting myself when i orgasmed because there was so much liquid. I went to the doctor and she said to make sure i had emptied my bladder before sex. I did this and it still happened and my doctor concluded it was just a female ejaculation and that i was "just lucky". My boyfriend loves it!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 9:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
where is our g-spot? can we find it easily ourselves?”
Posted by jenny on 31st Mar at 9:42PM (flag as inappropriate)
oh and also, i'm 16 and you know the way sex ed show is going on about "niave teens" learning from porn and stuff, not every teen doesn't understand, I know a lot more than some teens, about sex and all that, even before I was sexually active.”
Posted by Heather on 31st Mar at 9:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'd like to share some advice with the people below :)
I was with my first sexual partner for over 3 years and thought everything was great, and unsure of what an orgasm should feel like, I thought I had had them.
I experimented with toys, which I found gave me (pretty rubbish) orgasms, and then one amazing day worked out how to do it completely unaided.
I have now met someone who can make my come literally with a wave of his fingers! You can imagine how shocked I was when, after my first ever man-induced orgasm he told me he was a virgin and had pretty much no ecperience whatsoever with sex!
I think what it comes down to is learning yourself. I was totally comfortable with my first partner, but it just never happened.
Once you know how your own body works, it makes it much much easier for your partner to help you come too.
Good luck girls!
xxx”
Posted by Rosie on 31st Mar at 9:35PM (flag as inappropriate)
iv had two partners in the last four years, both of which were long term relationships,one still on the go atm.. but iv never been able to orgasm with either of them, its not besause of them, is there something wrong with me?”
Posted by kathy on 31st Mar at 9:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 21 years old, and I have never reached orgasm by stimulating g-spot, only by clitoral stimulation. I get really frustrated beause i feel like i am missing out. I have never told any of my sexual partners, i have just faked it. Its becoming a problem as i get really paranoid. Is there anything i can try?”
Posted by Katie on 31st Mar at 9:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 19 year old girl and iv been sexually actuve since i was 16. since the first time i had sex i always felt a stong sensation of i need to wee. and if i try and ignore and relax i have wee'd myself somtimes. how embarassing!!! luckily my partners have been understandin but if i tense and focus on not wee'ing i can get thru it but it ruins the whole experience for me. can anyone help, or have to same experience? so i know this isnt only me!!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 9:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
why is it i can have an orgasm many times but never come, my boyfriend feels a failure as he expects this to happen.”
Posted by wendy on 31st Mar at 9:22PM (flag as inappropriate)
Does a woman have to cum to have an orgasm? I'm sure i've given my girlfriend an orgasm and so is she but we still dont know. In porn the girl always cums. It is ridiculous.”
Posted by Thomas on 31st Mar at 9:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hey i'm 16 years old, and have a long term boyfriend. I don't think i've ever experienced an orgasm during sex itself, but i've had one or two g-spot orgasms through fingering, and many clitoral orgasms. I can have 4-5 orgasms in one sitting before getting tired and feeling like I can't go on. Is it really normal to multi orgasm that much? Specially when I look down and see all the comments people have left who are in their 20's saying they've never reached orgasm (for all you trying to do it with sex, it doesn't work properly, just try rubbing the clitoris or g-spot and you'll get there much faster).”
Posted by Heather on 31st Mar at 9:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 21 and i've had orgasms before, using my clitoris when i masterbate but with my partner i can only climax using my g spot.it seems to take a lot longer.but thats probably cos nobody knows ur body better than u.guide ur partner tell him what feels good/bad.i've found you have to be really relaxed with your partner.i found that wearing something over my eyes makes me relax a lot more and sometime laying on my belly helps then climaxing happens a lot quicker. ”
Posted by Jade on 31st Mar at 9:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have only ever orgasmed once when having sex and that was by using a vibrating ring. i can only orgasm by clitoral stimulation. what am i doing wrong? my boyfriend seems to think its his fault and that he is not performing well enough.”
Posted by alison on 31st Mar at 9:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ive had sex a few times now with 2 dif people, and not one have i had pleasure from it. is there something wrong with me?”
Posted by kim on 31st Mar at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 38yrs old and have never been able to pull my foreskin back, its not been a problem so far but if it were to become a problem what should I do?
I'm sure I should probably go to the doctors but I am worried about what they might have to do, i.e snip snip. ”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 9:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've had two long relationships. And neither have made me orgasm. In foreplay when they touched my clitoris it was really nice but i felt like i wanted them to stop at the same time. Is this normal. Both were very good at sex and i was enjoying it but I just couldn't climax. Is there something wrong with me? Whenever I've used toys I've acheived orgasm.. So I don't know.”
Posted by Rachael on 31st Mar at 9:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi. I'm a 27 year old woman,, i've been out with my boyfriend for 2 years soon and i've never really had an orgasm during sex,, i had a couple when we were first going out but since then it has sort of died and to be honest i'm not sure if i had even had one,,,
but to be honest i would like to have one but not sure how,, tryed everything that you said on video but doesn't seem to work,, either he gets bored and moves into postion,,”
Posted by Sarah on 31st Mar at 9:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 15 and ive had sex 16 or 17 times but its often still a bit painful and i never come during sex, only occasionally during foreplay. im really worried but my partner seems to be enjoying it so i dont want to bring up the subject with him...im not sure what to do!”
Posted by Rachel on 31st Mar at 9:09PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 30 and have had more than i can count of sexual partners and ive never had a orgasam , why ? ive got 3 kids too so ive obviously done it quite a few times but have never had a orgasam ever”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 9:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 25 and proud to say the full female orgasm is possible, that is the female ejaculation. My partner manages to make me do it everytime, and since I've learned how to do it to women too. It is possible, it just takes training!!”
Posted by Gemma on 31st Mar at 9:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have nevered experienced a orgasm i dont know why but never have”
Posted by mandy on 31st Mar at 8:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
"I`m 18 years old I have been with my partner for 3 years never once have I had a orgasm. My boy friend trys so hard and think`s he is doing things rong we have used sex toys ect ect but no luck. I have faked orgasm`s in the past because of this any advise?”
Posted by Abigail on 31st Mar at 7:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi, im 14 and i would like to 'pleasure' myself. I have once tried this before, however i have not acheived an orgasm. Please help me on how i could acheive my 'goal'.
Thankyou x”
Posted by Danielle on 31st Mar at 7:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
can you pop your cherry by fingering yourself”
Posted by mary on 31st Mar at 6:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
This is to the guy from norway...If i were you i would try not to worry too much, its ok to learn this stuff together and being nervous is all part of it, she is probably nervous too. If you trust her and she loves you too she will be happy to teach you and not make you feel inadequate.
If you want some specific tips though try the internet and remember its supposed to be fun, if she doesnt come first time its not the end of the world, most of us dont first time. Good luck, enjoy!”
Posted by Sarah on 31st Mar at 6:17PM (flag as inappropriate)
having sex with my boyfriend is amazing but i never reached orgasm i have only ever had one is there something wrong?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 6:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never orgasmed, through either sex or stimulation. i have experimented, i dont smoke or drink and am perfectly relaxed with my boyfriend. i dont always feel anything during sex either. what should i do to reach orgasm?”
Posted by louise on 31st Mar at 5:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
when i have sex with me girfriend it take 5-10 minutes b4 she comes for the first time, but then after that she comes very reguarly, but im not sure if she is just faking it as she is the only person i have had sex with and im worried i dont actaully pleasure her during sex”
Posted by tom on 31st Mar at 4:32PM (flag as inappropriate)
Ann... try experimenting, using you finger is a good one.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 31st Mar at 3:31PM (flag as inappropriate)
What is Climax?”
Posted by Grace. on 31st Mar at 3:04PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have had 2sexual long term partners but only once have i ever had an orgasm and its only been during Oral Sex. Is there anything i can do to have an orgasm during sex?”
Posted by Grace. on 31st Mar at 3:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
Anyone who has never experienced an orgasm!
If you do it manually the first time it takes a long time to reach the ultimate climax!
when i first started to orgasm (at quite a young age) i noticed that he feelin of getting to the full orgasm felt almost like i needed to pee. and you most definately have to relax whilst doin it cos tensing makes it take longer.
I suggest using a clitoral stimulator, waterproof one in the bath as you relax more in the bath, they are the greatest quickest way for multiples..Woohoo!”
Posted by kelly on 31st Mar at 1:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
to anyone who hasn't been able to achieve any kind of orgasm, i would recommend investing in a clitoral vibrator (anne summers does them for £10). this is a sure winner.”
Posted by polly on 31st Mar at 12:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
i dont know if i ve had an orgasm, i get clitorus stimulation and it feels good but i always have to stop it overwelming, what is this feeling and is this the start of an orgasm”
Posted by jenny on 31st Mar at 11:17AM (flag as inappropriate)
some girls seem to making a distinction between cumming and orgasm 'i can orgasm but i can't cum' or 'i can cum but i've never had an orgasm' - If you're a girl and you've had an orgasm - then you've cum. it's just different words for the same thing. Men's semen is also referred to as 'cum' - women don't produce this - they produce vaginal fluid (get wet) when they become aroused so that penetration isn't painful. In porn, i've seen a few women 'squirt' (a lot of watery fluid which shoots out of the vagina) but this isn't too common in real life (and would be pretty messy!)”
Posted by beverly on 31st Mar at 10:33AM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 15 and me and my boyfriend experienced foreplay the other week. I orgasmed but since then I haven't been able to orgasm when I have masturbated myself. What's wrong with me?”
Posted by Aimee on 31st Mar at 9:09AM (flag as inappropriate)
I had my first orgasm at around 14 through masturbation and never looked back! Experience is the key ladies, experiment with touching yourself. A mirror sometimes helps...if you know where to touch and what to do to make yourself orgasm then you can gently guide your partners hand. As someone else has said, relax and enjoy plenty of foreplay, men like to rush into the act of sex with very little foreplay. Let's face it they get turned on pretty quickly!!! Us women take longer.
As for "cumming" in all my 49 years, I have only ever experienced ejaculation (if that's what you mean and not the actual feeling of orgasm!) once. That was when I found my G Spot on my own, I've never managed it again since.
To me, at least, an orgasm is a wonderfully warm, tingly feeling but it isn't the be all and end all of making love. You can have great sex with a man who knows how to pleasure you properly without orgasm!”
Posted by Jayne on 31st Mar at 8:41AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 21 years old. I lost my virginity when i was 16. For years i didn't have an orgasm through sex, and i wasn't a fan of my own body.
It wasn't until i built the confidence to explore myself that i finally orgasmed. It was truly amazing. I think being able to really let go is a problem for women in general. A man isn't worried about orgasming in front of you. Explore yourself, find out what does it for you and share that with him. Sex is meant to be enjoyed by both of the people involved :)”
Posted by Lauren on 31st Mar at 1:43AM (flag as inappropriate)
i wanna no about female sti test's please ...an do your doctors do them? coz i cant go to the clinic!!! i no the staff an feel silly ..AN i know i hav sti's lots of them”
Posted by steph on 31st Mar at 1:16AM (flag as inappropriate)
hello, I'm 19 yrs old and was in a years relationship with who is now my ex boyfriend, but my question to you is i never orgasmed through intercourse, only clitoris, so i know i can have an orgasm and we tried to find it but no luck. So i just wanted some advise for when i'm next in a relationship to hopefully not have the same problem. Cos i wana have some fun!
thanks
”
Posted by sophie on 31st Mar at 12:43AM (flag as inappropriate)
im almost embarrassed to have sex because of my orgasms. i reach them very quickly and can have one after another after another, but i literally gush every time. i can get a whole thick towel soaked during a session, and the bed is always damp afterwards.
it must sound like paradise to those who can't reach orgasm, but it makes me feel like a freak. if there was anything i could do to stop this from happening every time i really would. the mess and plain weirdness of it is taking away my enjoyment of sex.”
Posted by kat on 31st Mar at 12:08AM (flag as inappropriate)
ok so i am very sexually attracted to my boy friend of 2yrs, but whenever we have sex (dont get me wrong i love sex) but i can never stay wet...its like i really want sex but i'm soo dry..PLEASE HELP, dunno whats wrong with me...”
Posted by liz on 31st Mar at 12:02AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi i am 18 yrs old girl from uk when i have sex i cum n evarythink but when we stop i ALLWAYS need 2 go to the loo 4 a wee is that coz i ant had a orgasm or wht i am confused n his cum allways comes bk out again is that numal aswell”
Posted by Liz on 30th Mar at 11:51PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 16 and have never had sex but have given my self and orgasm. i do it by getting a pillow and wrapping my legs round and getting sumthing to arousme such as porn, then i move up and down after a few minutes in the right position i get a pleasurable feeling but it only lasts about 10 seconds. Is this ok?”
Posted by Sophie on 30th Mar at 11:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
To 17 yr old boy from Norway... Don't worry! You love your partner which is the most important thing. Tell her you care about her pleasure and ask her to guide you with what gives her the most sensations. Not all women can reach orgasm easily particularly when they are young, it is something you can learn together. Talk to her, it may be less of an issue for her as it is for you.”
Posted by Jim on 30th Mar at 11:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
18 year old woman, and I first started experimenting and masturbating when i was 8!
I'm almost shocked at the number of women who think its wrong to masturbate or experiment or don't even know how! It's completely normal!!
Guys seem to think that just by penatrating you, you will imediatley get turned on or feel pleasure, but its really more of a psychological thing for us. At least to begin with. ”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 30th Mar at 10:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
im a male and have a long-term girlfriend, i want to know what is the best way to make her reach orgasm and ejaculate, can you help?”
Posted by a on 30th Mar at 10:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 14 years old, and admit i like to masterbate alot, generally just because it feels good. But i can't go for more than maybe a few minutes.It this normal??? and How can i make myself have an orgasim and how will i no that i have acheived it??? please help if you can asap! Thanks”
Posted by Clare on 30th Mar at 10:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hey, Laura, 19, and I had my first clitoral orgasm about 8 months ago - on my own with a vibrator. I got quite addicted and was masterbating at least once a day - always reaching orgasm. It then ran out of batteries so I tried manually, it took longer but was still intense enough! What happens is you start to get a feeling of throbbing in your vaginal area, then get all hot all over, then shudder down my spine then you can feel all the muscles in the pelvic area go into spasm! It is great! Just thought that I'd share that, for all of you who are wondering whether or not you have reached orgasm.
I have yet to conquer a vaginal orgasm though
x”
Posted by Laura on 30th Mar at 10:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
Is going a physical act to yourself wrong?”
Posted by helen on 30th Mar at 10:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
do you have a g spot in the anal area?”
Posted by alisha on 30th Mar at 10:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
how do women cum because i had an orgasm the other day with my boyfriend and he said how come i dont cum loads and it normally takes me a second time to have a great orgasm! I have only cum once durin sex aswell is their ne ways that i can cum during sex?”
Posted by Jade on 30th Mar at 9:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have had an orgasm only once and thats kind of annoying as i have never experienced it again, but i do want more. I am with a new partner who is unable to stop himself from coming too quickly and i don't have enough experience to know how to help him and myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! what should i do?”
Posted by sara on 30th Mar at 9:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 25 and i enjoy a full and happy sex life. This was not always the case, it has only been in the last 4 years that i've started to have orgasms. My problem is, that befor or durring a climax (not always an orgasm)i produce ALOT of fullid. The first time i thought I'd wet myself but my partner says its not urin and is more than happy with this reaction, but its got more and more over the last few years, and i don't think I'm wrong in saying that there can be up to 1 litre in any 1 evening.
I have to keep a water proof sheet on the bed at all times and use plenty of towls. Also my partner has a very poor sence of smell and i think that it smells like urin. Please can you tell me if this is normal and if it is urin? Thank you,xx”
Posted by Charlotte on 30th Mar at 9:31PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am a virgin and i keep on wanting to touch my g-spot because it fells realli good but i find it quite embarassing what does this mean ?x”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 30th Mar at 9:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
also. for men, dont get angry or frustrated about not making your women orgasm!!
it makes things worse. even if you are frustrated, dont take it out on the women! other wise she will never orgasm!!!”
Posted by amy on 30th Mar at 9:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
also. for men, dont get angry or frustrated about not making your women orgasm!!
it makes things worse. even if you are frustrated, dont take it out on the women! other wise she will never orgasm!!!”
Posted by amy on 30th Mar at 9:25PM (flag as inappropriate)
having had many trys at the orgasm it varies greatly from partner to partner however although i have had a few maybe 1/2 a dozen ejaculatory orgasms, my partner /fiance can make me ejaculate consistently and every time we have sex i loose vaginal fluid in quite substantial amounts. For everyone orgasm is different and non more so for men, ejaculation does not always mean orgasm. allow yourself the trust in your partner to give him/her direction as to what you like.”
Posted by Jay on 30th Mar at 9:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
i dont think an orgasm is the most important thing. dont get me wrong it is amazing!
but sex without an orgasm can be equally as special. i went from orgasming really easily, to not very much, but that was probably because of a bad experiance ive had in a realationship.
i think the key is to let go and relax. but im not a docter! i just find it helps
xxxxx”
Posted by amy on 30th Mar at 9:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've had a few boyfriends in the past that i've had sex with quite alot, but none have ever made me orgasm. I've have a boyfriend now and we've been together for nearly a year but when we have sex i can't orgasm with him either, even though it feels amazing, and we do have fore play with clitoral stimulation, but i can't orgasm... i'm 16, could that have anything to do with it?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 30th Mar at 9:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been having sex for quite a long time and i can see why so many women on here are so frustrated, i have only had 3 sexual partners but none of them have made me cum, climax, orgasm..whatever you want to call it.
I have never managed to bring myself to orgasm through masterbation or using sex toys or even using vibrating cock rings during sex.
I have always been patient and my boyfriend in so understanding.
We have experimented with lots of things and know each others bodies inside out but neither of us can make me cum.
Sometimes i dont think its the men that feel inadequate but us women ourselves, i feel like i cannot show my boyfriend how much i really do enjoy our sex and appreciate what he is doing for me.
Its just so annoying that men can reach orgasm so easily and we seem to be left behind.
I'd love to know if there are any medical reasons or real explanations to why it doesnt happen for some people, and not just being told to be patient and wait it out.
Thank you,”
Posted by Beth on 30th Mar at 9:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
theres nothing wrong with you its just some woman have the ablity to orgasm and some not ....”
Posted by james on 30th Mar at 9:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been sexually aware for about 4 years and have had sex with 1. I now know exactly what works for me. It's really helped with my ex-partner but I'm still aiming for the G-spot orgasm. I'm 18 years old and this series has been really informative. Thanks.”
Posted by Anna on 30th Mar at 9:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 19 years old me and my partner have tryed for orgasms and it happend once well i think it did but i really want to know how to cum ? or as men say *squirt* i want to know how so any message to let me know would be great xx”
Posted by becky on 30th Mar at 9:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 17 years old i've been with my boyfriend for 3years and we have only slept with eachother. i have only ever had one orgasm, is there a secret to having one or do you have to be really aroused?”
Posted by Micheala on 30th Mar at 9:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 18 and i have had 2 sexual partners, iv only ever been able to reach orgasm from myself and thts only from clitoral stimulation, but i cant bring myself to tell my partner he cant make me cum. He does everything i do but i neva seem to reach climax. wat are we doing wrong! my partner can find my G spot easily but when he's on it i constantly have the urge to pee, is this normal! please help”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 30th Mar at 9:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 and have had 4 sexual long term partners. My current partner is the only person that has made me reach orgasm. The reason - he is just very good at sex. That's really what it comes down to. You need that something between the two of you to really let yourself go and get to an orgasm. Toys could help you if you're having problems - don't be afraid or ashamed to try new things!”
Posted by jo on 30th Mar at 9:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 24 years old, I have a boyfriend for 5 years, and he was my first sexual partner. I have never reached orgasm by stimulating g-spot, or during sexsual act. What's wrong with me, what should we do?”
Posted by Ann on 28th Mar at 4:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
20 years old, been with two guys and tried everything, by myself or with boyfriends. Have never been able to orgasm. Not particularly uptight about it so it's not that- but clitoral stimulation doesn't seem to do anything for me. Is it possible some women are just less responsive to clitoral stimulation or am I doing something wrong?”
Posted by Ellen on 27th Mar at 11:51AM (flag as inappropriate)
I feel I have had an orgasm because in the middle of foreplay when my partner has been touching my cliterous and he found this spot which made my body shudder, and it was like I wanted him to stop it was that enjoyable. Is that an orgasm?”
Posted by j on 25th Mar at 1:01AM (flag as inappropriate)
Hello, im a 17 year old boy from Norway, and in love with a girl. I'm really sceared of not makeing her get orgasem. I do not feel like i know the female anatomy good enouth. And this will be my first time. Can i plis have some tips how to let her come?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 18th Mar at 11:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've been with my boyfriend for a year and every time we have sex i cum but i've never had an orgasm, how come?”
Posted by Gemma on 18th Mar at 7:39PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'd like to have an orgasm, but I don't seem to have any. My boyfriend thinks he isn't giving me enough pleasure, but I feel really good, but it's just never happened, can anyone help me?”
Posted by Jessica on 11th Mar at 8:30PM (flag as inappropriate)
The Other week me and my boyfriend tryed Oral Sex we started it on me.. as he got into it a felt a strange yet enjoyable feeling in my cliterus it was like a tingleing feeling and it got stronger then passed after it passed i felt tierd and relaxed. did i reach orgasm ?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 10th Mar at 10:10AM (flag as inappropriate)
So, I've had orgasms many time, by masturbation and once from anal sex, but what I REALLY want to know is how and when do girls ejaculate? I heard it's from g-spot orgasm, but my boyfriend and I both don't know how to find it! What does it feel like when he's on it? I'd really like to know. We're both very interested in this. Thanks!”
Posted by Katy on 10th Mar at 6:12AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 18 and have had quite a lot of sexual experience. I have had quite a few long term partners which have eventually become sexual partners. I have had sex with 2 lads with small penises and 3 with big penises and i can honestly say that size doesn't matter.
I have been able to reach orgasm since being 12 years old and have experimented with my own body a lot. I always find that clitoral orgasms are the best for me, and find that sex is better with me on top as it also stimulates my clit. however its always good to compromise in the bedroom! also lubricant helps as it makes things more comfortable, and some are good for massage too!!
I am now single and have been for 8 months but still have a very healthy sex life with myself.
Remember to always use condoms to stay safe! you will be able to get them free and confidentially from your local family planning clinic.”
Posted by Anna on 5th Mar at 2:53AM (flag as inappropriate)
I have orgsimed on my own and with my partener but on a few occasions i have wet my self but i feel i do not need to wee and feel as if i am cuming i have always had a weck blader and was wondering how i could stop my self from wetting myself when my g spot is sitmulated”
Posted by kerry on 4th Mar at 9:02PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 16 and have only ever experienced clitoral orgasms with my boyfriend, i have never had a g-sot orgasm, but i was just wondering if anyone could tell me how you can ejaculate cum or why?”
Posted by Tanya on 18th Feb at 11:46PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am 17 and in a long term relationship. i have a orgasm and come everytime i have sex. if you underneith all you have to do is push you body up so that you can feel the penis on the clit and you should experience a orgasm. when masturbating i orgasm but i don't come, why is this?”
Posted by layla on 18th Feb at 1:12AM (flag as inappropriate)
I can relate to where Michelle is coming from about sex being uncomfortable and stinging...I'm in a long term relationship with my partner and the first few months we had fantastic sex and always achieved orgasm sometimes multiple now 2 years later i rarely orgasm and when i do its not as intense intercourse is often uncomfortable and stings afterward sometimes. Ive been tested many times for ST I's and i always get clean results can anyone shine any light on this?”
Posted by Emma on 14th Feb at 5:12PM (flag as inappropriate)
i found that when having sex with my boyfriend, i had a better orgasm if we were in the '69' position during forplay, this way i was already feeling sensitive by the time he penetrated me and was also then able to have multiple orgasms through intercourse aswell.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 9th Feb at 12:06AM (flag as inappropriate)
hi when im having sex with my boyfrind of 8 years when i think iv come but nothing come out of me is this normal or not”
Posted by louise on 31st Jan at 5:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
is the clitorus a stimulator?”
Posted by jack on 29th Jan at 11:01AM (flag as inappropriate)
ive been sexually active for quite a while now but none of my boyfriends have ever been able to make me reach orgasm, i can do it myself through clitoral stimulation but both me and my boyfriend are getting frustrated, we've alot of techniques and position but nothing seems to work. is there anything i can suggest to him?”
Posted by danielle on 26th Jan at 11:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have experienced an orgasm many times but this is through clitorial masterbation,during sex with my boyfriend sex with my boyfriend have never experienced this and was wondering is ther any techniques i could use to help this?”
Posted by amy on 14th Jan at 7:41PM (flag as inappropriate)
i mainly get orgasms during clitoris stimulation, and occasionally i mainly find being on top helps aswell. i've never really experienced them any other way, and my boyfriend kept getting annoyed that he couldn't make me cum. but i'm not intirely sure if women do cum. do they?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 28th Dec at 5:39AM (flag as inappropriate)
Women do produce discharge, some people more than others. for the lass who cannot reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation or penetrative... try different positions or if you are using your fingers for clitoral stimulation then make sure your clitoras has got bigger and try using one hand to hold and closing your legs a little usually makes it seem bigger which gives more feeling.”
Posted by sally on 15th Dec at 4:07AM (flag as inappropriate)
i have had 3 sexual partners i am 21, and i have never had a orgasm, i am in a great relationship right now for the last 2 years and he does not know that”
Posted by charlie on 11th Dec at 9:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had my first orgasm at the age of 17 through masturbation. I've only ever cum once during penetrative sex and all my orgasms are clitorial and not G spot. I really feel for women who've never had an orgasm, it's the best feeling ever!”
Posted by Michelle on 5th Dec at 5:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
Nothing beats age and experience and education. My advice to men like Niall is to get yourself educated about this. Read proper books on the subject of sexuality(and I don't mean the boys mags!) so that you learn about a woman's physiology.There are lots of good texts in places like Waterstones.Don't be embarrassed about buying them..this subject is too important for that. Remember also that talking to your partner is really crucial in finding out what she wants and likes. Also remember women can take much longer to come than men...in my experience, anything from 15 minutes to an hour so remember, men patience is everything!!! For those women who come on top it's because in that position the man's cock makes more contact with the front wall of the woman's vagina and her clitoris hence more stimulation. Once again any sensible book on sexual positions will tell you the advantages or otherwise of each position. One other thing I would say is how important lots of foreplay is...take time to get into the mood... woman like that...enjoying sex with your partner is the important thing...orgasm is just the icing on the cake.”
Posted by Phil on 1st Dec at 10:52AM (flag as inappropriate)
i often need a wee when having sex doggy style :-S and after having my orgasm from oral i get really senstive down below strate after and can feel it twitching.. sort of :-S. and i mainly get an orgasm being on top but i fink thats because as im moving its rubbing agaisnt my clit.?”
Posted by Zoe on 26th Nov at 1:54PM (flag as inappropriate)
Sometimes in sex i get a really, really good feeling but i dont know if it is an orgasm cause i dont cum.! if i dont cum it aint noticable like the girls in porn Lol. But i hardly ever get it during sex i have to be feeling really horney before i have sex to get it but i always gett it during oral for some reason. Weird.?”
Posted by Zoe on 26th Nov at 1:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
im worries i dont now how a girl masturbate and dont no how u have an orgasm. plz help me any1”
Posted by Rebecca on 23rd Nov at 10:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
hiya after watching this video i have now realised that i have never had an orgasm, i would love to have one and my boyfriend thinks its him not pleasuring me enough, he does every thing with me and nothing still works i was just wondering if u could help me or have any suggestions, or am i just one ov those unlucky 16% ov people that cant orgasm? Thanx”
Posted by holly on 22nd Nov at 12:40PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 46 and have never had an orgasm. I was pleased to read that someone was 48 before achieving orgasm. So maybe there's hope. I'm currently having psychosexual counselling. Is there anyone who's been through similar counselling and achieved success?”
Posted by Jenny on 21st Nov at 6:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been with my boyfriend for 7years and have only ever slept with him. About two years ago i had my first orgasm but it was through foreplay(fingers)My biggest problem is that whilst i am having sex it stings and it really hurts. How can i stop it from hurting so that i can start to enjoy it and why can't i orgasm by having sex”
Posted by Michelle on 20th Nov at 8:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
im 17 yrs old & im not a virgin i have not been a virgin for only 1 year. i have tried everything from missionary to elephant postion and nothing seems to work im not having any type of orgasms yet. my current boyfriend thinks something is wrong like he has a small penis but i guess that is half my fault because i asked if he penitrated yet and he said yes for about 10 min. Does this mean im never gonna have a pleasurable experience EVER!!!!!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 18th Nov at 5:29PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 16 and recently had sex with my girlfirend (with a condom of course). The best thing to do is to explore your girlfriend/boyfrien ds sexual parts before sex. Let him/her have a play with them first and communicate with your partner and tell him/her where you like being 'played with'. Then when you're ready you should put your contraception on if you want. You can still feel sex through contraception so don't worry.”
Posted by Luke on 18th Nov at 4:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
i am not experiens for sex i am indian for ditel (hindi)only your side veri experiense thanks”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 18th Nov at 3:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
I agree that the video is rather on the 'factual' side and it might not help girls/women differentiate between really good sexual stimulation and actual orgasm (otherwise known as climax).
I myself was not certain for years whether or not I was able to cum - I knew that being masturbated and given oral (cunnilingus) by my husband felt great but did not seem to reach a definite 'peak'. I had never been into masturbating myself but felt I owed it to myself to find out once and for all if I was able to orgasm...
I found a leaflet that explained that it is important to relax, take your time, see whether you like using a vibrator/ dildo inside to give a sensation of 'fullness', and find out what sort of touching you like - and to persist. I found that even though it didn't feel orgasmic straight away, after about 5-10 minutes I could feel pleasureable sensations building and kept going until I came... I would best describe my clitoral orgasm as feeling as though my vagina is 'drawing-up' or 'tightening' until the peak is reached which is a series of waves through my vagina.
I have since found with my partner's help that I am able to have clitoral, G-spot (from which I sometimes ejaculate) and anal orgasms.”
Posted by Charlotte on 13th Nov at 6:27PM (flag as inappropriate)
I think ther r so many women that wory bout never havin an orgasm, nd ther is no need. Its normal. Nd so many guys feel unadequete, dnt its normal. I hav expierencd an orgasm nd my god. Haha. bt i dnt everytym i hav sex. Standing up i strongly advis. Th key to gud sex is leting her knw ur emotinaly in it nd 4 th girls jus fake it theyl never kñow.”
Posted by Alesha on 8th Nov at 11:57AM (flag as inappropriate)
helloo how do you find your g spot
i do not think i have one :S
thanks x”
Posted by gina on 7th Nov at 9:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
ive slept with 3 lads and i havent had a orgasm yet .. is there something wrong with me ? x”
Posted by kellie on 7th Nov at 7:38PM (flag as inappropriate)
can you have sex with out starting your period and what is feamle masterbation? xx ”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 7th Nov at 4:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
women definately do cum, if you are asking how do you know if you have cum, and you are unsure wether you have or not, then you havent. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years who i lost my virginity to and he didnt make me cum for a long time. But when i did cum it was amazing. i can only cum when he is on top. it just doesnt work any other position. So you will know when you have cum. i asked the same question when i first started having sex but then you will find out. When a girl has multiple orgasms it basically means you are having a good time. That is an amazing thing to have during sex. Only women can have multiple orgasms.. they are great!”
Posted by Heidi on 5th Nov at 10:36PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had my first orgasm by touching myself, i learnt about my body by been curious. Its the best way. If you find out yourself then you know what you like.”
Posted by Kate on 4th Nov at 1:08AM (flag as inappropriate)
My name is thomas, i used to be with a girl. we used to have sex on a regular basis, but i could never satisfy her. we split recently because of this. i have now found someone else but im scared that she will leave me because i cant satisfy her either. please help!”
Posted by Tom on 3rd Nov at 11:20PM (flag as inappropriate)
For anyone who does not know how to orgasm or doesn't know what one is - If you've never had one and worry that maybe you're dysfunctional you should try getting there on your own; i know it feels odd and slightly wrong but ultimately youu're doing it for your own pleasure and it will help you feel better about the entire affair. Don't give up if you find it hard, eventually you'll discover a way you didn't know existed and in my experience you will surprise yourself! You know you're having an orgasm because you can feel your muscles involuntarily spasm, sounds awful but it's a wonderful feeling. Better if you're with a partner because you're so greatful to them for making you feel that way. Having numerous sexual partners in an attempt to find someone who will make you orgasm isn't very helpful, you have to know your own body the same way you know your partners. It's worth striving for, but it's also not the end of the world :) Contrary to popular oppinion!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 3rd Nov at 4:45PM (flag as inappropriate)
I just want to say, please don't anyone feel that there is something wrong with them or they're doing it wrong. Every woman is different and orgasming is something you learn not something that just happens! Masturbation is key to knowing what turns you on so don't be afraid to experiment without embarrassment, men arn't so why should we be! Also you shouldn't feel pressured to orgasm ASAP during sex, or even at all, especially as this will only make it more difficult. Sex can be equally enjoyable without orgasm as there is still much pleasure to be had as well as intimacy with a partner.
RE: only orgasming when on top, this is probably due to increased clitoral stimulation as you are in control and there is more contact.
I have to say I think if you have orgasmed you'll know about it as it is quite noticable, though doesn't need to be accompanied by screams and moans like in the films. It is basically a series of contractions in the vagina, if you are using penetration to masturbate you will be able to feel it.
Hope this helps someone at least, people are too shy!”
Posted by Lauren on 3rd Nov at 1:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 17 and have no idea how to masterbate, let alone have an orgasm. Im not sexually active yet i havent found the right person for me.”
Posted by Julie on 1st Nov at 10:11PM (flag as inappropriate)
As a 30-something married male, it doesn't get any easier... I sometimes feel inadequate that I don't make my wife come that often. I find this article reassuring. Different positions help. Taking my partner from behind usually stimulates the G-spot more than the missionary position. If she is on-top she will surely come, though she finds this painful sometimes.”
Posted by Bill on 30th Oct at 10:37PM (flag as inappropriate)
This def helped alot- I've only ever had an orgasm once with my ex and thought that was unusual, as I thought it should happen more often. I now don't feel so humiliated when I don't manage to have one :)”
Posted by Rebecca on 30th Oct at 2:01PM (flag as inappropriate)
I had no idea how difficult it is to orgasm but I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one. I can during foreplay, masturbation etc but never from sex. I'm relaxed, happy and in a relationship... why can't I orgasm during sex?”
Posted by Gemma on 30th Oct at 12:16AM (flag as inappropriate)
why do we apparently orgasm when touched round our G-spot? where is my G-spot? x”
Posted by Vickie on 30th Oct at 12:11AM (flag as inappropriate)
I have been with my fiance for quiet some time now and we have sex on a regular basis, he has been able to give me a clitoral orgasm most times but i have never achieved a vaginal one even though we have tried many different positions. this makes him feel inadequate but i explained that it doesn't always happen for everybody so we are happy with that at the moment until the right time comes. I have also had the experience that when i am on top i come closer to reaching an orgasm but i think that it is simply because his penis is rubbing the front of my vagina which is more sensitive. Oh and i also would like to agree that masturbation is important, when you know how your own body works it makes everything much easier and more pleasurable. :)”
Posted by Kim on 29th Oct at 10:34PM (flag as inappropriate)
I used to think that i had experienced an orgasm until my first proper one!
I was in a loving and trusting relationship, which always helps. I felt comfortable, relaxed and unrushed. My partner was really shocked when i first experienced it as it was unlike anything i have ever felt! Afterwards i feel really relaxed and well, 'spaced out' is how he describes it!”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 29th Oct at 9:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi i done not get a orgasm at all what can i do about it i gaet relly up set about it”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 29th Oct at 9:10PM (flag as inappropriate)
i'm 25 and have orgasim'd once in my life, when i lost my virginiy.
i have tried so many techniques. my partner and myself are very open and i just cant orgasim even when i'm fully relaxed. any tips? and is this normal”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 29th Oct at 8:43PM (flag as inappropriate)
Hi Im Just Your Normal 17 Year Old Girl.Iv Bin With My BoyFriend For 4 Years And Have Never Had An Orgasm Through Sex. What Can I Do Becuase I Enjoy Sex But Would Like To Find Away To Enjoy It More. Iv Heard Things Like You Can Be Born With Out A G.Spot Is This True? And Its Not As If My Boyfriends Penis Is Too Small. Please Give Me Some Edvice. Thanx”
Posted by Leonie on 28th Oct at 9:30AM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never had an orgasim wen i hve sex how can u help do u hve any ideas dat can help have an orgasim while having sex”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 28th Oct at 12:19AM (flag as inappropriate)
i fid it really hard to have orgasms! is there something wrong with me???”
Posted by abbey on 26th Oct at 9:23PM (flag as inappropriate)
I only orgasm when I masturbate and it only takes 5 minutes. My boyfriend of three years made me orgasm once, and it was incredible to have someone else do it, this was from him giving me oral sex in the shower. I think maybe I was less uptight there because I felt clean. It hasn't happened since but I really don't mind because our sex is amazing and as long as I can masturbate, I won't go insane. :]
Also, loads of girls here are like 'How do you know it's happened?'... well you know because it feels amazing, your whole body tenses up and for like 3 seconds you're in heaven. If something like that didn't happen, you didn't orgasm.”
Posted by Holly on 26th Oct at 3:55PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm 18 and never had an orgasm, but I've never known what one feels like. how will I know when i do and how can i increase my chances of having one?”
Posted by Rosie on 26th Oct at 1:49PM (flag as inappropriate)
What happened to the video about "female sexual health" and female STI tests? To be honest we had about 6 or 7 male STI tests on the show but how women get tested still remains a mystery.”
Posted by Simon on 26th Oct at 9:06AM (flag as inappropriate)
Im 15, and not worried about having sex because ive always said i want to wait till im 16. i think i'm ready know even though i don't want to do it yet for morral reasons. However i feel a bit awkward about the thought of 'fingering' myself. is this because i havent had sex, n will this change once someone else has doen this to me. Some of my friends that havent had sex have done it to themselves to 'explore', so it it unnormal to feel this way ?”
Posted by Katy on 26th Oct at 12:34AM (flag as inappropriate)
i cum regularly and can several times during sex. I have had many orgasms through experimenting with myself and partner then passing it on. you need to tell them wat to do. u get a better climax when ur on top as ur being touched in the correct place.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 26th Oct at 12:32AM (flag as inappropriate)
i find that i can only come if i relax, we both stop talking and just take a long time on it. my boyfriend, bless him, is prepared to put in the time but we just try not to think about and then i do. so my advice is stop worrying cuz if your all tense it doesnt happen so just relax.”
Posted by laura on 25th Oct at 4:21PM (flag as inappropriate)
ive never been able to expiernce an orgasam or been able to cum! and now it is frustrating me be yound belief.if their anythink ppl can do to help urself ?”
Posted by gemma on 24th Oct at 11:13PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am 18 years old. I have only been sexually active since March. Me and my bf were both virgins when we met. I have had quite a few orgasms and they are truly amazing! However I can only get them when I am on top of him. When he goes on top of me, as much as I enjoy it I don't get as much pleasure.”
Posted by Beth on 24th Oct at 3:53PM (flag as inappropriate)
well after watching that video i naw no i have never had one lol. ive been told that climaxing and having an orgasm feel like 2 diffrent things. id love to have one, i have a parnter and he does try alot of things but nothing works, i think im just one of the 16% whos unlucky.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 22nd Oct at 8:44PM (flag as inappropriate)
well, i've always wondered, how do you know when you're having an orgasm?
Thanks.
kate (45)”
Posted by KATE on 21st Oct at 1:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
Sorry but this is way too coy to be useful! If you didn't know how to experience orgasm before, you certainly won't afterwards.
You should also tell girls about the importance of masturbation. Most boys do it naturally and without a second thought - so that they know exactly how to reach a climax. But many girls do not - and so they don't know how to reach orgasm. Everyone is different, and masturbation is the best way of learning how you need to be touched. Your guidance will be of enormous help to your partner -- you'll be able to tell him (or her) what to do!”
Posted by Alison on 19th Oct at 7:16PM (flag as inappropriate)
my girlfriend hasn't ever had an orgasm and i'm worried that i'm inadequate. is there anything i can do?”
Posted by niall on 15th Oct at 8:03PM (flag as inappropriate)
At 25 I have had 15 different partners, 4 of which were long term relationships and I have only ever experienced an orgasm from 2 of them all by stimulating the clitoris. As a couple we have experimented with my G-spot, which is pleasurable, but never amounts in orgasm. Most of the guys have been frustrated at not being able to get me to orgasm that way, but I really just enjoy having sex with my partner, being with them and orgasming through clitoral stimulation. Men really shouldn't worry about finding the 'g-spot' and being worried that they're not doing something right. Because every girl's different. it works for some, not for all”
Posted by Rebecca on 15th Oct at 5:50PM (flag as inappropriate)
well i really want to have sex but i am a lesbian and i am not to sure what to do please help! My girlfriend is trying to get me in bed but i am not yet clued up!”
Posted by Felicia on 15th Oct at 4:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
My boyfriend is rarely able to make me orgasm; only I can. It's difficult because he's trying to please me but feels inadequate! So I showed him how to do it; don't be afraid, he will not be offended, only glad he can see you happy!”
Posted by Louise on 15th Oct at 1:24PM (flag as inappropriate)
how can i tell where the G-spot is and what is the G-spot.”
Posted by demi on 15th Oct at 7:17AM (flag as inappropriate)
Iv heard that women can come but wasnt sure how and what it actually is. it this correct???”
Posted by Emily on 14th Oct at 9:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never had an orgasm before i dont even get pleasure :(”
Posted by Eden on 14th Oct at 8:28PM (flag as inappropriate)
hi im 17 and i can only ever seem to orgasm when i am on top. i dont enjoy any other position as i cant climax. i dont know what is wrong with me. is there any1 else like this?”
Posted by lana on 14th Oct at 8:15PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am surprised that no1 else has commented on this topic, well here goes! I am 19 and in a happy relationship with my partner of 3 years. The sex has always been great, and i do orgasm. However, it always seems i only ever orgasm when i am on top. Why is this? Is he doing it wrong or is it just me?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Oct at 8:14PM (flag as inappropriate)
what does it mean when a girl has multiple orgasms?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Oct at 8:08PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am a straight female(16) when i had sex when i was with my former boyfriend i felt like a needed to wee when we was having sex i went to the loo but didnt need a wee could that have been a begining of an orgasm?”
Posted by Emma on 14th Oct at 8:06PM (flag as inappropriate)
its very difficult for me to orgasm! only 3 times in my life and only from a vibrator! and ive been sexually active for almost 7 years! what is wrong with me?”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Oct at 8:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
I have had a few sexual parteners and only one has ever acctually made me have an orgam and he was a one night stand.”
Posted by [No first name supplied] on 14th Oct at 8:05PM (flag as inappropriate)
'Scuse me. But how exactly do you have an orgasm? Like, toys or fingers? Or.. whatever. Im so confused. I've tried fingers but it's not exactly working. Help?”
Posted by Stacey on 14th Oct at 8:00PM (flag as inappropriate)
Full orgasm illuded me until I was 48, although i regularly experienced ejaculation with my husband. I was alone one evening after working very hard and was tired but felt aroused by a recent encounter. I started to masturbate which was a new experience and had the first real orgasm of my life, it was life changing. Since then I have got to know my body and how I can orgasm and I have transferred this knowledge to my husband. I now orgasm regularly and only wish I had masturbated earlier in my life to actually find out about my own body.”
Posted by Susan on 14th Oct at 7:59PM (flag as inappropriate)
i have never orgasmed! please help! ive tried penis penetration n clitoral! but it doesnt work! HELP!”
Posted by laura on 14th Oct at 7:58PM (flag as inappropriate)
I'm female, 16, i think i have experienced a few orgasms but during foreplay how do i know if i have?”
Posted by Lauren on 14th Oct at 7:57PM (flag as inappropriate)
can women cum? and how much should it be?”
Posted by francesica on 14th Oct at 7:56PM (flag as inappropriate)
I've had sex 12times. but each time i haven't felt anything. Sometimes I don't even feel the penis inserting. I'm just wondering if there's anything that I should be worried about.”
Posted by jane on 14th Oct at 7:52PM (flag as inappropriate)
Most women cum from clitoral stimulation. Some will come without even touching it. Each woman is slightly different, you just got to see how she reacts.
Making a woman cum isn't rocket science.”
Posted by Tim on 14th Oct at 5:37PM (flag as inappropriate)